So I’ve (28yo) been running a relatively new issue lately. Ended my LTR 4 months ago and already have a new roster of 4 girls all HB7-HB9 (2 actual models). Been hitting the dating apps hard but also going out at night and to some dating events (which are a joke btw only HB5/7s and bunch of loser guys). What I’ve noticed though, is that there is a large pool of women, mainly HB6-7s that give me IOIs but only want to use my attention to validate their ego’s. In other words, if I try to escalate anything beyond a kiss they auto-reject me.
My working theory is that (and I’m looking for people to validate this) these girls are aware of my SMV and quickly determine based on my arrogant/dgaf attitude that I’m aware of my SMV as well and auto-reject me because they think I’ll just ONS and ghost. (Probably true)
Meanwhile with hot girls (HB8+) I barely have to even try. Just hold frame, banter, crack some jokes and they’re DTF/become plates. Sidenote: I’m 6ft3 200lbs lean, traditionally good-looking etc. Worked hard to maximize my genetic potential and atp just blow every guy out of the water wherever I go.
Also noticed that I really must tone down/minimize my teasing (which sucks because I love that shit) with newer girls. Because they get super awkward/defensive really quick saying I’m ridiculing them/have no respect. (True) So then I tone it way down until they know me better.
However, I think maybe I’m just coping that my game is weak? As I’ve read many stories here about people with super high lay counts and how many girls are fine with ONS etc. So I’m trying to reconcile that with my own current experience. Almost wondering if it's better to be a 7/10 looks with 10/10 game for casual sex vs being a 10/10 looks with 7/10 game guy.
Do I tone down the arrogance and pretend to be a bit more sheepish/'nice' and give girls more sense of control/security? That feels super gay to me and I’m thinking there must be another way but I can’t figure it out. Just feels to me like these girls are super hesitant to sleep with me as they see they have 0 leverage over me and it feels scary to them to surrender security/control to that degree but that’s just my hunch.
Larrythelobster 17h ago
My advice is to be cool with the girl and just wait until she shit-test you (cause they can't help themselves) before displaying Alpha/Sigma/Chad/Bad boi/Wolf traits.
Then you have a reason to be a "AsSWhOle".
If a guy came up to you and called you a faggot, you wouldn't like that. If a friend jokingly called you a faggot it be funny.
Thats the whole thing. Pipe it down.
Hugo_The_Great 2h ago
Tnx for the reply, I'll chill out more on the whole sigma character thing until shit tests are served.
But I'll still ridicule girls for saying goofy shit, can't let ts go.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6h ago
This can happen. Everyone and their pet monkey tries to drunk fuck 5-6
That's the lowest common denominator to fuck a chick at a bar before porn starts to seem more appealing than ugly and fat pussy
So they are extremely defensive and know they are one night stand fodder
Secondly if you're fucking models why the fuck do you care if a 5 doesn't bang you
Talk about ego trip (lack of frame/ lack of self prioritization)
Why do you care if you get the results you do
Your problem isn't unique, anyone with enough night game will easily make this observation
Hugo_The_Great 2h ago
You're probably right that anyone with enough night game has made this observation, I guess that my error in thinking was that these one night stand fodder girls would easily go home with you if you are 2-3 points above their SMV. But it seems that reality is more counterintuitive.
You're right about ego tripping and lack of self prioritization, tnx for the reminder. Ts was kinda eating away at me as it's very weird to have 8/10s be very eager to get plated by you and a 6 to reject you for ONS. I guess I've just outgrown the minor leagues and must increase my standards accordingly.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1h ago
Why would a woman want a one night stand? That is not how they generally think
They have mate acquisition tendencies and they are not going to acquire a mate who far exceeds their ability to retain
Men can sport fuck and not care
Very different evolutionary drivers and consequences for not retaining the same mate you fucked
Musicgoon78 3 3h ago
Why do you feel the need for validation from girls that you are like warm about? You're getting laid from girls you like.
Is this a humblebrag or just a weird lack of frame? Not everyone is going to like you and you aren't going to like everyone. That is just how it goes.
Hugo_The_Great 2h ago
Not humble bragging.
Just intellectual curiosity wondering what these girls are thinking and if maybe some of you had a clue. Also, sometimes HB7 is the best there is in a given venue and then it does suck they are only luke warm.
Of course not everyone will like you, what is/was confusing me is that I had this idea in my head that if you are, say a 9/10 as a man, that you should be able to pick any HB6 you want and she'll go home with you. And my experience lately has been such that I'm almost starting to think that I'd have more success with those girls had I been 7/10 instead. Which is counterintuitive and I've never seen a post about this mechanic.