I'm going to recommend The Emprise is Nake by Adam Leonas.

Book does a great job dismantling feminist propaganda with statistics and facts.

It seems like theres an impossible frame battle to win sometimes due to the state of society. It feels like I'm expecting her to be a "Manson girl" with how radically different my views are from society's. She listens to me, but we butt heads sometimes due to worldview. I

Right.

You have fallen into the trap of "make it work with this one girl".

That is the trap you are in, and the feminist world gives her massive choices and options while you are trapped into "try and make it work".

You see the problem with all this right?

Solution: don't care so much if she's got whatever the fuck worldview she likes. If she leaves she leaves.

t makes her anxious to have a relationship with someone that has such different views from the societal norm. It makes her anxious to live as a fully feminine woman in a culture that craps on that. She's always needing lots of reassurance from me that this is an acceptable way of living.

well, good luck with that

She also has some issues with opening up and fully trusting men due to what she sees online.

right - and not your problem.

Changing her worldview would take a lot of burden off of me in terms of how much reassuring and coaching I have to do.

It's probably impossible

Our relationship is excellent apart from this so I want her to be consuming media that will mold her more into a traditional woman who's confident in her femininity. I think she'd be much happier this way, but she feels too much societal pressure.

Societal pressure..... or she's choosing to pay attention to a part of society that pressures her?

It seems she needs strong, moral, feminine role models in order to feel like she has permission to live this way. She is willing read and watch anything I want her to.

I doubt reading a book will change any of this.

Do y'all have any books or content you think a young 20s girl should be reading? And dont just say the Bible and cookbooks lol. I need something that will undo years of feminist programming. I basically need to teach her how to be a woman. It also needs to be fun for a woman to read, so dont reccomend The Rational Male...

Yeah, I doubt this is possible even if the books exist.

Ok let's kick this off with honest feedback. The first thing is that @mattyanon has some great points.

Your first two paragraphs show your hand. You don't have to list off your qualifications or hers. Just ask the question. Our approval isn't necessary and shows me that you're not operating in your frame, you are performing for us unnecessarily. Let me say this so that it's very clear for all the young guys reading: we are giving you tools to build your own life. This isn't a paint-by-nubers guide on what your identity should look like. That's the reason both you and your girl aren't seeing eye to eye. You both have yet to mature to the point of being full people. You're just spitting online tropes at each other and hoping that your worldviews will somehow align.

Well the bigger problem is that neither of you have an original worldview, or have embraced your sovereignty. You both are performing for an invisible audience, a worldview given to you by people online. This is a harsh reality, but you have to understand my brother that as I said above you haven't fully developed yet.

You're coming to a place where you're going to get a lot of autistic advice. Some guys are going to tell you to control your woman or even try to give her reading materials. Truth be told, You can only change yourself. What you're trying to do right now is fit her into a mold that you didn't even design. That's not leadership.

Now I see a fundamental incompatibility that you're mourning. I've made a lot of mistakes that I've learned from in my 40 years on this planet. One big lesson was not to interrupt other people's journeys. The best thing to do is blaze your own trail and hope that she follows. I honestly think at this point neither of you are going to see eye to eye because both of you are more focused on idealistic views than actually forming a healthy relationship. Sometimes the truth stings.

As I say this, I will also say this is your path. You are free to choose some other advice and try to mold and control her. If you choose that route, you're going to spend a lot of time and energy spinning your wheels instead of being in a relationship that simply is compatible with your worldview. I would suggest that you also take a long hard look at what you want and desire instead of seeking approval from the manosphere.

If memory serves, the Married Red Pill Subreddit had a short list of books for women.

Changing her worldview

...is only gong to happen if she wants it to happen.

If you try to beat her over the head with anything, she's going to resist. Women are immune to facts and logic.

Your best bet is to be her hypergamous best option, so that she fears losing you.

Good luck.

If you haven't changed her worldview- let me rephrase, if she has LET YOU change her view- she is not going to.

A book isn't going to pick up where you left off.

I've had former partners take a lot of my advice and they still wanted to go girl boss it and have it all like a man anyway

You can't change a woman's world view. You can inspire her to change her world view. You can incentive her to change her world view.

But you cannot change her world view. You have several generations of rotten feminsm against you that already did the heavy work.

You have to vet for that up front not change it later. At some point you're going to see that and wonder if she's worth the hassle

Do not get married to this woman. It will only get worse and she will only get more feminist

Women respond to peer pressure, not facts and logic. Giving her a reading list won't accomplish anything. Like Typo says, be her best option but keep your eyes open for a replacement. This one sounds like she'll just create problems and conflict as the honeymoon phase wears off.

SeasonedRP has nailed it in two lines. Its not about facts its about peer pressure. Her hive is what drives her world view. The hive she grew up in and the hive she is in now. Your best (slim) hope of making her a convert is to find other couples who share your world view. If she can belong to a group, she will comply to the group's thinking. She can only throw away her conditioning if she has a safe replacement hive.