On paper, it seems like I have the perfect life. I have many 'friends/acquaintances', plates, goals in my life, good bond with my brother/cousin, about to graduate, ... But most of the time I feel so lonely.
The truth is that I hate spinning plates. Even when I have a good rotation, it makes me feel empty inside, because deep down I don't care about any of these girls. It seems like I have lost the ability to bond with most people. Even when I'm out for drinks with plates or girls in general, all the stuff they talk about is so damn boring, and doesn't interest me at all. The only reason why I'm spinning plates is that I'm really picky when it comes to relationships.
Even when it comes to male friends, most of them are so boring. They used to be so fun to hang around with, but now all they want to do is sit at home with their girlfriends. Making plans with them feels like a chore, and it seems like they've lost their personality that once was so fun. Even my closest friends have all become boring. All they talk about is their girlfriends, and barely do fun stuff anymore.
This is not the first time I'm experiencing this kind of loneliness. This happens like every 6 months. I'm doing fine, reaching my goals, have multiple plates, ... And out of nowhere, I get this feeling of loneliness. The process is always the same. I have this destructive habit of ditching all of my plates, until I have 0 plates anymore.
I've been going out by myself occasionally. Been doing this for 1–2 years now, and at first it's fun, but it's so exhausting. I've met some fun people, and had great times, but at the end of the day, it makes me feel even more lonely, if that makes sense. I'm walking around in the city, surrounded by groups of people having fun.
I'm not depressed by any means. I use this loneliness to work on myself. I'm in the best shape of my life, about to graduate, have long/short term goals, read books, eat healthy, ... Even got my test levels checked and they're above average. I don't know what to do anymore. I miss having a close group of friends you can do fun stuff with. And I still have that blue pill dream of having that one perfect girl by my side.
How to deal with these feelings? Things will get better, I know that, but like I've said before, this happens every 6 months. It feels like I'm not passionate about anything, except for my degree.
huntshaded 2y ago
With my wife and two children, I am never lonely. After getting everything in order, you begin to consider your legacy (kids). Normally, you would have found a woman who wishes to be a wife and mother by now in Western countries, but due to feminism, this is no longer an option. Simply choose the traditional woman of the desired race and travel to the country that produces these women. I believe that E. Europe is the optimal location for white chicks, S.E. Asia for Asian chicks, Latin America for Latinas, and Africa for black chicks. https://xtrench-run.com
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 2y ago
I feel you bro. I was w my main chick for like past 6 months; dumped her and went back to spinning plates.
every now n then I get hit w those pangs of loneliness too; sometimes I miss having her around w me.
ultimately fuck it; the path to greatness is a lonely one. become comfortable with it. when you feel lonely it prolly means you’re doing the right shit. every once in a while you’ll meet a chick you vibe w more than others or make friends that have common interests and are headed in similar directions. those become your people. i only have a handful of friends I call brothers.
stay busy keep grinding
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nicknack 2y ago
How old are you? You get used to it my man. It’s part of being a male.
koedeloe123 2y ago
I'm 25 years old. And yep, I know it will get better, it always does, but it sucks.
minecraftguy__v7b 2y ago
https://youtu.be/92X97El4X9c Watch this man, maybe this is for you.
Lionsmane8 2y ago
What is fun?
No offense I always cringe when a man above 16 talks about "fun" like he was some chick.
koedeloe123 2y ago
Fun is being passionate about something, trying out new stuff, getting out of your comfort zone, ... Not sure why it's cringe. I'm not talking about getting shitfaced, just doing stuff in general.
Boar_excrement 2y ago
How much freedom would you sacrifice for companionship? How many married men with children are lonely AND isolated? How many divorced men are lonely and broke in a life of court-ordered servitude?
Companionship is no barrier to loneliness if there is no connection between the parties. The connection, appreciation and affirmation you are seeking can only be built by mutual respect and trust. Good luck getting those from a modern woman.
The older I get the less lonely I become as I realize the freedom to deal with life solely on my terms.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I'm never lonely with my wife and 2 kids in tow. After you get all your ducks in a row you start to think about your legacy(kids). Normally you would've found a woman who wants to be a wife and mother by now but thanks to feminism that is off the table in Western countries. Just pick what color woman you want and go to the country that produces those color traditional women. I think it E. Europe for white chicks, SE Asia for Asian chicks, Latin America for Latinas, and Africa for black chicks.