On paper, it seems like I have the perfect life. I have many 'friends/acquaintances', plates, goals in my life, good bond with my brother/cousin, about to graduate, ... But most of the time I feel so lonely.
The truth is that I hate spinning plates. Even when I have a good rotation, it makes me feel empty inside, because deep down I don't care about any of these girls. It seems like I have lost the ability to bond with most people. Even when I'm out for drinks with plates or girls in general, all the stuff they talk about is so damn boring, and doesn't interest me at all. The only reason why I'm spinning plates is that I'm really picky when it comes to relationships.
Even when it comes to male friends, most of them are so boring. They used to be so fun to hang around with, but now all they want to do is sit at home with their girlfriends. Making plans with them feels like a chore, and it seems like they've lost their personality that once was so fun. Even my closest friends have all become boring. All they talk about is their girlfriends, and barely do fun stuff anymore.
This is not the first time I'm experiencing this kind of loneliness. This happens like every 6 months. I'm doing fine, reaching my goals, have multiple plates, ... And out of nowhere, I get this feeling of loneliness. The process is always the same. I have this destructive habit of ditching all of my plates, until I have 0 plates anymore.
I've been going out by myself occasionally. Been doing this for 1–2 years now, and at first it's fun, but it's so exhausting. I've met some fun people, and had great times, but at the end of the day, it makes me feel even more lonely, if that makes sense. I'm walking around in the city, surrounded by groups of people having fun.
I'm not depressed by any means. I use this loneliness to work on myself. I'm in the best shape of my life, about to graduate, have long/short term goals, read books, eat healthy, ... Even got my test levels checked and they're above average. I don't know what to do anymore. I miss having a close group of friends you can do fun stuff with. And I still have that blue pill dream of having that one perfect girl by my side.
How to deal with these feelings? Things will get better, I know that, but like I've said before, this happens every 6 months. It feels like I'm not passionate about anything, except for my degree.
financehardo420 about a week ago
I feel you bro. I was w my main chick for like past 6 months; dumped her and went back to spinning plates.
every now n then I get hit w those pangs of loneliness too; sometimes I miss having her around w me.
ultimately fuck it; the path to greatness is a lonely one. become comfortable with it. when you feel lonely it prolly means you’re doing the right shit. every once in a while you’ll meet a chick you vibe w more than others or make friends that have common interests and are headed in similar directions. those become your people. i only have a handful of friends I call brothers.
stay busy keep grinding
FR33DOM_over_F33R about a week ago
I can definitely relate to you, in the sense that spinning plates can be lonely or unfulfilling. I know people who spin plates, but also have one main partner just to have intercourse and for the semblance of a relationship. They seem to be very happy doing that, but then again, it can be a rollercoaster. When one plate finds out about another one, that can start a whole forest fire.
Personally, these are my thoughts on this topic. You're in your mid-20s, you are just starting to gain traction and value in life. Men age like fine wine, the older we get, the more value we bring, and the more options we open. Here's the other thing, here in the west there are very BAD options. Most girls are 304's because they can reach thousands of thirsty men via social media. Whereas in the past, a king would not even see a fraction of pretty women you can find on socials.
This is why I see Plate Theory as vital to us high-value men. We know that we can do better, spin one plate, if things don't work out, spin another. You don't even need to practice it, more so it's about having that kind of a mindset instilled in you. I even noticed that after starting to spin plates, more women find me attractive, and nothing changed other than my attitude.
But everything good comes with its drawbacks. There are advantages of having one partner, starting a family, having a ride-or-die, but that should occur at the right time and place. I don't believe 25 is the right time, not even close. Most men say that early- mid 30's is the correct time. Who knows. During the World Wars people would get married in their late teens and early 20s, but times have changed. As a result, we adapt.
nicknack about a week ago
How old are you? You get used to it my man. It’s part of being a male.
koedeloe123 about a week ago
I'm 25 years old. And yep, I know it will get better, it always does, but it sucks.
minecraftguy__v7b about a week ago
https://youtu.be/92X97El4X9c Watch this man, maybe this is for you.
Lionsmane8 about a week ago
What is fun?
No offense I always cringe when a man above 16 talks about "fun" like he was some chick.
koedeloe123 about a week ago
Fun is being passionate about something, trying out new stuff, getting out of your comfort zone, ... Not sure why it's cringe. I'm not talking about getting shitfaced, just doing stuff in general.
Boar_excrement about a week ago
How much freedom would you sacrifice for companionship? How many married men with children are lonely AND isolated? How many divorced men are lonely and broke in a life of court-ordered servitude?
Companionship is no barrier to loneliness if there is no connection between the parties. The connection, appreciation and affirmation you are seeking can only be built by mutual respect and trust. Good luck getting those from a modern woman.
The older I get the less lonely I become as I realize the freedom to deal with life solely on my terms.
whytehorse2021 about a week ago
I'm never lonely with my wife and 2 kids in tow. After you get all your ducks in a row you start to think about your legacy(kids). Normally you would've found a woman who wants to be a wife and mother by now but thanks to feminism that is off the table in Western countries. Just pick what color woman you want and go to the country that produces those color traditional women. I think it E. Europe for white chicks, SE Asia for Asian chicks, Latin America for Latinas, and Africa for black chicks.