Ive been lurking on trp for a while and ive taken the leap by going to thr gym and fixing my diet, i havent been at it long enough to see drastic tesults but i feel the need to drastically increase smv in a effective way because im tired and frustrated of being completely invisible to girls, im not even seen as a sexual object (5'10 @ 102lbs) and have still not lost my virginity at 23.
What are the most important and effective steps to increase my smv as fast as possible?
cahav25579 7 months ago
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Bulba 10 months ago
If you're a virgin at 23, there are four possible explanations:
1) You are fat, short, skinny or ugly.
2) You obviously don't fit in for some reason, like belonging to some specific religion or ethnicity while living in a place where nobody looks like you. ( This happens quite often to Asian guys in the U.S. ).
3) You live in a small city that has a caste system. There are the chads, there are the normies, there are the incels, and there is little room to migrate from one group to the other.
4) You have mental health issues.
And the solutions for each one of these problems are:
1) Lifting
2) Relocation
3) Relocation
4) Therapy
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well 10 months ago
This takes time. Be patient. Keep at the weights. Lifting will have the greatest ROI, but it takes months, even years.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 10 months ago
I'm 5'11" and 155 lbs. I have really low body fat and some good definition but I'm not ripped.
That being said, I'm trying to picture you in comparison and yeah man, you definitely need to lift.
(I was once down to 125lb after some serious pneumonia and yeah, absolutely lift. Make it a MASSIVE priority)
"Bigger Leaner Stronger" by Michael Matthews is the best book/resource I have ever read on the subject of lifting and gaining weight. Game changer for me
I lost my virginity 2 months after I started lifting, and every girl I've ever slept with likes it.
I only wish I'd been doing it consistently the past 10 years. Do it and stick with it, you won't regret it
Start there. It's not only a ROI for women, you will feel happier and more confident in everything. Women will generally treat you better, but so will the general population.
You'll smile when you see yourself in the mirror, you'll have a healthier diet from lifting and having to get the right nutrients in, and you'll have a new hobby
Obviously working out takes time. Some faster ways:
If your clothes are bad get more stylish clothes.
If you're hair is bad get a better haircut. Can't go wrong with an easy, short, and stylish hairstyle. Not only is it low effort, but most womenove short nowadays
If you binge or even look at porn, stop seeing it immediately. You'll feel better and be more attractive (would take too long to explain why it does that to your brain)
Smile more. If you're always frowning it's unattractive.
How are your social skills besides all of that?
coolsocks00 10 months ago
Style is honestly one of the easiest in terms of ROI. You need a bit of cash for the initial purchases but it doesn't have to be fancy.
Get good fitting clothing - in your case OP you might want to hold off on the big money purchases since you have a ton of weight to gain. Get a few different pairs of boots: chelseas, black ones, brown ones. White sneakers (not joggers) they go with everything. Try things.
Also try some accessories. Girls love a nice looking watch, rings and bracelets. Makes you stand out from the average joe who's not even in the game.
And for the love of god, eat your heart out. For reference i'm 5'8" and 170 lb. How are you even breathing, let alone getting out of bed? Keep bulking.
Best content and ease of access i've found is on youtube from channels like Renaissance Periodization and Jeff Nippard. Science based, concise, entertaining. Perfect while you're chomping down that hamburger.
starmassive1 10 months ago
Yeah im pretty skinny, i can sometimes touch my thumb and pointer around my biceps and my hip bones stick out aswell as my wrist, my neck is a pencil aswell, im fairly sociable but only because im considered funny, nobody respects me and ive never kissed either. Im starting to think that my weight is the root to alot of my problems.
coolsocks00 10 months ago
Funny is good. And it doesnt necessarily lose you respect, but there's a balance. In my experience being self amused is vital, and will make others feel good. Being a dancing monkey for the sake of others OTOH is a bad strategy.
I agree a whole lot will improve once you gain some weight. You'll be automatically and subconsciously regarded as more masculine (because you are).
It is not the root cause though. Blue pilled conditioning is, with 100% certainty. The good thing is that it's mostly reversible with time and effort. Taking the red pill is incredibly freeing once you start seeing some results. And once the results start coming in, it's often a cascading effect.
JamesSkepp Moderator 10 months ago
Drastic results require drastic change. You can't have drastic change with lifting and game, b/c both take time, meaning they are gradual.
Drastic results can come from frame change and, well, drastic change in how you approach m-f dynamics. Theoretically you can make that change in one day. What remains is internalizing the new approach/mentality and that will take some time too.
Go to main sub, find the post titled "5 pillars".
starmassive1 10 months ago
Can you tell me the user name or exact post titlw? Maybe its my reddit client but i cant find it nomatter the filter. Thanks also
JamesSkepp Moderator 10 months ago
My bad, it's not titled "5 pillars" , it just has 5 elements listed:
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/10ga16e/the_key_elements_of_male_attractiveness/
Lionsmane8 10 months ago
Get rid of the "as fast as possible" mindset. Slow incremental, then sudden shifts. That's how it happens.
Fitness Money Mind Skills Network Game (I'll also add God if you are more religious)
Focus on these dimensions on a daily basis.
coolsocks00 10 months ago
You might as well just say "DO EVERYTHING".
Doing everything at once gets you nowhere.
Lionsmane8 10 months ago
Well with proper time management you can make progress on all areas. It doesn't have to be all in one day. Also you can have periods where you focus on one or two things and come back to the rest later. Finally you can combine activities depending on your circumstances.
coolsocks00 10 months ago
You can choose to have dick for progress in all areas, or great progress in a few. Hence why you want to prioritize high ROI activities, the low hanging fruit.
Lionsmane8 10 months ago
They're all related. Work on one aspect and you improve the others as well.
Journey_of_Gilgamesh 10 months ago
Get yourself a hobby that makes you strive for excellence in something. Pick something that you are interested in because it will take you time to master the skill but once that has happened, you will be more interesting person to girls. Your skills and hobbies that display your excellence will give you status, which is turn attracts women. While style and hair makes you look attractive, your lose the game without content of character.
Good luck and enjoy becoming a master in which ever skill you wish!