My Story (22M):
I'm back. I originally started on TRP my junior year of HS after being LJBF'd 3 times. However, I only changed my outer appearance because I still needed approval particularly from women. I knew this stuff was real and true the moment I read it. By the time I went to college I used the strategies to get laid a couple times my first semester, but it wasn't long after the chicks read through my façade.
Once Covid hit, I started getting back into Catholicism for a good number of years. I took it seriously, not that that's anything to brag about. Definitely was much more RP than the culture, but still stuck with the illusion of Oneitis. Lots of good things, but started to incorporate some beta ideas and beliefs.
Now that I just graduated college, landed a job at a local utility doing electrical engineering, I'm ready for more independence. Not only that, I recently tossed Catholicism aside and limited cookie cutter person they set me out to be. I came back fully and completely to TRP just after this (about a week ago).
Monk Mode:
At this moment, I still live at home with my religious parents. It's not exactly conducive for me to live how I want. I love my family, but it's about time I get going. I can't exactly bring home a different girl home every night. I respect my dad and it is his house. With this, I plan on moving out in 6 months around the new year in a one bedroom apartment. My plan is to take this 6 months to immerse myself in a self transformation. This is so that I may become a true man. Not just skin deep like I was years prior.
The plan:
The plan for monk mode is simple as it should be. Wake up at 5am. Go to the gym 6 days a week. Start work and grind on it. Being willing to work longer hours if it makes sense to. Re-immerse myself in some of the finest works from the community including some of Rollo's books, bring back the stoicism classics, Robert Greene, and more.
Emergence:
I plan to come out of this phase once I'm living completely on my own by this January. This is just a vague idea. I expect this all to change as I come to know more about TRP and myself after these 6 months. Not to say I drop everything. But rather, I open myself to the world more and make myself more flexible with sleep schedules so I can enjoy a late night with friends or women. I'm not willing to go to bars alone as I don't drink due to mental health diagnosis. So I plan on using Tinder and meeting people through friends or while in public during the day going about my business.
What I request from you:
From what I know, I'm a small step above a noob. I've accepted TRP as truth and have gone through some internalization. I do not have the experience that all of you have. That is why I came here to bounce my story (so you understand where I'm coming from), and my plan forward. I want to hear your thoughts and experiences on how you think I can make my monk mode more productive and the emergence from it more fruitful. I'm open to any beginner advice too.
Bozza 2 2y ago
You don't need to go to the gym 6 days a week. I've been training for over 4 years and even I don't go that often. If you're just starting out 3 days will be plenty.
I don't see any mention of cultivating social status, friends etc. One of the biggest things about monk mode is it's lonely as fuck. When you're living on your own you will need friends. Even if you have friends, it doesn't hurt to make more. I recommend spending some time each week dedicated to cultivating new friendships. Cold approach men. Join meet up groups etc.
Monk mode isn't just about grinding 24/7. You need an outlet to blow off steam or you will burn out. Find a hobby. It doesn;t have to be productive, but it should be something you enjoy that gives you satisfaction.
rmd123 2y ago
Bozza,
Thank you for your reply. I am still going to start out going 6 days a week, but I will be open if it turns out to be too much. The 6 days a week is more for the sake of routine. I thrive on having solid structure in my day and doing the same thing every day. I'm naturally highly disciplined... sometimes to my demise. But we'll see what happens.
Thank you for mentioning finding friends. I will need that time to blow off steam. Guitar in my free time is not enough to keep me from burnout. I'm doing good with friends right now, but once the summer is over, the rest of my friends will be out of town and I'll lose touch with university friends. I definitely need to find some meet up groups with my interests in guitar and the outdoors. Meeting guys at events shouldn't be a problem. I appreciate your input.
RedPill115 2y ago
Where are they going?
Just saying it might be worthwhile to see if it's something interesting to do.
rmd123 2y ago
They are going all over generally and some for extra schooling or for a 1-2 year stint. The best bet is Cincinnati where probably about 6 of my friends from my first college are at.
However, I would be a fool to quit this job I just started 3 weeks ago. Good pay, Interesting work, great people. I'm also biased to my home city and will only leave if it's absolutely clear that it's time to go.
You brought up a great point. If I was still in the job hunt I probably would have considered Cincinnati. My friend works for an electrical utility there and probably could have hooked me up with a job.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I think monk mode is for when you're a 30yr old virgin that's fat and just found red pill. Or you got divorce raped and have a dad bod and just found red pill. It sounds like you already did monk mode and spun off into white pill. That's not necessarily a bad thing. When you decide to work on your legacy(kids) you'll be surprised at how correct the Catholics and Muslims are about female nature and how they came up with a complete guide to how to have a happy marriage. The religious crap is all just so women have something to hamster their hamsters and remind themselves 5x/day to appreciate their husband.
That being said, it sounds like you are a self-made man. Monk mode was knuckling down in college and landing a career. The next step is to stack money. Go to TDAmeritrade and open a free investment account and take all their free classes. Start planning for retirement now and putting money away in compounded interest. Even better learn how to trade options and rent your money and stocks to other people.
Keep making progress in your career. Know what you need to do to climb the ladder. Keep investing in yourself. Maybe in a year or so you go for a master's or whatever. Working out is also investing in yourself. Maybe you can find a planet fitness gym where they have free personal trainers. Mine costs like $20/mo and I can take a guest.
Definitely move out. Definitely keep in touch with the Church and friend-zone a hot Catholic virgin you can wife up when you're ready. It's going to take you at least 2 years to vet a woman so you can be banging hoes at your apartment while you're getting your bag and vetting marriageable women. If she wants to marry a virgin, lie. Say you're a virgin. Learn how to use the religion. I would talk to my wife once/week when she was in my friend-zone. That's all it takes. Then I would go fuck hoes.
Learn female nature and game and religion. All 5 of Rollo's books cover those. The first one is for guys like you. The second is more for guys in LTRs. The fourth is for religious guys or guys like me married to religious women and probably his best book. The fifth is on game but it seems more like apologizing for female nature. I think Tom Torero's Beginner's Guide to Day Game would be a better use of your time.
rmd123 2y ago
Whytehorse,
Thanks for the reply. I'd love to hear more about using religion. I have a hard time with trying to live a double life in the past. The juggling of stories, keeping track of lies and trying not to be found out can get stressful. I'd like to hear your experience whether that's here or DM's.
Everything here is solid. Thank you. I hope to use this time still living with the parents as a time for further self development as it's not the place to bring hoes over to.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Religion is THE Patriarchy. Men lead and women follow. Women have been trying to change that and Rollo explains it in his book. This is where you get all this blue pill crap in Church. The whole "don't judge me" thing is all for women. The "men can't sleep around" thing is all for women. Nowhere in the Bible does it say men can't fuck other women. It specifically says MARRIED women can't fuck other men. You only commit adultery if you fuck a MARRIED woman.
I don't think of it as leading a double life. I have zero guilt about fucking hoes while I'm married. I have an exclusive relationship and non-exclusive sex. This is how it was in biblical times. Hoes voluntarily choose to have sex outside of marriage. They can walk into a Church any day of the week, repent, and marry one of their orbiters. Instead they choose to sell butthole pics on onlyfans. They're the ones leading a double life. Not me.
As far as religion goes, there are lots of useful things in there. For example, why do we want our women to dress modestly in public? Because it's easier to protect them from other men. Can you imagine having a wife that everybody looks at and thinks she's a hoe?
Or how about premarital sex? Back in the day, women got pregnant from sex. What about adultery? Before DNA tests, there was no way to ensure the kid was yours. What about not withholding sex from your husband? Keeping his balls drained ensured he wasn't going after hoes. It's basically all the stuff red pill talks about but puts it in a way women accept.
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
Along with the freedom of non-exclusive sex comes responsibility. I have a responsibility to give my wife sexual priority and not tell her about other women I fuck. The truth is men and women have different sex drives. Men are always aroused and women go in cycles. This difference can become problematic. It can lead to resentment by both parties.
rmd123 2y ago
That is clear as day. I will have to check out that book this year. This is what I needed to hear.
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
Thanks man. Once you unplug and drain out the blue pill garbage you see the world as it really is and start living a based life.