Through a combination of my academic and financial achievements, time in the gym, and analyzing my negative thoughts I have put myself into a much better mental state. I would be able to look a girl directly in the eye and tell her I'm going to take her and make her mine with minimal to none flinching. I have some experience making small talk with people and I've learned about being empathetic to what they are saying responding to validate what they have said, or sharing my own related experience, and asking them questions, having good tone and facial expressions, eye contact, etc.
At the gym the other day I walked in with a controlled high status demeanor and looked the receptionist right in the eye and greeted her in a confident/dominant manner and got her to check me in and give me a towel. A day or two later we were walking in opposite directions and she had a big smile and looked at me. Here is where I'm not too sure what to do, am I supposed to give a soft smile back in a confident almost cocky way and maintain eye contact and walk right up to her and introduce myself and ask her out?
I'm unsure what to do with the smile here does it mean 1) smile back and look at her until she looks away 2) if walking towards her smile keep eye contact and make some innuendo if she seems receptive to it"Hey, how's it going? I specialize in one on one training for female athletes. I'll take your number and see if we can't arrange a private session." 3) smile, look at her until she looks away, go do some exercise, come back and approach her later.
TLDR: Someone give me tip on what to say and do when girl I have attracted is smiling at me in the gym. What I did in the moment was look at her without smiling and be the the first to look away and then just continued my work out. Next time I saw her she didn't react to passing me.
Desaint 2 weeks ago
This is autistic.
Just talk to her more and ask her out for a coffee.
JCantell 2 weeks ago
Exit the mind. Flow.
Overthinking is a silent killer of potential.
Lionsmane8 2 weeks ago
Sounds like a robot.
Bro, relax. If you feel like smiling smile, if you feel like frowing frown, smirking smirk, winiking wink etc.
Try to get out of your head.
Problematic_Browser 2 weeks ago
Saint Asperger's, protect me from this shit.
What the fuck are you talking about here?
mattyanon 2 weeks ago
This is a good goal but it's usually too direct to get you laid.
Steady on there my man.
Forget the soft smile: smile big. No downsides to this. Maintain contact yes.
What happens next isn't all on you: she has a part to play too. Sure, stop and introduce yourself, but making some amount of chit chat is good. You probably don't know how to do this from how you talk.
Very quickly: have something to say, listen to her jabber on about whatever, tease her, ask zero questions, HAVE FUN WITH HER.
If that's going great, tell her "Hey, I'm doing XXX fun thing later, you should join me". Notice that this is all statements and isn't asking anything. After that see where it goes.
Jeez dude, calm your autistic heels a little.
Smile back, maintain eye contact, doesn't matter who looks away first as much as you think it does.
She's just smiling at you and you're both being friendly. This is great, but she isn't planning out a sequence of moves that you both do before sex. She feels things, you come across as confident, she enjoys that. Maybe she's single, maybe she isn't, but you can't pre-plan all this shit out in your head like you are trying to do.
Matthew 2 weeks ago
Thank you for being the only one to give a real response this is very helpful
PetieT 2 weeks ago
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User4566 2 weeks ago
You're over-thinking. I'd recommend practicing smiling in the mirror and also thinking of things that make you laugh.
Last time I was at the gym, a girl looked into my eyes for like 5 whole seconds and I kept catching her when I was looking around. I didn't do anything because I was caught off guard but it happens. Next time, I'll be more receptive.
Unstirred0067 2 weeks ago
Ok, her job is to be nice, so don't count to much on any IOIs she might give you.
She has something to sell to you? Double doubt any IOIs.
Don't shit where you eat. Do you really need the drama in the gym when you plates meet for yoga class?