A dude posted “at my wits end” which is essence was the same post as this and yet you’re getting some sound advice and that dude was criticized. That’s how you know this community is fucked

You think you’re not being needy, but you are, because your inner game is off. You’re performing for women to keep them. Take them off the pedestal.

Sidebar is good, valid and you got it wrong. MGTOW is just one way to deal with the knowledge that redpill brings.

A woman will be down to whatever satisfies her hipergamy. Many famous rich guys eating shit sandwiches are example that it is much more complicated than we wanted. It can be looks, it can be money, it can be you being the best rapper, dancer, athlete, the oscar winning actor or just the most criminal on the block. What the woman you want are vetting for? Have you 'somehow' discussed that during dates?

Second: awalt is that woman share a lot of traits, no unicorns, no oneities, one of a million, etc. However, they are not carbon copies of each other. This is oversimplification. You treat all woman the same? Bogus. It is stupid to treat a decent woman like a street hoe.

There is a huge difference between basic good human treatment and pedestalizing a woman. Treating a life partner that adds value as a good asset that she is has nothing wrong to it. Actually, decent woman must expect good treatment and you should not make the pikachu face when that comes up.

If I am to say, your vetting is awful. Decent woman won't accept being plated and will run. Vetting by abusing for "submissive woman" will filter what? Brain damaged crazies with shitty self steem. If you mistreat woman and they don't leave, you should be the one leaving. I'll give this one to you though, you are doing it. Keep doing and don't settle for shit.

Also don't expect woman to not have woman traits. Dogs bark. Damaged dogs don't. Shit tests will be there. Comfort tests too. Etc.

For an LTR, beta traits are mandatory. You simply cannot demand a traditional wife without filling your side on a traditional gender role. "I want a wife who cooks and cleans and takes care ofnchildren. Also, she must foot the bills 50/50 and have her own 401". Very unrealistic. The beta bucks is part of traditional gender roles, and it is ok , as long as you are the alfa fucking. Balance is key.

It is a man's job to find sex. It is a woman's job to secure a relationship. But... the same way woman must give you an starting point for sex, you must be OPEN to the idea of an LTR. If you are plating woman, well, plates break and no one gives a shit. But game is different for LTR.

Finally... I do hope you have more in life than circling around woman. The main point of redpill is to get out of this matrix.

You have not made peace with the simple fact that even if you do find a quality woman, she can choose to throw all that away at any point for any reason and there is fuck all you can do about that choice other than leave. You can do everything "correct" on your end and it still does not fucking matter!

And in not making that peace, like so many others, seek guarantees that do not exist.

All you can do is massage the odds, not control them. The only thing you can reliably replicate is your ability to GTFO when a woman goes bad. That's it.

Now, you don't have to make your peace with all that if you don't want to. It's your life. Ice skate uphill all you want.

i think you have to try and answer your own question in the post as a rule, i'm not a mod though.

You have a humblebrag about your success, don't you think you're the one having the real word experience with what works?

"Ive had over 500 first dates, 150+ sexual partners, and spent 5 of the last 10 years in relationships—I’ve done it all. These days, I only sleep with women I actually like. Otherwise, it’s just not worth it"

How many people can say that while acting like an average frustrated chump? You're doing just that. If you want to see real guys that just can't make it work then just try and help another guy and see what they're going through. But you're not gonna find it in yourself if what you're saying is true, if what you're living is not a fulfilling life then set some goals and priorities, and change your course.

What i think is making you uneasy is not meeting your love life goals, which is apparently finding a decent woman to settle down for longer than a few months and maybe think of living together, having a kid, going on vacation, having mutual friends and be a full-time couple. Or something like that, you get the picture.

You have the traits, you have success, you have money, looks and status, you have game, where the hoes at though? At this point, I have begun thinking that the type of girl you and many men are looking for are probably outside your country, some southeast asia or latin american shithole (like where i live) where women are still somewhat more conservative and family oriented, less liberal and broke enough to prioritize getting pregnant by a foreign/rich guy over virtually any other type of contact with men.

They’re human, unpredictable, and don’t all respond to a script

what’s the replicatable formula

Which one?

Sexual relationships naturally are meant to benefit first the offspring (which is like the whole point) and then the female (because she can produce more offspring). Male, nobody gives a fuck, we’re interchangeable.

And then the modern world turns that up to 1000000.

So it’s on you if you’re still into the one true love fantasy given the reality.

There are of course exceptions, but exceptions by definition don’t match rules, so it’s pointless to ask for a rule to apply.

You're forgetting "game" - whether that's intentional game, or just the natural inner game that comes with having shit to do, not giving too much of a fuck, and not being "on the hunt" for anything that has to do with women.

Also, there's something to be said about having a "high maintenance" radar that sets of early. Some women - although you're wired to want to stick your dick in them - have something creepy about them. I'm talking about women who spend a lot of time and effort on stuff like nails, hair, make-up, and clothes, and whose body language and general behavior is overly feminine.

Should be mentioned though, judging by your numbers, I don't have anywhere near to the pulling power you do. So maybe it's just my rationalisation hamster trying to protect my ego from the fact that I wouldn't have a shot with these women anyways - and so I've always gone for 6-7/10 and "seems down to earth".