Moving to a new city. Right next to the downtown area. Building a circle from scratch at 30. I work graveyard 1am-10am during the week.

Just got out of a 5 year LTR. Out of practice so looking for advice/comments:

Last night my friend and I met up with a coworker of his and her friend. My friend goes up and starts talking to the friend so I’m talking to his co worker. We had met before and had some chemistry but she was semi standoffish last night. Closed off what have you

Then friend goes and gets a drink at the bar and offers me one. I accept and he asks me to come with him, I assumed for help carrying drinks. Then he keeps talking to me at the bar and I didn’t realize till afterwards but he was terrified of talking to the girl he had feelings for. It was already later in the night (as he had played bar tag with them idk why) so when we went back we couldn’t find them.

Basically, what started promising ended up super awkward. I want to get back with her in a different situation and connect better but I’m not sure the next move. I do have her number from the first time.

My thought is to just pretend nothing was weird, assume she was standoffish because she was nervous, and text her today either something flirty along the lines of “was fun talking to you for 2 minutes last night” or just a text trying to hang out one on one somewhere nicer.

I likely know the answer to this but I'd like it confirmed to shake off the last of that 'I don't want to offend/be a creep shame conditioning thing'

I was having a massage in Vietnam, a reputable one not the happy ending kind. And the girl was giggling like a school girl at everything I said. Called me handsome man (unconscious blurting out the truth) in broken English and there was a bunch of excess touching (I get she's a masseuse, just trust me) she was really, really into me.

I tried my best flirting back, there was resistance in my mind at each stage but I was calm and tried to experience it fully to gauge where I'm at with this thing. The most I was able to work up to other than verbal flirting was grabbing her hand and comparing it to mine, this escalation was also met positively, they have freakishly small hands.

If I'm not painting the scene effectively you may have to just assume that it was on the table, I'd never consider something that ballsy without clear signage. Basically I felt like if I took the chance, I could have fucked her there and then. Or if the logistics wouldn't have worked for that then at least some more intimate touching. I could have grabbed her to kiss her or/then placed her hand on my dick if that went well.

Thoughts? I know because of the red pill that she was sending out extreme iois, and that she wanted it. But something was stopping me even though I knew It'd likely be successful. I don't think it was fear of rejection unless it's quite buried from my consciousness. More didn't want to be inappropriate...even though with what I know now that it would have been appropriate given the signs. The concept of 'you're the man, you need to escalate and take action for things to progress' thing hasn't settled fully.

Context: (not a humble brag) very attractive guy with a bit of a shitty past so don't yet have the confidence that brings. I understand that what I was thinking was a hell of a power play but I'm trying to settle into myself. I feel as if with the attention I get I can get away with things like that, it just hasn't clicked into place yet that I can and that's what I'm trying to achieve. It seems more uncommon for a girl to not check me out than otherwise.

New rp student here.Long story short,my main issue with women is that unless I find them interesting,which I rarely do,I cannot keep up a conversation for the life of me.I had some great long term relationships,but I have a huge problem getting casually laid.Any book or post recommendation with simple 1-2-3 steps on that would be appreciated

Thanks in advance

22-year old here. Taking the pill for about 2 years now, since the break up with my first real gf. Had some ons since then, but none of them really mattered. Anyways im having this issue, of wanting really bad to fuck girls, but at the same time hating that same fact. I also stoped mastrubating a year ago, and didnt have sex since last july. So that makes matters much worse. Anyways, my problem is that i want to fuck everything that moves, and then once the opurtunity presents itself and girls give me clear iois i just tell myself to not fuck her and reject her, because im affraid shes gonna reject me anyway. I know its hard to understand but its starting to really fuck up my life. I try to make my work and lifting and money my priority. The girls come secondary, but the urge to fuck is really strong lol. Also im introverted and never make a real attempt to hit on girls, but they like me anyways. I have some girls who are dtf right now a 6 and 7-ish, but i dont want to kinda do that to myself, like i want the best, not someone who chases me, get it? I think the dry spell really fucked me up, and the last time i had sex i had to stop because my head was fucking with me, didnt even cum..i dont really understand my problem, but im curious if anyone had anything similar?

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I went to meet a friend at this high end restaurant in a 5 star hotel, saw some 8/9s hitting on old pilots at the bar. It made me mentally puke and I kept feeling angry until I read the post about different stages of redpill and realised I'm stuck on stage 2.5 (anger before swallowing the pill)!

How did you swallow the pill and positively direct this anger?

Yesterday made a little party in my flat as I have new flatmate, who is my good friend. But this is our only second or third party together. He (25 y.o.) invited some girls, about 7, some boys and I (22 y.o.) some boys and 2 girls. But the meritum is - he is average looking, short and shy, even in this party i had to do some things like calming down people cause he was too shy. And he ended up with two girls literally falling on him - ended with one on the bed, as it is morning i dont know how it was. But this is impressive and it lets me down cause we have familiar game and I am taller and was clothed better, but even with it, any IOI’s from women and their sexual sign of interest when hitting them up, and he ends party getting laid. What the fuck i am doing wrong?

Not sure how to exactly phrase this. I feel kinda sad at this point. Every girl I had somewhat of a connection with (gf, just friends, etc.) It all just ends up with arguing and eventually break up. I want to know what im doing wrong. Can someone help me out or coach me through texting game? I feel really hopeless. Chee

I've noticed that lots of girls hang around girls similar or exactly the same to each other. If a girl hangs with fat chicks she eventually becomes a fat chick, girls with certain attitudes etc. Like as if they would disagree on anything they wouldn't spend any time together.

Can someone help me on this thought. Become friends with a girl you don't mind being around with a body you really like, and meet and fuck her friends. Can someone let me know what they think of this? I could see it backfiring but if you friendzone her first and your value is high enough, I don't see how this wouldn't be great access to a group of girls with body types that you like. Playing devil's advocate to myself I figure it'd be easier to find an activity you like that gets girls with the body type you're interested in going to it and just become the best at that.

How can I overcome laziness?

Is there a set of principles for this subgroup and your ideas about life? I'm 23 and I'm coming to a conclusion now that the majority of humans are selfish, ignorant creatures. I joined different sporting clubs in an attempt to.be a part of a group and better myself, but even there none of the guys gave a shit about getting to.Know me or.hang out despite my attempts to know them. They were just motivated by there own personal glory.

Anyone got some general points to.share with me?

22yo still swallowing the pill. Switched up everything when I started. Lift 4 days on 1 day off with huge improvement of my mood, work life and social life. Watch a bunch of RSD videos, avidly checking the thread. Always been an extrovert so approach works for me. I just can't close, early in nights going out I speak to groups make a bunch of new "friends" but when I know she's interested I still can't close. I feel that it's I'm to pushy or sometimes to hesitant. How can I secure the close?

Also looking for some book recommendations.

I am neither shy nor anxious, but when i speak to people i don't know i draw a blank on what to say. I am pretty much anti-social, and I generally feel a lack of interest in what most people say, unless it is directly related to my passions. I usually only put effort into relationships that directly or indirectly benefit me, and don't find much enjoyment in conversations. Does anyone have suggestions on building conversational skills. I have already read the books on the side bar.

Met a girl at an event, she has a boyfriend. He seemed insecure, always kissing her and I got impression he irritates her.

We went out twice, second time at her place, she cooked me a dinner. I didn't do kino since she intentionally kept a space between us, but in the end I tried to kiss her, got rejected.

She seems to have more male friends, as a beta orbiters, I guess. I think she really wants me only as a friend as well and actually I am fine with that, because I had a good time and could train communication.

So I am thinking of befriending her (if she would want to meet again, after my move), because I could benefit from it having more social interactions and I am not in love with her or something I just needed to try, to not feel bad for not trying.

Is it a good idea to befriend her?

I had always opinion there are no male - female friendships and think it is a general opinion here, but I think I would really benefit from having her as a friend and if I would have some strong feelings towards her I would for sure break a contact with her.

I have a plate. I acquired her by cucking a guy from my workplace, she worked there too. Yep, I'm changing job in next month, so I kinda have it under control. Lately she left the guy and moved alone into a flat (she wanted to move into my place, but I said fuck no). I assumed from the start that she is a hypergamous hoe I did not expect exclusivity from her. Also I'm not the first one she cheated on with, but she became obsessed with me enough to leave the guy in my case. Chemistry was amazing, she's was willing to fuck, I had semi-controlled oneitis for her. I introduced her to my circle of friends. She's this kind of slutty girl so she would talk openly about propositions of swinging with a couple of my friends, or getting into a threesome with my best pal. I never tried such stuff so I was like "well, maybe, we will se how this turns out". I was talking with my pal about that and he was also semi ok with it but not sure. One night she tried to blackmail me when we were out together saying "I'm not coming to your place tonight without him" which I responded something like "then fuck off, go home", because this was simple blackmail shit test. I could go for threesome but not the way that would make me look like a submissive bitch. The problem occurred when there was only me and the pal in a pub and we invited her to talk and chill with us. She started hitting on him openly, completely ignoring and disregarding me. Immediately I chilled and distanced myself which resulted in them both flirting and ignoring me as I held little chance to participate into their convo. I held frame nevertheless and distanced myself for the rest of the evening even when she noticed my discontent and tried to get touchy with me. In the end we all came back through subway, I asked her if she wants me to walk her home which she refused. At that point I had IDGAF attitude and told my bro to walk her home then because it was late at night and he lived closer to her station. I won't protect low value pussy from a pal, I let them go. Not much longer he texted me that she tried to invite him into her flat but he refused because bros before hoes. He had no reason to lie because I already told him that at this point IDGAF as one should demote the bitch for such behavior and go next. Bro and respect points nevertheless. So now she is reaching out to me again, as I started limiting contact. I confronted her that hitting on my pal in my presence and trying to fuck him while sending me home was shit move and we will be just friends from this point, but she went really emotional and still keeps nagging, texting and calling me. We even had sex 2 times after this but it was not as great as before.

The problem is that she is still needy towards me, and down to fuck (she also wants to fuck the pal tho and probably over 9000 different men too), but she is disrespecting me and I'm not sure If I should turn a blind eye on that for exchange for pussy. I also no longer feel this cool chemistry and thirst for experimenting as she basically cannot perform it without putting me in a role of a bitch cuck.

Basically, am I insecure and unreasonably jealous/easily offended expressing scarcity mentality and fear of polygamy and adventure, or am I avoiding becoming a fucking cuck organizing dates for her with my own pals she will fuck then behind my back. But what did I expect from the start as I knew she's a hoe. Maybe someone can set my mind straight in this mess.

Is this thread still alive? If so, I have a question on the fitness field.

I have seen Jeff Cavalier speaking about how Bulking and Cutting is a myth, and it makes sense (evolutionary even), but I've been told it's bullshit. If somebody can tell me what their experiences on this are, please let me know of them; thanks in advance!

I am afraid of people pointing out or noticing my pursuit of women. I am a little embarassed about people around me finding out I am dating. I feel like if they find out theyd want to meet her or ask questions which Id rather not answer. For now I tell people Im not dating, but even around family Id rather have them not know so much. It seems irrational to hide it but I cant help but feel like I have to. How do I get rid of the embarassment feeling?

How do I amass respect and command in my friend group? I've been a super bluepill bitch up until a month or two ago when I was shown this subreddit. Im not sure if Im doing it wrong or if my friends are just reacting negatively to my changes, but I keep getting a lot of shit and getting in arguments, usually where 13 people gang up on me in a groupchat and overwhelm me.

Im a 23 yo grad student at a 14000 sized college in the south. Im 6' 2" black and chubby but played offensive line all through highschool so frame os that of a big guy more than fat. Facial hair makes me look 30 if its a goatee or 25 in a moustache. I can be imposing until i open my mouth and talking to females of all races isnt a problem. I have more free time this semester and want to start gaming girls here. Is the my age gonna be a problem with 18-22 yo college girla or should I try to hit up locals at the local bar scene? Im starting to apply rp principles and dress better also. I have my own apartment off campus and my own car.

Hey guys I'm a 17 year old, obese, virgin, and I just recently discovered TRP. For the most part it makes sense, but it's a lot to take in at once. I've been working on losing weight for a couple months now, I'm watching my diet and I work out 3 times a week. Im still shy as all hell around girls my age so my question is what small steps can I take to improve my game. Thanks any advice helps.

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Where do the more experienced dudes meet their women?

It seems half the problem is just having access to girls for the most part

My main problem is social anxiety (I suppose) I am shy as shit and cannot talk to new people, besides I am introvert. I work a 8-5 job. Lift 5 times a week. I have 2 closest friends who are not redpill nor alpha.

I dont usually go out to parties, social stuff go out with people to bars, I have nobody to do that.

So wtf, how do I even talk?, I feel this barrier between and my coworkers (ugly, fat women in their 40-50s and old guys) what do i do? any help would be greatly appreciated.

I may not have read enough to know if my answer is right.. Every time i hear a woman say all men are the same, i have given them the response "if all men are the same, why dont you just pick one".. So if AWALT, just pick one, or none, is the answer i have given myself. Any veterans out there that might have a different answer or perspective, i would like your input.

As I've been reading TRP, I've come to realize I am a beta. I'm a 22-year-old virgin, who's switched his major plenty of times, and has yet to have a HB7+, or held a job that wasn't a complete student level low earning position. I, however, always lifted weights, sought knowledge, and continuously aimed to improve my life though discipline and self-improvement. Yet I always lacked that confidence around women and assertiveness around others. I always argued to myself, mainly to combat my cognitive dissonance, that I often display alpha traits--I'm not beta! But I continually display beta traits by never saying no to people, being quieter in groups, shy in approaching women, not standing up for my political views when others attack them in front of my face.

Have any of you perpetually lied to oneself? How did you feel once you understood the problem?

My last story is basically me approaching a girl I had in one of my classes through FB once the semester ended. I asked her for her number, and a date. Keep in mind, she is overweight (huge ass) and not as attractive. I asked her out at night, thinking with my dick, and without hinderance succeeded in scheduling an ice skating date.

She messaged me on the date, and I rain checked to a future date with a lame ass excuse realizing I had completely fucked up. She followed up, and I, like a complete beta, ghosted her. I followed up with a text, apologizing 2 months later, like a beta, with no reply from her end. Now I'm starting classes again, and am terrified that she may be in my classes. I literally walk around observant of my surroundings to avoid contact with her at all costs.

How ridiculous am I being? What the fuck is wrong with me, TRP?

29 years old.

Friends growing apart due to marriage, rut, old unsolved problems and me trying to not fall back to old, omega days.

I’m being picky about hanging out with people after self-improving through reading quality books and lifting, I don’t have the patient for most people around me, it feels lonely although I’m pushing myself as much as I can (1 year imperfect monk mode and unemployment), applying to jobs and got two interviews last week, hoping for the best.

Plan to travel before getting married, hate how modern marriage in richer countries is all about consumerism and image, I’d like to settle down in a farm or with a small cafe/restaurant the traditional way, as I’m also having the babymake itch.

Any advice for a late bloomer like me?

Hello guys I need some advice: Im currently 21yr Polish male, I'm still living with my parents (very religous), small town. I really want to spin plates but I need to keep the cover of "righteus man" because I'm a beekeper who sells his products from home to home. If ppl see that I'm a player they will not buy from me wich is a big deal. How do I keep the cover of "nice guy" when simultaneously spinning plates? Second question linked to first is: where to lay so nobody would know? My house is off the table, I'm preety average height 6,1 (184cm) and most of girls i pick up are 5,11 - 5,10 so back seat of my car ususaly wont do because its too small. Thanks for any advice on my problems and writing, I didnt have much practice writing since school days.

Anybody got any good tips for approaching girls in gyms? There’s a few girls who I’m always holding really strong eye contact with and get smiles back but usually I can’t be arsed to approach coz I’m too into my workout. But now feel I might be missing out on a couple of opportunities here

Suffering for a Woman I didn't Like

I was in a "relationship" with a woman 16 years older than me that literally suck my life out, unfortunately not with blowjobs. Initially I was impressed by her but after know her for a little while I found out she was completely different. 3 months passed and I feel more alone than ever, she gave me something big only to destroy it few hours later, it was exhausting. Yesterday I called her, telling her again how many things I miss and she doesn't provide. As usual, she blowed up and we definitely break up (gladly). I didn't love the woman, not even close, I only like a few aspects and hate all the other ones. And yet, I still hope for her return even if I don't want her to return, since the loop will resume. I guess this is not the case, since I feel this time is different, but well, the hope is still there. I gotta admit I have some personal issue, I tend to idealize girls and become attached to one without any single reason and fight till the end to make things work. This isn't right obv and this is a huge problem of mine that I have to tackle. I have pretty much all bad memories of the woman, but I'm still thinking her all day. I don't feel abandoned, I feel a huge void, I've invested a lot and I received pretty much nothing. Probably I'm feeling angry, not sad, because she treated me so badly countless times. I recognize this is most likely and ego issue and no love is involved. What do you think beside I'm still far to be unplugged?

Any merchant naval officers out there with TRP advice on plate spinning home and abroad? My issue is that 'Texting' as a whole is a poor choice of communication, especially where frame is concerned. Thus I have literally broken contact with every plate back home. Because it becomes pointless messaging them for no good reason once every month. I tried a broadcast list on whatsapp for every fun country i visit, but even that seems like pile on, which I dont think helps maintain frame. Those of you in LTRs can also tell me your experiences thus far!

Also, the language barriers are insane in some countries. Its hard not to be tempted to take an easy road and go to hookers (dime a dozen at each port) when you can barely get beyond ascertaining that the girl you are trying to pick up, does not in fact know english.

Would also appreciate inputs on various fitness and self improvement methods employed onboard where often we have to manage with just a shambolic treadmill for a gym, and whatever reserve books stock we have brought along with us.

Is it even possible to hit on gym employees? I see this girl on a daily basis and we lock eyes quite often but I can’t tell if it’s because of interest or she’s just “monitoring the gym” if you will.

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Did not want to cluster the mainpage and waited for this.

My very best friend since 12 years is in absolute Blue Pill Nirvana.

Married, 2 kids. Wife has turned to 120kg since they first met. Sex maybe 2 times a year. She is a dominat nature and my friend is a doer. He does everything while she sits on the couch and eats a shitload of feta cheese at 11pm...

He does not want to leave for the kids, which i can understand to some degree, so i tried to explain to him he needs to alpha up. She would actualy respond well to this based on her past.

But i am only a student hear and far from teaching.

Did anybody have a similar experience and has some advice how to help him out.

What is the TRP philosophy of cheating as a male? Are we not supposed to even get into relationships so it's a non-issue? Or... Don't do it, or do it but don't feel guilty because she is too...

18 y/o virgin here. I have almost everything in check. I am very muscular (200lbs for 6 foot), very big social circle and a goal. The only problem is that becuse i started going out at 17(games fucked me up) i am kinda clueless when it comes to girls. I met a skinny girl and we both want to have sex. My friends say thats a no no becuse i am a 7/10 (or something), and she is a 5.5/10(for me 6). I just want to get it over with so I have more balls when it comes to BH8 or HB9. My questions is : 1.,Do i have sex with her? (to get over the V card) 2.,Does having sex with "ugly" chicks lower your SMV?

I've been approaching many chicks lately, how do i stop getting excited when I've opening them, they don't get excited so it feels needy and weird on my behalf.

I’ve been in a LTR for 2.5 years. We are both 27. She loves me unconditionally and I feel like there’s no other woman out there who would make a better life partner than her. My only concern is the commitment itself - the proposal, the planning, the wedding, the marriage. I don’t want to give her up because she’s the best one I’ve ever had but I’ve also been sitting on the pot unsure how to take this to the next stage.

Part of me wants to fuck the hot 23 year olds again, but I don’t think it’s worth tossing aside what is the best partnership I’ve ever had. The other part of me wants to stick with her forever, but I worry that I’ll miss out on a key part of my life purely because I gave in to societal marriage pressure that I’ve been deep down trying to avoid.

Just a question regarding books. After you've just finished a book such as The way of the superior man, 48 laws of power, the obstacle is the way...(TRP related books), Do you write a summary for refreshing what you've just read and internalize the info? I usually underline with a pencil what I found to be the most important. Sorry for my english, I'm spanish.

Advice on plating women over 30. I am 25 and I just had a ONS with a 31yo HB9. Her personality is very good and I can see her moving up rank. She is moving to my city soonish so that's why I am considering the thought. Applied solid TRP knowledge from lurking and it finally paid off big with her.

Does anyone else who is an 8+ have difficult time getting 8s or 9s on Tinder to actually go on a date? My theory is that even if I am high SMV, high SMV females just get wayyy too much attention online where the odds are in there favor because many high value girls don't even resort to online use, especially at the age range I am trying to date (25 to 29 year olds primarily).

Also, does game change as girls age and mature and have fucked their share of Chads and wised up? I know AWALT and their basic judgments and motivations are the same , but does our game need to change in response to their increased experience, wisdom, and their potentially self-deceptive, "more mature motivations" ?

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When you are sitting at a desk, how do you seem confident? I always try to straighten my back, but I think it makes me look tense af.

This girl (hb 7)on the bus gave me an IOI and I approached and got her number. I set up a date with her also. But every time I try to tease her uing sarcasm or exaggeration she doesn’t understand it and I end up having to explain myself. This is the 3rd girl that I’ve gamed that is like this. It’s just annoying, so how do I tease girls like this?

18yo freshman in college and recent lurker of this sub.

I’ve read most of the posts on the sidebar in order to get a feeling of what this sub is all about and I couldn’t be happier to see a group of men (and possibly women) coming together to help others become more assertive, dominant and successful in their dating and personal life.

My question is: I’ve been talking and dating around since last semester and have been in many instances where we were making out in bed, dry stroking, and getting very very very close to having sex, but as soon we get to the point in which sex is almost inevitable, the girl stops me either with “I’m on my period.” (Which I think is a lie), “I‘m not ready for this yet.” or “I’m celibate.” (Yes, the last one did happen).

To give some context, I’ve only been practicing game for about 3 months and I’ve seen tremendous progress but it seems like women still don’t want to close with me.

Any insight on what could be the problem?

My LTR of 4.5 years knows that I am not really keen on marriage. She plays it off like she doesn’t care, but every now and then she makes little comments like ‘ I guess I’ll never have to worry about trying on a wedding dress’. Do you guys think this is going to lead to eventual trouble as many of she friends are slowly getting engaged.

I don’t want to get married... fuck that shit.

Also, do many red pill men condone cheating in LTRs? ( it seems many women don’t have a problem with cheating themselves) We have sex like once or twice a month.. im 24 BTW. I see so many ripe girls out there and it gets me a little edgy like in wasting my time... any thoughts would be appreciated.

When someone in the monk mode, should he try to improve his game in addition to the mode or should he just focus improve himself and market value without game?

Is it generally a good idea to reconnect with a girl from your blue pill past?

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Had the opportunity to talk to a solid 9 but goofed it. I've been lifting and working on myself and while my confidence has risen I'm still intimidated by 9s and 10s. Any advice from rp veterans?

Alright, so I'm a senior in college, last semester before I graduate. There's this girl in one of my classes I'm interested in, and I wanna know the best way to approach her. But first a little background about myself: I'm 22 and I consider myself at least above average in terms of looks. I'm relatively fit and I lift. I got over my fear of talking to girls I like some time ago, but now it's just an issue of location. I don't really go to a lot of social gatherings because of my busy schedule and difficult major, and I live on campus so I'm really just scouting out the girls on campus. Naturally there's not really any good opportunities to talk to them though, since most people on campus are busy doing something or going somewhere. Anyway, if I were to talk to the girl after class, I wanna know how to do so without it seeming creepy, since we literally don't know each other and we aren't at any sort of social gathering. I just wanna know how I can maximize my chances with a girl in this kind of situation. I'm not really a "player" so I don't just go girl to girl until one says yes. I also have pretty high standards which makes it even harder for me since it really limits the pool of girls that I'm interested in.

Hey TRP I recently discovered TRP and have read allot and for the most part it clicks.

But I also see lots of posts about not only reading but doing. Now my question is if you guys have any tips or tricks to create routine and internalize the TRP mentality?

Also I'm lifting, Journaling and try to be more proactive and get a IDGF attitude but I feel myself slipping every so often. Just my lazy side winning from the side that wants to be the better man any tips on controlling this? I think meditation might help but have allot of trouble doing and maintaining this.

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I've been a red pill (well trying my best) man for about a year and a half now. I've lost weight, know women for what they are etc. I know all the right stuff but have trouble implementing all of it at the same time as in one thing will suffer if I focus on something else. I have an addictive personality and am working through these issues. My main addiction atm is porn/masterbation. Been on a few streaks of nofap but none seem to go further than a week. I feel like my dopamine receptor thing is all to wack and would greatly appreciate some words of wisdom for a man slightly off path.

Thanks ????

Any advice with dealing with female co-workers? I work as an accountant and our department is full of girls in their twenties. I just recently had a meeting with a TL and a senior (both female, in their twenties) where the problem was that I've helped with an issue where the first point of contact should have been the senior (I'm the other senior there). What happened is that someone from a different department came straight to me for advice, basically ignoring her. I gave this person an advice and that's it. Still they tell me I should've just pointed to the senior and not said a thing. I told them - trying to use logic - that I only gave an advice, and that no decisions were made, that they will have to make that anyway. I'd say that basically the senior was upset that she got skipped and people asked me for help. After I told them my side of the story they just kept on repeating the same stuff. Part of me wanted to continue the argument and repeat what I said in a calm way but the larger part of me said that you don't really care about what they say and you just want to get out of the meeting room and do anything more productive. So I just said 'Ok' 3 times and they let me go. I don't know if there was a better way to handle it.

I've been RP aware for the past 3 years since finding this sub. My SMV is for the most part, high. I was in a top fraternity in university that put me in good social groups. I'm successful in work and am getting post grad job offers for great companies. I have a superb physique and worked as a model, my style is good. I alpha male with most of my groups and most guys follow my lead and ask for my advice. I get laid plenty but it is probably only based off of looks and status... this leads me to my question.

My social skills are extremely lacking. Well, let me rephrase that. I have pretty great social skills and am extremely gifted at being able to read people's intentions and their non verbal cues. This leads me to think I'm not on any sort of autism spectrum. I just can't hold conversations, especially with women. I'm great at interviewing and networking, so my conversation skills aren't really bad, but I just don't know what to talk about in a laid back social setting. I approach women, escalate, and get laid, but I think this all comes from my looks and status. If I was an average looking guy in a room of strangers I'd have no luck. Am I just autistic or is something else going on? I'm extremely narcissistic and really don't care about having conversations with people, but it is a means to an end and I'd like to improve.