My girlfriend who is 18 has been harassed multiple times in her father's restaurant/pub. She has to work there, because her father is unable to find employees because it's located far from the city, and because the place is opened only on Fridays and weekends. I cannot be there for the next 2 months as I am studying for my highschool graduation exams. She has been harassed multiple times by older men, around 40-50 years of age. They've made a lot of unnappropriate comments, purposely touched her hands while handing them beer, touching her earrings and so on. Today, multiple men, ages 40-50 years old were asking her for her name, repeatedly were calling her by her name when she served food and beer to them, asked her if she was 15 already (age of consent to sex in my country) and asked her to give them her number.
I'm 19 years old, I workout and have been boxing for 2.5 years actively, including sparrings. Obviously, this makes me very furious. I told her the next time someone harasess her, I'll come and deal with them.
Would you go and tell them to fuck off and possibly fight them, or is this a bad idea and I should just brush it off my shoulder until I'm able to be there with her?

shaketheroom 2y ago
Really beta post. Turning into white knight and mate guarding 2.0
The truth is that all our girlfriends are being hit on all day. This is not a unicorn case, bro. Do you see boyfriends going into girlfriends work and throwing hands with customers and coworker orbiters? No.
You need to accept that even ugly young girls are trying to get fucked by horny guys, just a reality. Unless you are disrespected in your face, you need to stay out of this. This may also be a shit test to make you mate guard her, its a reaction she wants out of you, but at the end of the day if you give it to her, her pussy will dry up like a sponge in the sun, and maybe 2 weeks after that some 52 year old banker man who is on an all expenses paid-work trip staying in the Marriott down the street is going to spit game and shell think about tasting his cock through his dress pants
And she wont think twice about it because she lost respect for that time you showed jealous and inseurity and heres a grown man who has manly qualities or wahtever.
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shaketheroom 2y ago
Touching hands when handing someone something is considered sexual harassment?
Ive had cashiers do this to me, and I always got a mildly flirty vibe from it, but sometimes it seemed as if it was on accident too. I didnt know it was perceived as harassment lmao. Gen Z Girls are different,. bro.
RedPill115 2y ago
The feminist game is to turn everything that could be flirty into "harrassment".
If you assume the end goal is to ensure that no one dates anyone ever their patterns become understandable.
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mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Has she though?
And is it as bad as she says?
Women vastly exaggerate these things.
And that's harassment? Sounds pretty mild, you must admit.
Calm your tits, this isn't a big deal.
Good plan dude, go to prison for assaulting a guy who has done nothing wrong.
Your girlfriend is intentionally triggering jealousy in you, this is partly to make her feel secure and partly to get excitement. Maybe to make you jealous too.
Don't fall for this shit. SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THERE. "My father makes me" could be an exaggeration too.
Don't take women so seriously, and understand the concept of proxy violence, otherwise known as the female game of "let's you and him fight".
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
It pretty much goes with the territory. Drunk people do stupid stuff. Her dad is putting her in a really bad position. Maybe she should work in the kitchen instead of being prostituted out to customers...
Overkill_Engine Endorsed Contributor 2y ago
And if her Dad isn't interested in getting customers to keep their hands to themselves, that is a red flag warning anyone willing to see it that maybe OP should not be investing in this woman, much less mate guarding.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Did it enter your head that she is exaggerating? To what extent do you think that older guys are 'harassing' her in her place of work, with her father right there? Perhaps they are being nice to her, maybe using the word 'darling' or 'sweetheart' when they say thanks.
Can you not see what is going on? She's damseling. To try and ignite your white knight response. And its working. You fell for it.
Chicks do this all the time. They want you to be the solution to all their problems, even those that don't actually exist. You need to pull back from this, asap. Otherwise a few things will happen;
you will give in to your childish desire for revenge, end up going to her place of work, and embarrassing yourself. Embarrassing yourself would be the best case scenario, the worse case scenario would be that you get your ass whipped AND get a conviction for assault.
Next time she starts up with this, you say;
Sounds like a work place issue - you need to talk to your line manager, not me. (that's the polite way of saying this)
If you think you're in any danger, you need to call the police, not me. (call her on out on her exageration)
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Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
I'm guessing that you are still young and still learning - which is great.
"Shouldn't you act in a caring / beta way" you ask.
I think you know the answer to that question! Definitely not. If you start becoming their problem solver, they are going to very quickly pivot into child / parent relationship. This is what all women want. They are all looking for a replacement daddy, and if you start out by white knighting and solving their issues, that is where you will end up. You will end up babysitting a childish woman.
Women all subconsciously want to regress to a child like state. This is the reason why they like having cuddly toys, choose low paid low end jobs, watch stupid 'romantic' movies etc etc. Just look at the state of an apartment / bedroom of the average single woman in their 20s ...its like a 14 year old is living there.
The trick is to NOT fall for this nonsense. It's easy to see how a young man can fall into that trap, because they will put on the little cute voice and tilt their head to the side, maybe turn on the tears and say...."wwuhhh wushhhhhh wahhh .... I have a pwoblem, I need you to fix it... "
Don't do it.