The thing I find about LTR's is less having to relearn the basics, but more about fighting your own instincts.

It's very easy to get lulled into a false sense of security and get comfortable when in an LTR, which inevitably bites you in the backside.

You have to constantly be re-reading a brushing up on your TRP.

Hi brother. You're not learning the basics again. You are slowly changing the dynamic. You need to have your own sovereignty. This is something rarely talked about.

Now, the spergs are going to tell you about laying down strict boundaries and being strong willed. This is the key to resentment. The change you need to make is inward. This is knowing what you want and simply going after it yourself. So the train you're on leaves regardless of her direction. You're there to encourage her and collaborate with her. You're not there to fix her problems or be her pack mule this is the difference between leadership and being a sucker. Most of the male population are weak simps in their relationship. This is how you show you're subtle power and leadership. It a simple mindset change. "Everyone is entitled to their emotions. I let them sort them out on their own as a functional adult".

It's not your job to emotionally regulate your partners bullshit. It's your job to regulate your own. This is leadership. Now of course be there with warmth and strength in emergencies, but everyday non emergencies are hers to manage. Just because she drops it doesn't mean you have to pick it up.

There are three entities in a relationship: Me You And the collective We

The we is the overlap in two individuals lives. If either of you don't do autonomous things. The focus on "we" will start to form disconnection. This is the cause of divorced and breakups. My parents are in their mid seventies and still in a loving marriage. Both of them have a great time together and also their own separate lives apart.

You're going to get a lot of shit advice to rule with an Iron fist. This is insecurity disguised as strength. If you don't trust this woman, do yourself a favor and dump her. Otherwise let her have a night out with her girlfriends. If you're her hypergamous best option, she isn't going to fuck that up. You want to keep her around with your attractiveness and strength.

Of course you need to game her. Stay flirty, light and know how to have fun. This is maintenance of you and your relationship.

And reinforce your boundaries. Don't Defend, Explain, Excuse or Rationalize (DEER) your boundaries. Just inform her briefly. That doesn't work for me. Or here's what I want there is no please, what do you think or is this ok. These are non negotiable and quick and strong statements shut down questions or getting you into arguments or losing the point of your assertation of boundaries.

I would recommend the YouTube channel of Rian Stone. He has some great content for stuff like this.

Holy fucking duh, Batman.

hey guys! I just discovered this brand new thing tens of thousands of men have been saying for several years already!

marriage and LTR have only been called "Red Pill on hard mode" for like 15+ years already.

The Married Red Pill subreddit only split off all those years ago because it really is different once you give up your ability to walk away unscathed.

Next you'll be posting "hey guys, anyone notice that women seem to engage in a Dual Mating Strategy?".

now in an LTR

LTRs are measured in years. Anything less than a year is still just a relationship, and not a Long-Term Relationship until it crosses the 1 year mark.