Got this from a girl Emily I cold approached.
This 6 I've seen before walks up and is looking in the vending machine. I step towards her and ask what she's gonna get. Says she's gonna get something for her sister (cause of birthday). I give her a recommendation and she gets it. We're talking now and she's comfortable. I'm trying to keep the convo on her, so when she asks me about what I'm studying towards I just say "I'm a man of many pursuits" and get it back to her. She's into graphic design and looking back maybe just saying I'm actor would've drawn her in.
I ask if she has drawings and art with her. She pulls out a book and I'm going through em. At one point she says "you're going so slow" then corrects herself saying "idk why I said that, I have no where to be." I joke and say "oh I'm gonna go a lot slower now." She's comfortable and digging the convo. I can still feel the charisma flowing (but not as much). Its tough to maintain it under pressure. I try to close
me: hey I gotta run, it was nice meeting you. You said you like horror movies. We should catch one some time, what's your number?
her: Oh, I'm talking to someone already. We can be friends though.
me: It's okay, I understand. It was really nice meeting you Emily. (Then I turned and walked away).
I think I rushed the close. She was bending down getting her bag when I asked her the question. I rushed the last line and thus didn't get strong eye contact, then I walked away. I wasn't gonna friend zone myself and agree to friendship when she asked about it. Although I overtly rejected her friendship request, I’m still gonna be charismatic and talk to her. It builds my social proof and keeps her as an option. I’m just not friend zoned now.
How did I do in the cold approach?
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
That's a lot of words when a "no" is the answer to that question.
User4566 1y ago
You did perfectly. She's just not interested because she has a bad taste in men. She's a 6 anyway.
imtranscending 1y ago
Thanks man.
She could be gay. But if not then that's a compliment for me, unless you actually mean that. What gives away her bad taste?
Cal-Dirty 1y ago
She was just being nice. She wasn't feeling it. If she was into you, it wouldn't have mattered if she was married. Win some, lose some.
BabyUareSoSexy 1y ago
This. If Chris Hemsworth walked up to ask her number, she'd be single.
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
The perfect response:
"Oh, you're already talking to someone? Well, I don't normally do sloppy seconds. But if you want me to go in there (point at vagina), just make sure he wears a condom, alright? See ya later".
Edit: No no, I'm joking. Don't say that. You did just fine.
fumbor 1y ago
HAHAHAHA THIS IS HILARIOUS
imtranscending 1y ago
Wait, I think you’re onto something. Bring direct like that might work. After all she’s just “talking” so she’s a freebie for me. She may be wanting a man to stretch out her insides. (im also joking btw)
Lionsmane8 1y ago
No comments. You did well. 6s are garbage anyways. Use'em for practice.
nicknack 1y ago
6 is above average.
Lone_Ranger 1 1y ago
You did fine. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Never forget - every interaction builds game. So you didn't get any action this time, but your're still ahead of wherey you were yesterday - and thats a fine thing.
The key (as always) is to cultivate your indifference. You must be and remain indifferent to the outcome. When chicks pick up on your indifference, they will be very attracted to you.
Bulba 1y ago
“I’m talking to someone” is kind of a bullshit excuse because women are always talking to someone, this should go without saying.
Probably you didn’t build enough sexual tension or you qualified yourself too much. You should make her feel like she has to convince you of her value rather than the other way around.
It could also be that she was simply not attracted to you from a blackpilled perspective ( you’re too short, or you don’t belong to her target ethnicity, and so on ).
imtranscending 1y ago
I think she could be gay. I've only seen her talk to and hangout with girls. Either way, I didn't friendzone myself. I'm still gonna talk to her when I see her, gage her interest and work from there. My social proof is starting to show on campus.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Best response is to not overthinking it, which you are doing
Whether she is seeing someone or not is irrelevant, you escalated a cold approach way too fast
Assuming she is seeing someone, which she probably is, just smile and say "yeah sure that's fine"
Then put almost no investment in them till they break up with their man while also letting them reach out and invest in you
I have numerous girls with bfs always sliding into my DMs that I would love to fuck but wouldn't and I'm just waiting for them to break up because I'm pretty confident they'd be dtf if they were single
You're overthinking this a lot. You should have just acknowledged the mistake and then not given this another thought
Looking back at this to see how you can overcome the fact that she might have a bf or refusing to be her friend because you got rejected is overthinking and comes across as if you have a strategy to make this work with her. It really comes across like you're trying to figure out how to make it work with this chick still
Just says sure and then go on with your life. This level of analysis is destroying your ability to move forward
imtranscending 1y ago
By analyzing afterwards with the community? No one else in the forums had anything to say about overthinking, and I didn't have all this shit running in my head during the interaction. I put these thoughts together for the field report analysis.
this hippie girl IS NOT emily (in case there was confusion). This is the aura chick, who I cold approached last week, sat talking with her for 15 minutes and just left without getting a # or anything. It was this week, and the 2nd time seeing her in the hallway, and that she was happy to see me did I stop and talk. That's when I asked for her IG and suggested we get coffee.
I'm running out of options for date ideas Vrx. Suggesting a movie "means to fuck" your words, and a coffee maybe too boring or logical. This is getting tricky man.