I think we often get caught up in looking out for women with Red flags. Which, in all fairness, is a vital discernment to be able to make. However, figuring out Green flags can be a bit more complicated.
Some say they look for a trad con Christian/ religious woman, others say submissive/ femineity, dressing modestly/ demure, low body count etc. I am not trying to discount these markers, but there are so many, and Unicorns obviously aren't out there.
For ex. what if a girl is trad but not con, what if she's con but not demure, and so on. Girls can dress slutty but have a low body count and dress modestly and have a high one. So how does one weed out the good traits from the bad ones?
As it pertains to me, I'm meeting with a chick this weekend who has a lot of Green flags; modest, feminine hobbies (cooks, sings, theatre), kind/ not standoffish, etc. That's about all I can think of atm, but are there any other "flags" I should be looking out for?
whytehorse2021 1y ago
The happiest marriages are what are called biblical womanhood. There's also a Muslim version. There is a whole section in Proverbs about it and a whole chapter in the Quran about wives. It basically boils down to the woman submitting to her husband and the husband leading. Everything that is conventionally feminine is good: nurturing, caring, supporting, etc. That's what you really need to look for in a woman.
financehardo420 1y ago
honestly bro if she has a pulse and a vagina that’s a red flag
Einsamer 1y ago
Honestly, forget about green flags. They will just give a false sense of safety.
But there's one thing I can recommend: see how she behaves towards people she does not know, especially when she is alone. Because once the light is switched, you will be on the same side as those people.
FR33DOM_over_F33R 1y ago
Good point.
But you can't forget about flags, they help at least partially in discerning the good from the bad. Red Pill aware men should not settle for less when in an LTR, but recreationally, it's up to the man's discretion.
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
especially those from whom she can gain nothing, or those in a subservient position (such as wait staff).
FR33DOM_over_F33R 1y ago
Hadn't even thought about that, now that I look back, I can remember many examples of Red flags who treat bar staff like shit or put on a superficial mask.
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Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
A) My comment was building on the comment to which I was replying, including "forget green flags".
B) this is just a litmus test. A woman can pass this one and fail others.
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Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
All of that can be faked and/or lied about. It takes time to get to know someone.
benzino 1y ago
If you make an offensive/dark joke and she enjoys that shit then usually it will be an enjoyable relationship. Not talking about being slutty etc but this is one of the things you look for, whether she has a sense of humor
Bulba 1y ago
If you are considering an LTR with a girl, first check if you have a strong hypergamous advantage over her.
You must be objectively better than her on either looks, money or status, and she should spontaneously acknowledge it.
Most importantly, you should be obviously better than all her previous boyfriends and one-night stands ( and if a girl has a high body count, this is nearly impossible ).
If you’re not struggling to keep your frame, and if she always sees you as a strong masculine figure, then this is what I would call a green flag.
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Bulba 1y ago
I totally agree with you, I was just talking about green flags rather than red flags.
All that I said assumes that you have already checked her for obvious red flags like the ones that you mentioned.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
I am working on a model. Others can input as well as I am not sure about the numbers:
1 red flag cancels 3 green flags.
FR33DOM_over_F33R 1y ago
Seems to make sense, I think it depends on the Red flag, some are worse than others.
koedeloe123 1y ago
I don't know why so many people on here always say 'low body count'. I mean, it's obvious why, but there's no way to tell a girl's body count. I've NEVER asked for a woman's body count, because I don't want to know. Or they will probably lie about it anyway.
My most important green flags:
FR33DOM_over_F33R 1y ago
Solid list. I'd add being religious or having morals, but that's a lot to ask for in this day and age. Also, Eastern European origin is another green flag, they generally have more respect and adulation towards men, even the Westernized ones.
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koedeloe123 1y ago
This is the dumbest thing I've read today. You can tell 'from experience'? There is no way to tell a woman's body count. The girls you expect it the least from, are usually the biggest sluts. There's no point in wanting to know a girl's body count. Because you'll never know her real number.
FR33DOM_over_F33R 1y ago
Absolutely, especially with regard to LTR's body counts are the number 1 indicator for whether there will be issues with pair bonding or not. Tricky part is that you can't ask these questions, you just have to assume.
Cal-Dirty 1y ago
If you're asking about 'green flags' - you're listening to LTR content creators. These are blue pill dudes in drag. You don't want LTRs with western chicks. If you live in the west, and are determined to roll the dice on marriage and kids - join an orthodox church. Anything else is suicide.