All of us here sucess stories all the time,but failer get overloked and forgotten.However,I belive that field report with failure has the biggest potnetial for learning.
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Lionsmane8 1y ago
I don't think there are mistakes to be made. It'smore about trial and error. You're always calibrating. Like coming on too strong on shy girls or too weak on more outgoing girls or rushing to get the number of a girl that requires more convo etc...
Positive-Lifeguard80 1y ago
I didn't make mistakes, I only had experiences. The term "mistake" describes an outcome-dependency.
However some things aren't meant to be, some weren't ripe for harvest. And sometimes one just dodged a bullet.
Meeting old girls again after a decade can be eye-opening
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I cared more about her sleep than she did. Girl games herself, tried to kiss me for no reason, wanted to go home with me for no reason without me even pulling, and she was a 7.5
I cared more about her only going to get 3 hours of sleep than she did and she said "another time"
Then she made excuses why she couldn't after that
Easiest would-be lay of my life with a fairly attractive girl just because I cared about something she herself didn't even care about
Peter_Henderson 1y ago
I am not questioning you being truthful -- I am questioning your story being a correct interpretation of events.
I could be totally wrong here so please forgive me (in advance) but I think the part of you telling her "no" made her resent you. When you reject a girl -- it feels 1000x worse than when a man feels rejected.
If you think being rejected (as a guy) sucks -- it is literally 1000x worse for women and girls.
AllBlack087 1y ago
Why would feel worse.Because it distrups her phantasy of being unquestionable godess with 300 guys in her dms abd 2000 guys on tinder wanting to fuck her,while she is too lazy to go run on treadmill to lose those 200 pounds overwight but instead feels easier to put 5lbs of makeup on face to mask being fat.
craftsmanmindset 1y ago
That's such a weird thing to care about. Why would you randomly care about someone's sleep?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Exactly
That's my whole point of it being my biggest mistake in game ever that one time
User4566 1y ago
That might be something wrong on HER end and not yours. She does get 3 hours of sleep after all, so she sounds fucked to begin with.
User4566 1y ago
My biggest problem with redpill stuff is going for the number within 30 seconds. It's absolutely socially-retarded. That stuff come's from the guys who do 100s of approaches just to get laid a few times. I've had a much better experience with approaching girls and talking to them for 15 minutes or more before going for the number. She would be more inclined to hang out with me since she at least has an idea of who I am as a person especially if we get along and have similar interests. Much better than the weirdo that approached her because she looks pretty, asks for her number, and dips. Then those SAME GUYS go online and complain why they keep getting numbers but never any dates. I just got laid yesterday from a girl I met cold approaching 2 weeks ago. We ended up having a nice conversation and we had things in common and fast forward 2 weeks and she's sucking on my dick, letting me suck her titties, smacking her ass, fucking her, telling me she "want's to get cum-drunk off me." So I know my method works for me.
There's nothing sophisticated about going up to an "interesting" girl and trying to learn about what she likes to do. Finding what you two have in common is a great thing and definitely increase the chances of her wanting to hang out with you especially if you two like doing the same activities like concerts, movies, food, sports, places to go etc.
Of course, this is not true in the case of Tinder or nightclubs because those are meat-markets and people are getting the wrong idea that Tinder is just like cold approaching women. A lot of us seem to forget that only around 10% of users on Tinder are women (or so I've heard). So it seems that not every girl is comfortable with hook ups with men they just met. You want to know what would help that?
Comfort.
I'm not talking about the "beta" comfort by saying: "I love you, always and never will cheat on you..." comfort.
I'm talking about the: "I'm not socially-retarded and I won't murder you and film it if I bring you to my place." Comfort.
If you talk to her and make interested, laugh, feel like she has someone to talk to that's not instantly trying to get in her pants. She needs to "warm up" to it unlike us guys who have testicles and want to fuck as soon as we see her ass.
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User4566 11mo ago
No, a white chick.
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User4566 11mo ago
Which one? I've approached quite a few latinas. Could u link the post?
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User4566 11mo ago
No, but it was a hurdle for me because she was pretty hot and at the time I haven't approached many hot girls. Just one's I thought were above average I guess. I forgot about that chick.
craftsmanmindset 1y ago
damn bro, you're a fucking G. Do you have any advice on how to implement this in college? I don't have a social circle or get invited to any parties, so I talk to girls in class. I've fucked one girl through this. It seems to be working, but I'm sure there's better ways that you know of. Thanks so much.
User4566 1y ago
Funny you say this, because I did this at a community college because I'm 23. I cold approached a girl in the hallway sitting by herself on a bench. Find a time where this is prevelant, I'd suggest about 1pm on Mondays through Thursdays.
I would suggest to only talk to girls in your class and only ask them out if you know for sure they like you and if the class is ending soon anyway.
But the way I do it is simply asking girls if you can sit with them. I also don't go to parties or have a social circle. You don't need it, but it would help you meet more women and give you chances to get closer with them. Plus, it will make you happier to have people to talk to. You don't need to get invited to parties, you can simply show up by yourself and talk to people there. You showed up to party, they showed up to party so off the bat you already have something in common. I havent partied since Halloween because it's getting too cold out anyway. You can go to bars now and there is nothing wrong with going alone. It just means that there are no friends there to cock-block or act like idiots around you.
I'll also mentioned that I get rejected aswell, some girls downright don't want to talk, nervous, or have a boyfriend/husband. It's ok, because I think the best thing is remember that you've won as soon as you approached that girl. You know why? It makes it easier for you to approach more. You're building that mental muscle to over-come fear. So if you do start cold-approaching, don't focus on the rejections, focus on the number of times you sucker-punched fear in the face and be proud that you're accomplishing something most men now are too scared to do. Many go their whole lives not approaching women and have to rely on social connections or online dating. It's just something I noticed is I used to approach women and ask for their number after a small 5 minute interaction. The most eager to date me and see me again were ones that I talked to and got along with just by getting comfortable with her instead of a brief 5 minute introduction to who I am take-it-or-leave-it.
I'm not saying you can't get laid doing that, but I feel like you'll need to do more approaches. My approaches are efficient, I make her day by talking to her and letting her vent about whatever is on her mind and what she is all about. From there, I can also decide if she's even worth my time going out on a date in the first place! You got a bunch of simps going out on dates with girls they don't even know they like PERSONALLY. If we don't get along, then tell me what the fuck are we going to talk about on our date??
"So, what's you're favorite dinosaur?"
Money and time wasted. I'm not a fan of losing either.
Edit: DON'T ONLY TALK TO GIRLS IN YOUR CLASS, I recommend talking to girls who are sitting alone on their phones in the hallway or somewhere on campus.
pointyuiop 1y ago
this is inspiring and easily graspable thing that helps
User4566 1y ago
Thank you very much :)
I tried.
AllBlack087 1y ago
I learned the opposite since I was young I had a girl I liked we became best friends and I wanted to slowly start from there,we swere spending hours each day talking and laughing at each other.When I asked her out,she rejected me and found a boyfriend. She was my oneitis,imagine my schock that I got from being rejected by someone you so much bonded and watching holding some tall boy hand. Since then,I got so afraid of the same thing happening that I made sure to never become a friend with any female and as soon as I see someone I find cute or the girl flirts with me I become very sexual and straightforward. If she rejects me I assume she never found me sexually attractive and her previous staring at me with smile and body touching was her constant need to get male attention and validation putting me in her 16 pack gay brothers box,that waits in the case she doesnt found someone better,so I move forward and forget.
User4566 1y ago
The problem is you spend hours and days and never asked her out because you were too scared of rejection, not because what you were doing was wrong. Had you pulled the trigger after the first or second conversation and ask her to hang out exclusively, you probably would've fucked her. Yeah, she will see you as a friend if you treat like a friend, it is your fault that you kept talking to her like a friend and not getting to the plan-making. You would've saved a lot of time had you simply asked her out after your first initial conversation. Plus, you wouldn't have fallen in love so easily.
Going up to girls and being sexual right off the bat likely only works in environments where there is alcohol. Other than that, good luck picking up girls in public by being sexual right off the bat. I ask girls out after our first conversation if it goes well, I'm NOT going to chat her up without any indication that we are at least going on a date in the future. The best way to not be her "gay friend" is to stop having the testicles of a "gay friend". Sack up, ask her out, be gratful that you did either way because at least you get an answer as to whether or not you can fuck her. If yes, great! If no, onto the next. I wouldn't have fucked this girl had I not asked her out after our first conversation and she told me that she admired my confidence because not a lot of guys have ever really asked her out in person.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Always funny when people have gripes with TRP that arent even a thing. Where did you get this idea?
User4566 1y ago
Red-pill youtubers.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Those lazy fuckers.
More seriously, the general advice is to stay in set for as long as possible, especially when you're new to CA. At the same time it's helpful to set a time constraint, whether it's false or not.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I can't even remember the last time I tried to pick up a girl. Maybe that's the mistake: trying. I don't do anything for women any more. I won't even do dating apps or cold approaches. If they're not interested enough to come and get my attention I don't even bother. Pussy is cheap, my time is valuable.
craftsmanmindset 1y ago
I disagree with this lmfao. I think the percentage of effort should be 25% not 0%.
Another core idea here is to focus on OVERLAP. For example, lifting in the gym not only helps with girls, but also helps with energy levels, self-confidence, etc.
AllBlack087 1y ago
I am the same.Problem is that women never try to come and get my attention.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I think it is a product of all the free attention they get online. I've even seen prostitutes that I wanted let me walk right by them because their head is down in the phone. Maybe I need to work out more or whatever.
chadinthemaking69 1y ago
Hb7 freshmen year of college asked for my number, I gave it to her, told my friends to tell me that she liked me, asked me to study, I said “where do you want to study?” she said “idk… where do you want to study?” I said “lets go to the library” and we had a great conversation, nothing more. My pussy ass “wasn’t ready for a relationship.”
Regret.
craftsmanmindset 1y ago
Wait....Help me out here dude. I had the exact same situation. An HB7 basically chased me down to the library, and we had a deep convo, but I left. I didn't know how to escalate. What should I have done? Should I have gone back to my place? please drop the advice. Thanks.
chadinthemaking69 1y ago
Could’ve told her you were heading to your dorm and that she should come. That’s what I would’ve done.
craftsmanmindset 1y ago
Isn't saying that "she should come" kind of implying that you want to fuck which would sour the relationship in the future if she rejects?
chadinthemaking69 1y ago
Yes that is probably what it would imply. If she says yes try to escalate while watching a movie or something
craftsmanmindset 1y ago
but it can pollute social circle because they will just say he is a guy that just wants to fuck
chadinthemaking69 1y ago
Up to you dude. You say you want to fuck but then you say you want to “keep the relationship good.”
Do you want a fuck buddy or a pen pal?
craftsmanmindset 1y ago
They'll tell mutual friends that "craftsman mindset is super creepy. Tried to fuck me yesterday".
chadinthemaking69 1y ago
Only if you’re creepy. I asked a girl to come to my house in a social circle of mine and nothing happened.
If they do ask me if I wanted to fuck I can say no I just invited her over to watch a movie. Use plausible deniability.