I did it. At age 22 I stopped being a virign. Didn’t use TRP or any of the founding principals, just hit up a girl at work and we ended up having sex that night. We became a couple and she started causing fights. She’d always ask who was calling me or texting me and when I did the same, she’d say “you’re making me insecure, you’re making me feel like I’m actually cheating”.
I should’ve known then, but I kept trying to be positive. We eventually break up and she starts bragging about how she’s fucking the dude she was talking to before me and hitting up people on instagram for sex. She tells me straight up she was airing out all our relationship problems to this dude while we were dating and then, two days after we broke up, ended up at his place fucking him. I kept fighting to keep her. Gave her money, bought her food, took her to restaurants while she kept teasing “I might get back together with you”. Basically, was paying for her company while some random dude was just contacting her to hookup and not even going on actual dates or anything.
My question is: how can I possibly put my dick in something else before the end of January? How can I just get to fuck? I don’t have any options for cold approaching except the mall, I live in bum-fuck maryland so there’s no like communal gathering places. All I want is to have sex again before I go fucking crazy about her. I don’t care about another relationship, I just want to be able to prove that I can move on and fuck other people as fast as she moved on.
How can I seek out women? OLD is trash here, I’ve never had a hookup from OLD. The first time I actually asked a girl for her digits at work, I ended up fucking that night. I just want to be able to try it again and get some sex.
Sorry if this is against the rules.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
That's great.... proves you're attractive enough to get fast sex.
Stop acting out of urgency and scarcity. You can't force things to happen "before jan 15th", and the fundamental problem is that you need this. Let it go dude, let it go. Don't pressure it.
You don't need this. You don't need ANYTHING.
Instead let's focus on getting what you really want.
Depends so much on your area.
Daygame. Shopping centres, parks, etc.
Night game.
Social game: join groups, get out, DO THINGS.
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OPStolen 2y ago
I read all the sidebar stuff back in 2013. I was reading up on TRP in high school. Then, I became an incel. I was the moderator of the second biggest incel community. Once I got laid, I left it unmoderated and leaned heavy into my ex. I just want to know where to go and what to do. I can’t go back to the incel community for help because I’m perma-banned from all the forums since I’m no longer a virgin. So, the only community left is TRP. Can I just get a quick tip or something? I want to try my hardest to fuck before the end of January.
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OPStolen 2y ago
Ok, I’ve been back in the gym. I plan on getting my teeth whitened next month as well as having a vasectomy. My ex never wanted to fuck with a condom and, now that I don’t even know what sex with a condom is like, I’d like to be able to keep fucking without one.
I’m still going to try cold approaching and try to give less of a fuck about how I phrase things and making statements to women. We’ll see how it goes. Going to pray that I get to bang before January is over, I’m probably still going to hate myself if I don’t, but we’ll see.
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Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Don't get a vasectomy. Just don't.
MovinCruisin 2y ago
How is this even possible? I'm not into inceldom but as far as I know it's about crying about being ugly and unlovable. Why would you go there if TRP shows you exactly how women and dating work? Genuinely curious.
OPStolen 2y ago
I gave up when I became super buff and still couldn’t attract women. Was deadlifting 415, squatting 365, benching 185. In college, I stopped working out because we have a really small gym with only 6 squat racks and it’s always full. Became chunky and started taking blackpill advice and actually started getting dates. Basically they told me “don’t act like you give a fuck because she’s just waiting to move on to the next guy”. They’d always say just don’t give a fuck about how you interact with women because all women are sluts for Chad and you’re not Chad. Stuff like “Chad can treat women however he wants and they love it, so don’t act like you actually care about the date or give a fuck if there’s a second date” So, I took that attitude with me on dates, acted really nonchalant and didn’t actively text any of the girls i went out with. Started getting 2nd and 3rd dates. Had a really bad rough patch and decided to shoot my shot and ask a girl out at work. We ended up hooking up and then I found out everyone in the neighborhood has tried her. Kept trying to make a housewife out of a hoe. Lost everything. Now, I’m banned from all the incel communities because I got a girlfriend so I’m looking for safety here.
MovinCruisin 2y ago
Amazing. Thank you for the insight. This is kinda like in maths when you use the wrong formula but still get the correct result.
So basically you left out game, the practical part of TRP, and only focused on the (in the grand scheme of things) tiny aspect of lifting.
In TRP terms this is called outcome indepedence. Also goes in line with the saying: she's never yours, it's just your turn.
Hindsight is 20/20, but that goes to show you should've stuck with TRP, no? Unlike in Inceltown, when you get into an LTR you get advice here instead of getting banned (lmao). So welcome back I guess.
MovinCruisin 2y ago
Re-read the sidebar.
lmao
What is this beta shit? Literally Beta Bucks.
How about moving on then? It's all on you bro. You knew that she was insane (more than usually for a woman) and appeased to her whims. You knew about TRP and still did beta shit. You don't need to fuck you need to take a look into the mirror. Women sleep around to avoid accountability and seek external validation. You're not a woman though, are you? As a man you have to take resonsibility and get to work.
Durek_The_Bald 2y ago
What happens on January 15? Shit.... it's an asteroid hit, isn't it?
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Good news: you fucked a chick once, so you know you can do it again. Good stuff, keep your chin up.
Bad news: she is living in your head rent free. You will deny this, but I could see it plain as day even from the title of your post. You are desperate to shag before some arbitary date, to show her that you can shag other chicks. Is this for you, or for her?
Be honest with yourself. Many young men live their lives for other people, even when noone is watching. They live their lives as stars in their own little movie. And it sounds like you want to fuck some other chick as a demonstration of independence from the first chick.
Ipso facto - your life, behaviours, motivations etc all ruled by a chick / chicks.
True masculinity is NOT 'being a chad' , it's living a full life independent of what others want or expect from you. Learn about inner strength, about walking away from others.
Live your life for yourself. Are you the oak tree, or the ivy that clings to an oak tree?
OPStolen 2y ago
She is living there rent free. I go to work now and everyone knew she was a hoe. They literally had bets on how long the relationship would last because they knew she was a hoe. My coworker has even fucked her and I had no clue. I just feel like absolute ass that I closed my eyes basically to every sign she wasn’t mine. Even my parents and friends are calling me a dumbass saying “how could you not know? you had sex on the first date, you should’ve known she was easy”.
I’m just extremely mad at myself. I was paying to fuck while everyone else was just hitting her up on insta or snapchat and inviting themselves over. I feel like an absolute cuck. If I hadn’t blinded myself, I could’ve just been arranging hookups too, no money spent.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
This only matters to you (and to a large degree everyone else) because you let it. Because you think about it. Because you feel like it should matter. That it defines you.
Pro tip: it doesnt, so stop fucking worrying about it. All this is tied to insecurity and validation seeking. You have to kill the beta inside you.
Start at the beginning and put in the work.
OPStolen 2y ago
I’m going to the gym in 4hrs for deadlifting. Going to start fresh before the new year comes. Hope I can pull myself together. You’re right: it only matters to me because I’m letting it. I have nothing else going on in my life. I work 9 to 8 as a retail manager, come home, take a nap, go to the gym at midnight, and that’s my entire life. I just don’t have anything to pour my thoughts into.
But, I realize that’s the problem. If I had other shit going on, I wouldn’t be thinking about this. I’ve let this destroy me. I get high off benadryl, drink myself to sleep every night, smoke vape snus and use chewing tobacco. I’m an absolute wreck and I’m the reason I’m a wreck.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Sounds terribly unfulfilling and unhealthy. Outside of TRP/women you should work to quit all of these drugs and get your shit in order. You have tons of potential.
Leverage your free time and money better, towards new goals. Probably will suck for a good while, but the results will be crazy.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
You're at the bottom of the curve, a low point.
You can and will get better. Now is the day to start. We all wish you well brother.