So the one and only thing plaguing me right now in my sexual life is i think my fear of intimacy/performance. I basically do all of the other things well, cold approachin, flirting, texting, alpha mannerisms, basic kino. I'm confident in who I am and my potential and have basically no social anxiety
The only thing that is holding me back from absolutely slaying is that I have this deep fear of trying to kiss them and have sex with them. I don't know why exactly I'm so scared but I'm the type of person that typically likes to know how to do things before actually doing them in the real world, but with kissing and having sex, there is no "practicing" because to practice is to do the actual thing itself. I think I have a fear that if I try to kiss or have sex that I'll suck at it and they'll reject me or something like that because of it, and the pain because of that would be too much to bear.
How can I get rid of this fear? Or how can I learn to get good at kissing/having sex before doing the actual thing, because I feel like this would alleviate most of my extreme hesitation.
chadinthemaking69 2y ago
The only way to get better is to do it. There’s no substitute unless you want to practice on your mom.
Courage is being scared and doing the thing anyway. My first time was terrible but if you don’t act like a bitch you should be fine. Just hold frame and keep it fun.
Kiss the girl when you feel it. You’ll know. Escalate when you’re alone. And most importantly, have fun. After the initial awkwardness it should be very enjoyable.
My sex tip for your first time: if you can’t find her vagina tell her to put it in for you.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
The first few times are difficult and women don't help. Accept that it's all going to suck the first 5 times, embrace that, and break through it. It doesn't matter, there's lots of girls in the world.
by doing it.
can't be done
Wanting to know what you are doing before you start is stopping you starting.
Lionsmane8 2y ago
Try to do it. Make it awkward, fail, get slapped. Try again with another girl, do it right this time (right timing/context etc.) Win, feel good about yourself,do it again with another girl etc.
User4566 2y ago
Sex isn't like porn. If I was you, I'd have sex at your place that way if you have a panic attack or feel bad, you're already home and safe.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Read Sex God Method.
User4566 2y ago
Are you a virgin?