She was more interested in the other guy than you - she told him where she was (disregarding you being her escort), she wanted to say hi as soon as she saw him, she wanted to ditch you for him, she didn't care about not leaving with you. If you were to suggest bar hopping, she'd either find a reason to not go, or ask the other guy to join you. Long story short: leave her in the past. Block her and forget about her; she could beg to come crawling into your bed at 2 a.m., still dismiss her.

I personally would have just walked away and blocked her earlier in the night (probably right after the snapchat incident), but I don't think you did bad - you didn't lose your mind, you didn't yell or curse, you didn't chase her. I also wouldn't comment too much on her behaviour (since she doesn't really care), but it wasn't wrong per se, just a bit of wasted words. As for if you should have greeted him with her, it kinda depends on how things were going with her, but I don't think it would have affected the outcome either way - she had already decided to end the night with him the moment she told him where she was.

Finally, as for your responsibility bringing her back home, while you acted as a gentleman, that should be reserved for ladies. If she behaves properly, she gets the nice treatment. If she wants to hoe around, she can suck a cabby for the fare.

As disrespectful as it seems at face value she was making out with you. She said the other dude was her friend, that she came back in two minutes and not 20 means he probably was.

She got a guys snap and came right back to you and touched you.

Was it disrespectful to say hi to a friend, no. Was it disrespectful to get a guys snap in front of you, yes but not horrible. She came back to you.

I've seen my plates do much worse in front of me an it fucking blows. I think you should temper your expectations. This isn't a first date. She already knows you and is already going to go home with you. She didn't do anything awful in front of you

An ideal plate wouldn't be getting snaps when she's out with you because it's disrespectful but she is a plate.

I personally think you fucked up the situation and that her talking to other dudes after the balcony incident was avoidable.

There are plates that do far worse than chatting to someone briefly. Snaps are also less personal than phone numbers, I'd be more pissed if a plate got a number in front of me.

Pick your battles better next time. I don't disagree that she should have been more focused on you before the balcony shit, but the friend can slide (assuming it wasn't clear it was not more than a friend). While the snap thing was disrespectful it wasn't horrible.

I think you pulled out some alpha bravado out of your sleeve in that situation and fucked you. Alpha bravado is usually uncalled for and is antithetical to actual frame.

You could have said "I haven't seen you since September, I'm trying to catch up with you" if it got noticeably worse. What's she gonna do, blame you for saying that? She probably would have been less ADHD I think you tried to act alpha and looked beta instead

Taking a girl you're already fucking to a dance club is generally a very bad idea.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Dude, i'll tell you what went through her head (i think). You taking her to the game must have subconsciohsly signaled to her that she is more than a plate.

Hence, she got comfort, she got points, credit. Credit that she can abuse. The impetus to act right is dimished (crazy right?)

Your reaction was right if she was YOUR girl, but she isn't. You're acting like her boyfriend.

Also it should be fine, you are right to set boundaries even with plates. You should.

I think you need to determine what relationship you want with her and act accordingly, incongruence sends mixed signals which gives you mixed reactions.

Plate? Exclusive plate? Gf? Figure it out first, then set the rules, then don't deviate from the rules.

as others have said, it wasn't that bad in terms of disrespect. She's a (plate), she was with you, she was probably lining him up for another night. But, hey, she's just a plate.

You lost frame , you lost it that night.

I doubt you will hear from her. She went home with the other guy, he was fun, you were not.

Plates are plates, you got to treat them like one. There's no investment.

If a girl doesn't treat you like a prize, like she is a winner with you. Don't care about them, don't get feelings for them.

This girl was just a smash or someone to do something with, nothing more.

Here's my first question. Should I have said yes let's both say hi to this guy? Or did I do the right thing and let her go and just observe and not potentially mate guard?

She's set up another guy to meet her while on a date with you.

Correct play is to tell her "look, you want to meet up with this guy, that's great, but it's no longer our evening" and then LEAVE.

And don't accept her grovelling apologies either, this girl is awful and unsuitable to be seen with in public.

But eventually I cracked and said something along the lines of, "I haven't seen you in months. I take you out to a hockey game which I only take a few girls to. And we spent the last hour together making out and dancing and you want to go get someone's snapchat right in front of me? Faaacckk you (like a Boston fuck you, not a Walter White to Gretchen fuck you.) It was said in a stern tone, not a "I'm completely losing my shit and yelling at the top of my lungs tone."

But now you are complaining/negotiating. And from a position of weakness. You have provided, she has been a slut, and you are calling her out on it hoping for what exactly? What could she possibly say that would turn this around? She has fucked up, and now it is you who are TRYING TO MAKE IT WORK.

Me: You're my responsibility where are you Her: I'm not it's good Me: Time to go. Don't play games I brought you here I'm getting you home. Her: I'm okay. Thanks

Dude, at this point you got ditched for the other guy.

Honestly, it's fucking weird that you said she is your responsibility. She isn't..... you don't own her just because you took her out. But it's worrying you think you do. You think you have some control in this situation, you think she is your girl but she's acting out. This is not the case: she had a date with you and then found some other guys to hang out with. What is wrong with you that you are trying to recover this / regain control / trying to make things work with her?

My questions are not rhetorical, answering them will help you see what is wrong with the whole situation.

Any review on my actions and how things were dealt? I haven't heard from her nor have I texted her. Did I dry her up with how I acted? Or was this reasonable given the circumstances.

You stuck with a sinking ship for far too long. No idea why. Find better options. Don't pretend "she's only a plate" and then care this fucking much when she sluts it up.

There's been a lot of good advice already, even though some of it conflicts. Some thoughts of my own to add:

• some of this stuff you'll have to figure out for yourself. It's impossible to convey everything via text, and impossible for strangers on the internet to know enough about you to give you complete, all-encompassing answers.

• if you're trying to fuck a woman, you generally want to progressively isolate her. You went in reverse, from crowded venue but that doesn't usually involve pickup, to even more densely crowded venue that exists for virtually no other reason other than for strangers to meet and hook up. If you didn't want to go straight back to your place or hers after the game, maybe go somewhere more intimate like a coffee shop or small wine bar. If it's an intimate venue, there's no plausible deniability for her to invite some other dude. You took her to what's essentially a large party atmosphere, which provided all the plausible deniability in the world to invite others, whether Mr. Just-a-Friend or her cockblocking girlfriends.

• if she's just a plate, then you cared way too much.

• You have a lot of "tells" in your story that you acted emotionally, jealously, etc. Don't give her that satisfaction.

• when she fucks up like that, she should be the one trying to make it right. You should be walking away. No drama, no explaining, just leaving. If she chases and apologizes well enough, maybe get some more sex out of her, but she is unworthy of any upgrade past plate.

• btw, you're "spinning plates" when you have multiple women you're seeing and/or fucking. If she's your only source of sex, especially if you're this invested in her (emotionally and otherwise), she's more than a plate to you. You're lying to yourself if you're calling her a plate.