One of the girls I have being dating always complains that she doesn't feel I really like her but when I start caring she acts cold, distant and does not repond and even makes regret doing anything nice.
At first I thought she is just using me for attention and probably has someone else... Which would explain alot.
But I am almost sure she has no one else.
What is the reason for this? Should I just do a hard next.
Testme 20h ago
Lone Ranger is basically right. Treat her behavior as a test: she is just checking to see if you are even more faggy than you appear. You made a mistake in "caring". That was test failure. Only give her the attention she has EARNED. That is a hard rule.
Lone_Ranger 1 1w ago
This is my last marriage in a nutshell. She demanded so much love and affection from me, and when I gave it, she lost sexual interest in me.
Whatsnext 5d ago
Mine too.
Lone_Ranger 1 5d ago
The reason for this?
A better than average looking woman is going to have had plenty of casual sex with chads by the time she is ready to settle down. To her, the one thing that chads ALL had in common is that they were not in the least bit interested in her. They all treated her like shit. Chads want to fuck, they want to fuck a lot, and they are not that fussy about who they fuck (ask me how I know, I used to be a chad).
So.... when it came to my turn, the defining feature about me was that I loved her. In her mind, this makes me instantly NOT A CHAD, which gives her the dry panties.
Most men make this simple mistake - they think they are doing something wrong, something about their behaviour is making their wives panties dry. It's not. It's the role that you are in - you are husband that loves his wife....ergo, you make her panties dry. If I were some guy that just chatted her up, fucker her, didn't call her in the morning, fucker her sister, then fucked her best friend, and then disappeared, she'd be head over heels in love with me.
Its the ill treatement that gets the wet, and the love that makes them dry.
You cannot fix a broken slut.
Whatsnext 5d ago
Its who wants who less. Chad doesn't want her so he must be valuable. You love her so you must be less valuable than her. Its retarded really but it is how they logic. I had so much trouble with it because I would think "you are being illogical" but like you said its just the system you are in. They have so much access to chads now too and there is little to no stigma for being a slut and they just lie.
Lone_Ranger 1 1w ago
"Complains that she doesn't feel like I really like her"....
When you withdraw affection = moist panties
"When I start caring she acts cold"
when you give her affection = dry panties
Look - not all women are like this, but all sluts are like this. Sluts are broken. Sluts are women that are incapable to having a successful loving relationship, a bond of two affectionate people. They are incapable, because only ill treatment sexually excites them. They often end up in stable LTRs, and those LTRs always fail, because of dead bedrooms.
I kept making this mistake my whole life long. I thought that a loving relationship would be allow them to flourish.
Wrong. A women that is only attracted to ill treatment cannot have a successful LTR.
Whatsnext 5d ago
I agree but I think 90% of the dating pools women are broken and you can't give them a relationship or this happens
Lone_Ranger 1 5d ago
correct. What I have learnt over the years is that once a woman is broken, you can't fix them. Buy you can destroy your own sanity in trying.
Whatsnext 5d ago
Yep. She drained my energy so low I had nothing left. Biggest regret of my life but I dont think I wouldve listened to anyone about it unless I went through it myself
Whatsnext 5d ago
Its like that song "Poor old grand-dad I laughed at all his words I thought he was a bitter man He spoke of women's ways They'll trap you, then they use you And before you even know For love is blind and you're far too kind Don't ever let it show"
BecomingABetterMan1 1w ago
The Medium is The Message. https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/06/the-medium-is-the-message/
TL;DR: Watch her actions, not her words. Bitches ask for shit they think they want, but rarely end up actually wanting it once they have it. Like when a girl asks you to open up about your feelings.
Just ignore it bro.
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1w ago
Seconded.
@SteveV8 - check out these links in addition to the Rollo blog post, including the commentary. It's very rare that a man can open up to a woman, especially at the beginning stages.
The reason men don't open up to most women.
The reason men don't open up to most women, part 2
Weekend humor post: the reason most men don't open up to women, part 3
Justanaverageguy 1w ago
Mental issues. Borderline most likely.
Whatsnext 1w ago
Idk i think most girls have mental issues rn but it could be who i go for
Lone_Ranger 1 1w ago
correction: all sluts have mental issues, not all women.
The reason why men have such bad opinions of women is because they spend their lives with sluts. And sluts all have one thing in common - they hate themselves. They have no sense of self worth, for good reason - because they have no self worth. The only metric of self worth that a slut will have is the amount of male interest she is able to generate.
AbusiveFather1 1w ago
it's a shit test, to see if you'd give in to her demands - don't. keep doing what you're doing and don't give her any more attention; plate status only.
no, just keep fucking her while it lasts. it may not last long though, like any fling.
how would you know?
MrSupreme 1w ago
She doesn't want you to care, either much or at all, she is not ready to get closer to you,and the shit test is there for you to fall into and care more, develop feelz and get all beta.Instead act like you care enough,if she wants to get closer to you then make your way into some anal sex,that'll make her bond.Not entirely kidding with this.
Lionsmane8 1w ago
Ignore what she says.
She is trying to flip the position and be the one in power. The one who is loved more has more power.
It's a covert coup d'état.
whytehorse2021 1w ago
What that means is you're not showing passion. Go read Sex God Method and try it out on her.
Lone_Ranger 1 1w ago
"If you don't treat them like the dog shit that they are, they'll find someone else that will"
This women is clearly asking to be mistreated by a partner that doesn't care about her. As fucked up as that seems, this is what gives her tingles. And the minute you are kind and loving, you dry her panties.
Perhaps the biggest red flag of all time is exactly that - women that want, demand to be treated like dog shit. This is a result of abuse / trauma / neglect from an early age.
You cannot cure these women, you cannot help them.
No-Stress-Cat 1w ago
Her: "I don't feel like you really like me."
Me: You're right, I don't like you. Now, take off your panties and change my mind.
financehardo420 1w ago
if you treat em like dirt they’ll stick to ya like mud
Hondurak 1w ago
I dated a girl like this, super frustrating. I ended up coming to the conclusion she was broken in some way. Im not a psychiologist, but i figured maybe some type of childhood or former relationship trauma.