I’ve been cold approaching now, getting #s and striking up conversation with everyone. My teases aren’t that good. I don’t have a good foundation of what women want from a conversation.
This was discovered because I’m lost when it comes to texting. The confidence is there, but I’m lost as in don’t know where to begin or where to lead. I’m receiving help my issue. I have no background information or anything that helps me just “get it.”
Again, my complete dependence on other people to text for me is indicative that I don’t have this fundamental down. (I guess this would be the gamey part of conversation).
I’m socially competent, not sperging anymore in live convo but I just don’t get what makes women ticks and will lead me to dates. I know it’s emotion related, but beyond that it’s foreign. I’m starting from the ground up, please link me rp articles or the theory on this stuff.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
It's not a question of what they want, because women don't have the same "have goals, work towards them" mentality that we do. It's why what they say and what they do makes no fucking sense: they don't work at the level of "do things to get results".
Their only real goal of any conversation is to maintain their social status.
reframing your question slightly: what do women RESPOND to.
Which is this: emotional connection. By which I mean anything that triggers an emotional response. Avoid gore or disgusting or toilet things, but everything else works: sex, conflict, fear, surprise, shock. Think clickbait.
Ideally you are talking in a way that triggers emotions in her while you remain relatively calm and detached.
Texting is for logistics, you build attraction in person. If this is entirely OLD, go out and meet real women who are not attention farming you.
Attraction, emotional connection (which means lots of emotions triggered in her), intrigue, comfort. Be as physically attractive as you can! It's really really hard if you have nothing to interest the girl to start with. Learn to talk well. BE HIGH STATUS.
There's a tonne of info out there, not sure how to find what you need though - search for it. Make sure its RP related. Don't shy away from old school pickup!
Check out Todd V on youtube
whytehorse2021 2y ago
People love talking about themselves. It really is that simple. Learn what topics are safe to bring up at the different stages of getting to know a woman. Like for example when you're first getting to know her you might ask if she has any pets when the convo dries up.
chadinthemaking69 2y ago
Yeah ask them about themselves. tease them about shit when it comes up. Don’t force shit. They will talk and talk and talk and talk. All you gotta do is keep the vibe chill and fun
Have fun is the most important part. If you aren’t having fun, find another girl. Girls mirror your frame, when you have fun they will too, not all the time obviously though. This is where having a strong frame comes in. Don’t let their bitchiness or boredness affect you and your good time.
Lionsmane8 2y ago
Ok, i'll give you a little shortcut to sanity.
Stop forcing things.
Let me explain, think of your buddies. How did you become buddies? Do you wreck your head trying to figure out what to say to them before saying it? Or does it just come out naturally?
What about randos? Maybe work related, people on the street? You usually think of something to say that is relevant and then you say it.
There is such a thing as compatibility. When values, interests, frames of mind and other things align, conversations flow and connections are built.
The same applies to women, but with a twist (sex & feels).
So don't force it. To my knowledge there is no pattern of language, or cheat code tgat unlocks all pussy.
Just make the effort, make small talk, be interesting, be flirty, sexualize the conversation, put in the numbers, don't be a sperg. It's a social game and a numbers game.
When the right girls align with you it'll just click, almost effortlessly. They want what you want and the other way around.
Like a good business deal, a solid handshake, a good friendship.
Except that you'll be joined at the hips.
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