Hi RP community! I need some advice. I'm in a 3 year LTR and we're both early 20s.
I've been RP for a few years. I've read the sidebar and listened to many of Rian Stone's and ApexMindset's videos. I've been on 40+ first dates and I'm fit.
She's very submissive and does what I say. She likes to read and is a very smart chick. She's head over heels with me, we have great sex, and she was a virgin. She grew up in the church, but has since drifted away.
The only problem I have is her worldview. Like most women, she buys into the feminist programming. It seems like theres an impossible frame battle to win sometimes due to the state of society. It feels like I'm expecting her to be a "Manson girl" with how radically different my views are from society's. She listens to me, but we butt heads sometimes due to worldview. It makes her anxious to have a relationship with someone that has such different views from the societal norm. It makes her anxious to live as a fully feminine woman in a culture that craps on that. She's always needing lots of reassurance from me that this is an acceptable way of living. She also has some issues with opening up and fully trusting men due to what she sees online. Changing her worldview would take a lot of burden off of me in terms of how much reassuring and coaching I have to do.
Our relationship is excellent apart from this so I want her to be consuming media that will mold her more into a traditional woman who's confident in her femininity. I think she'd be much happier this way, but she feels too much societal pressure. It seems she needs strong, moral, feminine role models in order to feel like she has permission to live this way. She is willing read and watch anything I want her to.
Do y'all have any books or content you think a young 20s girl should be reading? And dont just say the Bible and cookbooks lol. I need something that will undo years of feminist programming. I basically need to teach her how to be a woman. It also needs to be fun for a woman to read, so dont reccomend The Rational Male...
What do you think about the idea of giving your chick books to read? Is this meta or is my frame trash? This has got to be super meta, right? My girl is consuming media anyway so wouldn't it be in my interest to have it suite my worldview?
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 13h ago
If memory serves, the Married Red Pill Subreddit had a short list of books for women.
...is only gong to happen if she wants it to happen.
If you try to beat her over the head with anything, she's going to resist. Women are immune to facts and logic.
Your best bet is to be her hypergamous best option, so that she fears losing you.
Good luck.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 9h ago
If you haven't changed her worldview- let me rephrase, if she has LET YOU change her view- she is not going to.
A book isn't going to pick up where you left off.
I've had former partners take a lot of my advice and they still wanted to go girl boss it and have it all like a man anyway
You can't change a woman's world view. You can inspire her to change her world view. You can incentive her to change her world view.
But you cannot change her world view. You have several generations of rotten feminsm against you that already did the heavy work.
You have to vet for that up front not change it later. At some point you're going to see that and wonder if she's worth the hassle
Do not get married to this woman. It will only get worse and she will only get more feminist
Vermillion-Rx Admin 9h ago
For example, my next serious relationship I enter, she is not going to have feminist world views. She is not going to girl boss.
I am prepared to be a bachelor the rest of my life if I don't find a woman who near-totally resists views I don't like
SeasonedRP 2 6h ago
Women respond to peer pressure, not facts and logic. Giving her a reading list won't accomplish anything. Like Typo says, be her best option but keep your eyes open for a replacement. This one sounds like she'll just create problems and conflict as the honeymoon phase wears off.
First-light 2 5h ago
SeasonedRP has nailed it in two lines. Its not about facts its about peer pressure. Her hive is what drives her world view. The hive she grew up in and the hive she is in now. Your best (slim) hope of making her a convert is to find other couples who share your world view. If she can belong to a group, she will comply to the group's thinking. She can only throw away her conditioning if she has a safe replacement hive.
brazilianxof 4h ago
You can't. Accept her as she is or move on without making a fuzz.