First plate after ending LTR. 25 y/o med student. Probably somewhere around 7 objectively. Wanna see how I'm doing, and if I should dial towards player more.
Met on dating app, had great banter back and forth, set up a date. Date went really well, only made out due to location, walked around and went our separate ways.
That was a Saturday. Hit her up on Tuesday to schedule another date, exchanged about 5 messages for each of us thruout the day (I always take longer or similar), then let her final message sit until the next day, exchanged a few throughout the day then too. Scheduled it for Friday night, picked her up and she was very impressed with my car.
Brought her out to a lake, fucked her on a blanket there. She was soaking wet & screaming. Said. "This is wild, I've never done anything like this. You must have done stuff like this a lot..." I laughed while shaking my head a little then kissed her. She made a joke about me not taking her to dinner while I was on top of her, and since she just made a comfort-test, I was grabbing her tits and went "Pff haha I'll take you to dinner." She didn't even say anything while I played with her asshole a bit while fucking her.
2 days later I hit her up telling her to send her roommate out to lunch with a friend ("my treat for them both", kind of beta??? She says her and her roommate made an agreement a year ago to never bring guys home, and I figured my offer projected an IDGAF well-off mentality to come fuck her again). She says her day is already scheduled "so maybe next time", then sent two more messages "But thanks though" "From me and my roommate lmao".
I say "No worries do your thing, lemme know when you're free to plan something. Think next Saturday my home will be empty so there's that." She hits me back a few hours later and says "Sounds good Saturday should work".
I sort of believe she actually isn't a slut? First date was a Saturday mid-day, second was a Friday night, and now have her scheduled to come over this Saturday. A ripped friend of mine tried to match with her on the same dating app and she never even got back to him. She made her Saturday open for me two times in a row now, claims she has never done stuff like that, was implying THAT I'M the "slut", and doesn't seem to have guy friends. She also said I was the first guys he's made out with who has a lot of beard. She's TELLING me she's not a slut, so that's why I dial back the player just a little...
Anyway, with all that backstory, the reason I'm wondering how I'm doing is because I'm worried I'm injecting a little too much beta-ness (maybe I should just let her think I'm more of a player?). I responded to her saying "Saturday sounds good" with "Roger that it's a plan" "Hope your day was solid too trouble".
She hits me back an hour or so later telling me some fact I would be interested in based on a conversation. I tell her I'll remember it, she says to let me know what I think of it later. I do let her know two days later, we exchanged 2 messages and then says "Looks like you live in the woods" based on a picture of my back yard. I say "No but I'd like to, you can tell how comfortable I am out under the trees" referencing us fucking by the lake.
She DOES NOT respond to that, but instead a couple hours later, at 10pm, sends me a screenshot of her homework (she knows I graduated from that field) and just the text "PLEASE".
This gave me the feeling she was trying to beta-size me, so I didn't respond that night. I was up at 7am just hitting back people in my messages to wake myself up a little, so I responded to her with a joke about how inapplicable the homework question is in real life, then asked "You figure it out?" I wasn't too incredibly worried because I know she does actually work full-time, plus school, and is up till 1am doing homework regularly.
This is the gist of our entire 3 week interactions. Hope some of y'all have the time to skim through this wall of text to let me know how you think I've been doing. I know her asking for homework help could be innocent, but I should not be giving favors for free. I plan on texting her "Bring some over Saturday, it'll be easy to do and you can encourage me under my desk" or something like that. Should I not even be referencing sex on texts? Any general thoughts appreciated.
Everything you guys have told me has worked so far. It's ridiculous.
zaxary 1y ago
damn good job kid
greenhorn 1y ago
o7 o7 thanks chief
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Good work on the dates, sounds like a good time.
Text less, because you're a busy guy and have things to do. Do your thing and work on getting another plate or two.
This is the sort of reply you need to avoid. It implies that you dont have shit to do and can make time for her whenever, because she's awesome and you're not.
You're overthinking.
Sounds too thirsty, Just keep it simple to begin with.
The ideal frame is that she's the lucky one to have sex with you, not the other way around. This gets easier once you have more plates, because you literally wont have as much time for each as they would like.
greenhorn 1y ago
Damn I thought the "No worries do your thing and lemme know" was good, thought it put the ball in their court without any neediness. Cause who says I will actually be free when they want next time? What do you say?
How do you project that they're lucky without seeming like you're projecting it? My prediction here is that you just put yourself into that mindset, and the actions come naturally.
Noted on the rest, thanks.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Sounds like she's interested and making herself available. Reward good behaviour with attention and punish bad with no attention. She comes over and sucks your dick so you help her a little with school. Stuff like that. Push pull dynamic. As soon as you go all in and make her your world you will lose frame and her pussy will dry up.
greenhorn 1y ago
To one day fuckin a wife as much as you o7 aye aye cap
unplugged69 1y ago
Hey man any progress is good progress but I've got some advice, you're too available. You're correct in identifying some beta behaviours, but it's more than what you've listed. The beta is basically being always there, even responding to the homework thing and asking her how it went. Who fucking cares? Just ignore her until she texts something you find interesting, that's how you reward them. You ignore the behaviour you don't like, and provide attention to the behaviour you do like just like you do with children.
The other thing that you need to remember is to spin other plates, you've successfully plated her now but you can easily fuck it up by being too hot. What you need to realise is that once you've smashed YOU'VE got the power, you now act a bit less available and let her chase a bit, women love to chase.
greenhorn 1y ago
Yep I see what you mean.
I sometimes worry about this approach because what if you've got a good woman on your hands who has too much self respect to go and double / triple text you over the course of 3 days just to get your attention.
By be less available I'm sure you also mean hanging out 3 weekends in a row, or hitting her up a few days after meeting up. How often do you see your favorite plates?
unplugged69 1y ago
Once a week is a good average, and sure you're not a robot and sometimes you'll "feel it" and meet her twice that week because she's being nice and there's a good vibe, but that's it. You have other things to do, work on your mission, your hobbies, friends career, etc. All those are very important in the long run, once you're 30, 40, 50 it won't matter how many bitches you fucked but how many zeroes you have in your bank account.
Finally, always game other women, get new plates all the time, that's how you develop abundance and IDGAF and you start to see the matrix for what it really is.