Coming out of a relationship from 21-26 and now playing the field for ~3 years it's clear to me that the type of women I'm most attracted to/stimulated by (HB8+/charming/outgoing/adventurous) have been going from guy-to-guy since the ripe age of 16. At first it bothered me a lot, but as I heard the same slutty stories over and over & as my own partner count grew, I started to become more and more desensitized to it. Currently I rank them on a scale from slut to mega-slut and find that I defacto avoid the mega sluts simply because of the fact that they fail on other criteria.
The concept of any woman being special has been torn to pieces, some just have more to offer/are more compatible with me than others, but on a fundamental level they are all capable of the same degeneracy/hamsterization. I still vet them, with the understanding that the only purpose of it is to screen for a high probability that they fall in line with my expectations of them.
I've adopted a very practical mentality which is to maximize what I'm getting out of my commitment (as I see plating just as a means to an end).
Only consider top tier attractive women for commitment who treat me like a king, agreeable, stay in shape, kinky/unlimited sex, loyal etc. I make my boundaries/expectations clear and if they start to slack for whatever reason in terms of the return I get on my commitment, I just start spinning plates again until a new girl appears who meets my standards and repeat.
All of this btw is with the goal in mind of some day having kids. Marriage is off the table so will figure out how to slightly tweak things when the time comes.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 12h ago
AWALT = all women have same biological hardware, evolutionary drivers
AWALT ≠ same software. Women have different upbringings, values, goals, and characterstics
You don't reconcile your commitment off hardware, you reconcile your commitment off of compatibility, chemistry, and shared values (software) while understanding that you need to stay in good shape and frame for her AWALT (hardware)
Lot of you guys don't understand what AWALT is and isn't
GeorgeIII 1 11h ago
Well said here.
I’d add that the main way you reconcile AWALT is: you don’t give out commitment easily.
If women really are all that way, then you know committing is only worth it when you find that rare (but not only one) gem who makes sense for you.
Why would you commit to an ordinary woman, if you can only commit to one at a time)?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 11h ago
Yup
Also, what is an ideal match for one man may be a horrible match for another
Guys get too in the weeds about what is a mystical gem criteria.
mattyanon Admin 1d ago
It looks like you're reconciling it pretty well. No marriage is a good start.
Musicgoon78 3 1d ago
What's to reconcile? She's a human female. Once you date enough you're going to realize that women have the same sex drive as men, but easier access.
Most of the guys around here have unrealistic expectations that the girl for then will have a notch count of -12 and be a complete nymphomaniac with them only.
Sexuality and monogamy are complicated with many nuances. You can strive for perfection, but sooner or later you have to accept some things that are less than perfect.
First-light 2 1d ago
Good reply.
"I want her to be very beautiful and very chaste. I then want her to throw it all away and be a mega slut for me, treating me like a king, even though I am of lower SMV and do not personally hold any values that would encourage chastity"
Hugo_The_Great 18h ago
Yep I was 100% one of those, mainly because I lost my virginity at 21 and then was in a 5 year LTR immediately after and really lacked any frame of reference for the stuff most hot young women do.
Saw someone on TRP write that 90% of hot women have large bodycounts. Especially true for the extroverts as they're constantly offered dick since like 14 years old. The 10% that don't are super shy/religious/constantly in LTRs and you'll never come across them in the dating/hookup scene.
First-light 2 1d ago
She would have to have a good reason not to want to be like that.
AWALT is one way of putting it. Women will get away with what the hive lets them get away with. You would need to give her enough motivation to not be like that. Finding an equal trade in the SMV is integral to this. Overall it has to be an attractive offer to her long term and she needs to be someone who has a long term view to herself. Someone who is less slutty may well have a more long term view but then you still have to make her a good deal long term -offer her a future she wants to buy into and be able to deliver it.
It still might not work out. Particularly because people can develop in different ways as life goes by. But then if you have not married like you suggest and if you have done all you can to protect your wealth and future access to your kids you have done your best and won't be any more burnt than you have to be in this current social climate.
You do your honest best and whatever happens, happens.