I don't think you have to be physically gifted or attractive in my opinion, to use these as an extra arm or auxiliary for networking and finding dates. For example, my friend, who only has a riced-out Subaru, occasionally receives dms from girls starting out in the hobby asking for help with their cars, yes he occasionally also gets it.
It can also waste a lot of time. So I don't even try to do highlights. What, on the other hand, is simple to create yet also attractive to display?
What do you post on Instagram? What's your niche? Physical hobbies, such as mma, dancing, and even camping are another excellent example of how one can network socially within these communities. The simplest kinds, in my opinion, are photography, like landscape photos, you'd only need a filter and travel to some place bonus if you like the hobby, or simple physical niche pursuits like partner dancing or rock climbing. I wouldn't suggest linking your insta that's niched on just photography to your hinge or bumble profile, I think activity type of social media portfolio works the best.
Just looking for ways to enhance, make it efficient, and get the most of it without falling for its traps or waste time on it. I can also add that having two accounts is an excellent workflow. One I use for all of my dates, and the other is for my career and closer friends and family. I don't post pictures of my car or show off, but instead do niche activities and they're enough to connect me with others in the same community. I connected with a woman who was looking for a partner to help her train for my city's marathon after she saw my sprinting vid posts from a small competition. I'm just talking about insta now, which is pretty solid because you get to vid call. It's literally get the follower or reach out on dm, find a time to call and then escalate from there OR get info for other things like events or your hobbies.
Then again, you have to watch out because anyone can see who follows you and who you follow, I've had a friend that had his ex from his short term relationship message all the women who followed him and show how much he was an ahole. Nothing you can do to prevent these. It's a two way street. You can just also keep it on whatsapp or just plain texting, better if you both are iphones so you can vid call. I think the more media options to share, the better it is you can escalate just by pure analog. But it can get kind of tough because I know I follow some things that some women may find not to their liking. I get easily distracted so I only access insta from my laptop, though it would be logistically better to have it on my phone as I can easily trade id's w anyone instead of asking them to follow me. What do you put in your social media, how do you run your social media?
RedPirate751 11mo ago
Social media is worthless, and in your efforts to build "social proof" on social media you will end up just chasing pointless validation from people who's opinions don't actually matter - which is exactly what has happened to all the women on there too.
You don't need to prove that your life is awesome. Go out and live a fucking awesome life and the proof will come as a consequence of that, no chasing required.
Bozza 11mo ago
My Instagram is just a showcase of me and my life. I like to make a minimum of one post per month, anything else is a bonus.
Every main photo has to contain you in it. If you take pictures of random shit, it will only get a fraction of the engagement. If you do want to post random shit - like a cool sunset when you were travelling - make it into a multi-image post. But the main photo should always be a picture of you.
I just naturally take photos as I'm doing shit. Go for drinks or a meal, snap a photo. Go to the beach, snap a photo. Go for a bike ride, snap a photo. Literally anything you are doing, take a photo. It takes 30 seconds to get someone to snap a photo, or put your phone down on a timer.
If you post frequently then you will be picked up by the Instagram algorithm. You'll either show up in the discover tab, or you'll show up for people as a suggested account. I've managed to get tons of passive leads just by doing this.
Women will follow me and like a bunch of my posts as an IOI. You simply open them and the success rate for getting a date is pretty high. I've also had many occasions where I've been out and women have come up to me "I'm sure I recognize you", after a bit of back and forth I'll find out they follow me on Instagram. Again, success rate for dates and lays is pretty high.
Stories are fucking gold dust as they give women plausible deniability to open you on a silver platter.. Quick 10 second video of whatever shit it is you're doing, and maybe some random shit that happens throughout the day. Ridiculously good ROI for a few minutes of your time.
The social proof is also a game changer. Post good stuff, get followers, easy social proof. If you have cute and hot women who regularly like and comment on your posts, you have both social proof and pre selection for almost zero effort.
Boosted_Arrow 11mo ago
"The social proof is also a game changer. Post good stuff, get followers, easy social proof. If you have cute and hot women who regularly like and comment on your posts, you have both social proof and pre selection for almost zero effort."
Sounds easier than done.
Bozza 11mo ago
To a degree, but you don't even have to game them or fuck them. You simply need to be friends with them.
Once you've built some rapport with them and you know them, people will like and comment on your posts just out of general social etiquette.
I have shitloads of hot women on my IG I've never fucked. Ex coworkers, friends hot sisters, staff at places I frequent, personal trainers at the gym etc.
Acela_nextel 11mo ago
Are any of them trans?
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