Ok guys let’s be honest I get abundance and all that but sometimes there’s one girl you still like more than the rest even when you’ve got others interested in you.
I was in the early stages with a girl that I’d known for a while, then she slowly grew distant over a couple weeks then told me she wants nothing anymore and wants to stay friends.
Being realistic, is there a decent chance to get her back if I play this right? I agreed with her on ending it, and then she’s hit me with small talk a couple times on social media since then and I kept it short and sweet.
We haven’t interacted for a couple weeks now, she was obsessed with me then one day it changed. Do you think if she happens to hear about me getting with another girl through the grapevine she might come back around to me? Any advice on how to get her back
In the couple times we had a little exchange on social media she mentioned about how ‘we don’t talk anymore’ makes me think she’s a bit upset I don’t talk to her as much now. Thanks.
And in general, how final is a ‘I just want to be friends now’ end to something, is there a decent chance to pull her back. Lol I wanna be friends with her and catch her around at college and stuff cause I care but I just distanced myself from what went wrong it sucks.
financehardo420 1y ago
It happens man. Be stoic and accept the situation for what it is. She’s prob fucking w someone else now and decided that the other guy is a better fit for her.
Don’t sweat it; ppl come and go all the time. Focus on your purpose and keep grinding. When you’re mad; hit the gym. The gains will get you more birds. Focus on the chicks that fw you and you’re good friend
Blahhalbchoo 1y ago
Thanks man. Yeah haha already got with another chick but didn’t even feel anything lol just numbness. I fucked up with that girl accidentally I was a mega asshole and I think I ruined something between us then I tried to be a bit nicer to make up for it but she was just different. Any advice like was it me destroying the comfort that ruined everything or was it me being a bit nicer which she misconstrued as neediness. Do you think my approach should be different toward her depending on which one it was.
Lol she’s like the only one I like but the thought in the back of my head that I was too much of a cunt makes me wanna contact her and make it all better
financehardo420 1y ago
Are you an alpha or are you a fucking beta?
Don’t ever simp for a bitch. As a matter of fact; that line of “she’s the only one I like” thinking is going to be detrimental to your mental health. It’s called oneitis and you need to have strong willpower to overcome it.
Sucks when you like a bitch but she doesn’t like you back - it is what it is. Women are attracted to strength not simps. I’ve lost plates before only to have them run back to me later on. Simping will guarantee you permanently lose the plate. Being a king about it and moving on like she meant absolutely nothing to you… that’s the only thing that will reattract them.
Blahhalbchoo 1y ago
Alpha. Yeah I know I’ve never done any simpy behaviour really feel like I left with my self respect. It’s just complicated dude I fucked up really bad one time on accident now I can’t decide whether it ended cause I was accidentally a cunt or something else you know.
But I need to know, if we’re around at college on the same days would it be a bad thing to sit in the library together or do you think this would lower my chances of getting back with her. Like if we’re just chilling studying and I show abundance and some good game would this help?
Just keep thinking if she left because I was cold and didn’t care about her enough, would acting like she meant nothing to me really make her come back or just reaffirm that she was right to leave
financehardo420 1y ago
Look man here’s a couple recent experiences for me.
Had one plate; I fucked the living shit out of her like 3 times in one week. After that I’d hit her up and she wouldn’t come over. She ended up texting me some bs ab she’s going thru some issues rn whatever whatever.
I’m like ok well ig hmu whenever you’re done w her shit. Haven’t hit her up since. Now she blows my shit up begging me to dick her down.
My fav chick on my roster… absolute DIME. Blonde hair, gorgeous face, blue eyes, big tits, slim waist plus a perfect fat ass. I’ve fucked her like 3 times and I had coke dick 2 of those times and did it with a dislocated shoulder the third time. Needless to say, I never succeeded in giving her iron chef pipe.
However… I maintained my frame. When she pulled back, I pulled back. in my case, I noticed like yea I was having some oneitis tendencies for this chick. Overly eager to drop my other hoes so I could fuck her instead. Started pulling back even more and I think it took maybe like 3 days for her to start chasing me. I’m probably gonna rail her guts out tonight or Wednesday night (weds is usually her go out night). She’s got a bunch of her shit at my place so she’s gonna have to come grab it eventually and that’s when it’ll happen.
It’s like going fishing… you just gotta be patient don’t force anything. Don’t chase bitches just let them come to you. And if they don’t come to you, that means they don’t fw you on the same level that you fw them. Why waste your time and energy on a bitch that doesn’t want it? It’s 3.5billion other chicks in the world… let’s say 10% are hot and 1% are ultra hot…. That’s 315m hot chicks and ~35m ultra hot chicks. Bitches are very replaceable man. In the words of future: chase a check don’t chase a bitch
Blahhalbchoo 1y ago
Thanks. Like shit was pretty sudden but she wants to friends and all that but I mostly shut all the constant texting down. But she straight up told me she wants nothing from me anymore we wouldn’t work out but she wants to stay friends.
Do you have any experiences with women starting antidepressants and their behaviour changing afterward cause I keep thinking about that as well.
Do you think casually hanging out one on one when we’re in the same area is sorta sending the wrong message or should I just straight up not meet with her
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Blahhalbchoo 1y ago
Thanks man. Have a few questions. Isn’t it almost buthurt to not respond especially when you’ve known her a while. I think she met another guy when I was too much of an asshole to her, I tried being a bit nicer cause I felt so guilty of how I treated her but it ended a few weeks later.
So not sure whether I need to be nicer when she messages me or still really aloof.
Also, I never post girls on my social media let alone post at all, so won’t this come across like I’m trying to make her jealous. Thankyou
Bulba 1y ago
This works. You could even hire a scort to take some pictures with you. Or some girl at rentafriend.com .
Blahhalbchoo 1y ago
Wouldn’t this come across desperate, what do you reckon next time I’m on a date just post it
Bulba 1y ago
Well, this works too. But hiring someone for social proof wouldn't come across as desperate because nobody would know that you paid for it.
Blahhalbchoo 1y ago
Yes correct, I meant wouldn’t it look desperate to make the post with a girl in it in the first place, like almost forced? I don’t really post much
hatefatwomen23 1y ago
90% of the time, there's another dude in the picture. The same thing happened to me two years ago. Plated a girl who was all over me, but out of nowhere she went cold on me. Hard nexted her, and not even two weeks later I heard she's dating another guy through mutual friends.
Bumped into her a few times afterward, and she tried to start a conversation, but I kept it short and went on with my day. From my experience, it's always best to move on, and focus your attention on other girls. There's no point in digging through the trash. Things will never be the same as before.
Personally, I only plate/date girls who are all over me. If it's not a hell yes from her, it's a no from me. Why waste your time on girls who go cold on you, play games, and waste your time? Even if in the best case scenario you end up plating her again, what do you gain from it? Nothing.
The best way to 'get back at her' is by ignoring her, moving on with your life, and walking around with girls who are hotter than her. Nothing better than bumping into one of your ex plates/girlfriends with a dime around your arm. The look on their faces are priceless.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
She felt your energy shift. You like her and she knows it, that's why she grew distant.
Stop talking to her, spend time with other chicks, demonstrate it.
Also you shouldn't have agreed to "be friends" bullshit. There is no free chit-chat, it comes with a price tag, that price tag is pussay.
Give it some time, keep your texts sparse, distant and when she's warmed up enough through attention attrition, hit her up with a "come to my place".
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Give it up dude.
It can happen again, but it won't be like it was.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
chatGPT4: If you want to try to get this girl back, it's important to approach the situation with honesty, respect, and open communication. It's important to understand why she grew distant and why she ended things, and to address any issues that may have contributed to the breakup.
It's also important to give her space and time to process her feelings. If she has expressed that she wants to be friends, it's important to respect her wishes and not pressure her into anything she's not comfortable with.
If you do decide to pursue her again, it's important to do so in a respectful and non-threatening way. Don't try to manipulate or pressure her into anything, and be honest about your intentions.
In terms of whether hearing about you getting with another girl might make her come back around, it's impossible to say. Everyone is different and has their own unique reactions to situations like this.
Ultimately, the success of any relationship depends on mutual respect, trust, and communication. It's important to focus on building a strong connection with someone based on shared values and interests, rather than trying to manipulate or control the situation.