Yo, I get along well with a chick. Like, she's always approaching me at work, and she's fairly physical with me as well, and it's a good relationship. But I'm not sure how to ask her out without sounding needy, or retarded. And I don't like all the drama around asking someone else out at work. I know you guys aren't wizards or anything, but how do you get rid of that type of approach anxiety, and how do I ask her out without sounding dumb?
TLDR: I can approach her just fine, but I'm afraid of asking her out. Is there a trick to getting over it?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Unless you have a passive, short term job this is an absolutely horrendous idea.
For good reason. Don't shit where you eat. She can fuck you over and your entire career over in a heartbeat.
If you're determined to YOLO it just ask her to coffee or something in the middle of a normal conversation. Don't do much different than a normal game set (except obviously don't kino and shit at work or drop innuendo)
Still, this is a horrible idea. You're correct to have apprehension unless you work in fast food or something so inconsequential that you could find a new job next week if you had to
Xanaswarm 3y ago
Thanks for the advice. I'll probably avoid going out with her. I've already done a bit of kino, (And that's just kinda natural. We work close by, she gets physical naturally, and I mess back.). But I haven't done anything else, and I certainly don't want to loose that job.
Also, I really am new here, I know what game is, but what would a normal game set be?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Don't go out with her.
Whenever you're gaming, that's a set. Whatever that interaction is before you part ways is the set.
A normal one is what you would expect, you just run game and move things along.
An abnormal one would be something like being extra forward and taking big risks, insta kiss, etc
Xanaswarm 3y ago
Relax, I ain't going out with her. Don't get me wrong, there's part of me that wants to. And another part of me that was unsure of what to do. But I've already done that with another chick, and I've been burned already. So, I can't fault your logic, and it looks like I can't avoid the issues involved in dating a co-worker. Ergo, it's kind of pointless to try.
On another note, thank you for explaining the basics.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
That's even worse. Causal work sex? Infinitely more likely to get burned than if you sought out a relationship from work
Dude, she can and will burn you for anything:
She hooks up with you and finds out you're talking to another chick? Revenge Burn.
Hooks up with you but didn't like the sex. Burn.
Hooks up with you but doesn't like that you got that promotion instead of her? Burn.
Sees you talking to another female coworker even if you're not interested in the other one or she sees another female coworker flirt with you even if you're not interested? Burn.
Bored and just wants to stir up the workplace because fuck you? Burn.
Women do not take any personal responsibility for their actions, she can just fuck you over for any reason at any time, regardless of how frivolous or consensual everything was
Xanaswarm 3y ago
To be honest I wasn't even thinking of causal work sex. I want my job more than I want pussy.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Good, that's how it should be
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Bozza 2 3y ago
Don't shit where you eat. You'll wish you never did it. Trust me.
But if you're hell bent on YOLOing it, and you want to find out that lesson the hard way then just ask her out. Strike up a conversation, begin flirting and then ask her out.
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RedPirate751 3y ago
You probably shouldn't ask out a girl from work. But to answer your question about the anxiety, the only way out is through. Don't look to escape the anxiety. Bear it, and you'll see that the things you're anxious about weigh far less than they once seemed.
Xanaswarm 3y ago
Thanks for a comprehensive response to my anxiety question. I was hoping there was a trick (Like crossing your eyes and dotting your tees) that would make it easier. But knowing that "the only way out is through" gives me a good perspective on how I should handle things from now on.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Just skip the step of asking her out and put your dick in her and cum. Simple really. Oh and don't shit where you eat.
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
AVOID, NEXT.