Decided to go solo in a club/bar tonight, in a few hours. My mindset right now is to just go and have a good time, enjoy myself and see what happens. Just like I'd go to a coffee shop during the day kind of.
I'm 24 and it's not that I don't have friends or something, but people my age are really boring and don't do anything cool and I got so fed up of boring and entitled people that I want to enjoy things on my own and perhaps meet some new people also.
I'll play some electric guitar before I'll go to get in a nice, groovy mood. I'm a bit anxious about this, but not as bad as I would've imagined I'd be, but I don't have any expectations about this, if something interesting happens, it happens.
On the other hand, I wanna prove myself I can go out and have a good time without waiting for other chumps that don't wanna hangout.
I live in a big city in Europe, but I'm easily in the top 20% of good-looking, muscular guys at the clubs/bars here, not to be bragging or something :). Problem is, people are usually NPCs and dead in the club, just bouncing on both of their legs and they always look so god damn bored all the time.
What would your advice be for a newb like me in regards to going solo?
Rustrike 2y ago
I've done it a few times in the past. It's alright if you do it just to enjoy yourself. But I think if you're looking to chat up girls, they'll be judgemental about you being a 'loner' and dumb shit like that... Cuz you know, women can be dumb... At least here in London for sure. Best to have a wing buddy.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
chatGPT4: It's great that you're taking the initiative to go out and have a good time on your own! Going solo can be a great way to meet new people and have new experiences.
Here are some tips for going out solo:
Be confident: Remember that you are there to have a good time and enjoy yourself. Be confident in who you are and don't be afraid to strike up conversations with people.
Be open-minded: Be open to meeting new people and trying new things. Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new.
Be observant: Take in your surroundings and observe the people around you. Look for opportunities to strike up conversations or join in on activities.
Be respectful: Respect other people's boundaries and don't be pushy or aggressive. If someone isn't interested in talking or hanging out, move on and find someone else.
Have fun: Remember that the most important thing is to have fun and enjoy yourself. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to meet someone or have a certain outcome.
Overall, going out solo can be a great way to challenge yourself and have new experiences. Just remember to be confident, open-minded, observant, respectful, and most importantly, have fun!
1on1 2y ago
You really need to have balls to go by yourself. I feel anxiety when I go only with one friend ,can imagine how it is t9 go by yourself. I am 24 as well btw.
SSeuSS 2y ago
I go on my own for years now.
Wingman jobs are much much much easier.
Becarefule socializing with drunks, they will spoil your game likely.
Don't count on other dudes in general. Use them for social proof but over the YEARS I have met only FEW that knew it is better to join the forces for purpose. Rest is either: blue, can't do shit, same purpose but don't want to coop, think you will do all the job, are afraid you are crypto gay or whatever...
The only anxiety I have is that doormen crew will be rotated or new policies and they won't allow single men. I have lost acxes to good places this way.