So I’ve (28yo) been running a relatively new issue lately. Ended my LTR 4 months ago and already have a new roster of 4 girls all HB7-HB9 (2 actual models). Been hitting the dating apps hard but also going out at night and to some dating events (which are a joke btw only HB5/7s and bunch of loser guys). What I’ve noticed though, is that there is a large pool of women, mainly HB6-7s that give me IOIs but only want to use my attention to validate their ego’s. In other words, if I try to escalate anything beyond a kiss they auto-reject me.
My working theory is that (and I’m looking for people to validate this) these girls are aware of my SMV and quickly determine based on my arrogant/dgaf attitude that I’m aware of my SMV as well and auto-reject me because they think I’ll just ONS and ghost. (Probably true)
Meanwhile with hot girls (HB8+) I barely have to even try. Just hold frame, banter, crack some jokes and they’re DTF/become plates. Sidenote: I’m 6ft3 200lbs lean, traditionally good-looking etc. Worked hard to maximize my genetic potential and atp just blow every guy out of the water wherever I go.
Also noticed that I really must tone down/minimize my teasing (which sucks because I love that shit) with newer girls. Because they get super awkward/defensive really quick saying I’m ridiculing them/have no respect. (True) So then I tone it way down until they know me better.
However, I think maybe I’m just coping that my game is weak? As I’ve read many stories here about people with super high lay counts and how many girls are fine with ONS etc. So I’m trying to reconcile that with my own current experience. Almost wondering if it's better to be a 7/10 looks with 10/10 game for casual sex vs being a 10/10 looks with 7/10 game guy.
Do I tone down the arrogance and pretend to be a bit more sheepish/'nice' and give girls more sense of control/security? That feels super gay to me and I’m thinking there must be another way but I can’t figure it out. Just feels to me like these girls are super hesitant to sleep with me as they see they have 0 leverage over me and it feels scary to them to surrender security/control to that degree but that’s just my hunch.
Larrythelobster 3h ago
My advice is to be cool with the girl and just wait until she shit-test you (cause they can't help themselves) before displaying Alpha/Sigma/Chad/Bad boi/Wolf traits.
Then you have a reason to be a "AsSWhOle".
If a guy came up to you and called you a faggot, you wouldn't like that. If a friend jokingly called you a faggot it be funny.
Thats the whole thing. Pipe it down.