I’m a generous guy—not just with women—generous… but not stupid. However, I realize that some of my habits, which I’ve repeated maybe a little too often, create a routine where she expects a certain kind of behavior.

For example, I’ve never met a woman who cooks, so since I like it, I’m happy to do it. The problem is that this creates a sort of imbalance. Sure, we can split the chores, but I don’t think washing dishes even comes close to me doing the grocery shopping, cooking with care, and so on.

Another example is paying when we go out; I want to emphasize that I don’t pay for dinners, but maybe a few drinks—nothing more. However, if this has happened more than once, the girl expects it to keep happening.

I have to be honest—I’m the one who has a hard time breaking this cycle. By now, I feel like there’s this unwritten agreement, and it feels strange to act differently. I have absolutely no idea where to start; maybe my early frame is wrong, or maybe I shouldn’t even be putting myself in these kinds of situations. She’s the one who should be making an effort for me, not the other way around… and I find that the more I keep doing nice things, the more they keep having expectations—nothing new there; TRP explained it to me very well.

So I’m looking for advice on how to avoid finding myself in these situations, and specifically, I’m currently in a situation with a FWB where I’m experiencing the scenarios described above and I want to break out of the loop without pouting