Edit: Literally all of her exes*
She doesn't do anything with them. In fact, it probably has more to do with them than it does her. I don't have any of my exes on any of my social media. No desire to. What would be the point? Is this validation seeking, knowing that her exes are still most likely interested? To see that she's doing better off than them? What is the psychology behind this, because I do not understand it personally.
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
If they are actually, ex's, not friends, then she's attention seeking and/or wants to know what they are up to. That could be varying reasons such as for interest to get back together to interest of revenge, like my life is better than yours,etc. This can actually vary from one BF to another. Guy A, is one of her alpha's that she can't let go, Guy B is really nice, a lot of fun but he wasn't LTR type of guy.
This girl is NOT LTR material, is really the only thing needed to get from this.
goodmansaysfuckyou 1y ago
women need/want constant validation. That is why social media exists.
Also...
They serve to be a DICK IN A GLASS CASE. Break glass in case of emergency (dick needed, money needed, meal needed, place to crash needed, dread game on boyfriend needed, etc. )
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
Gold nugget, right here, gentlemen.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
She is keeping her options open. These men have, at any time, the potential to be rebounds to run back to in a pinch.
chadinthemaking69 1y ago
If this is true I’m ghosting her ass if she hits me up
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
I'm the only ex that she hasn't got on social media, and that's because I hurt her (unintentionally), and I don't believe in being friends with your exes. To be fair, they're not great options either. I'm honestly a better option than all of them put together, in my humble opinion. Call that arrogant, but I can at least see that for what it is. Not sure why she would keep them around still. She's barely even friends with them, yet checks on them. They just simp on her, so must be a validation thing.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
I love how you asked the question and - when I gave you an answer you didn't like - you started mainlining that copium.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
I'm all out of copium. I mean I agree with you, she could be keeping them as emergency rebounds, but none of those fuckwads are gonna match up to me.
TriumphoftheSwill 1y ago
She's stalking them
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
She 100% is. Not sure why she would even bother.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Some women like to keep exes around as backup plans.
crimsonchin03 1y ago
Well I read your last post.
Did she just add them AFTER your break up? I think you mentioned her adding a bunch of people. If so theres two solutions:
She always pined after her ex's secretly but out of respect for the relationship she respected you and wanted to be faithful. So when single, she felt "free" again and added them to maybe get in touch with one who alpha widowed her. But the theory kind of falls flat because she added "all of them" so there doesnt seem to be a targeted one. I would be more concerned if she added ONE ex, thats probably the one who alpha widowed her.
She is trying to get you jealous by adding them, its like a nuclear dread bomb to get in your head. Basically girls will do whatever they would HATE if their guy did. She would probably hate if you added all your female ex's after breaking up. So shes trying to hurt you, get a rise out of you. This is unlikely though.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
Then surely I stand out, as I'm the only ex NOT on her social media. I'm also her most recent ex, but I don't think I alpha widowed her. That would be the ex she had the kid with most likely. I definitely imprinted on her though. She loved me a lot at one point. I mean, I made the bitch squirt often and laugh all the time, we were there for eachother. The chemistry was good, and she was loyal. We also shared a home together. Nearly all of her exes can't say the same though.
crimsonchin03 1y ago
Girls like to be friends because they dont "experience" the breakup. You become an orbiter or back up plan. When you go no contact they will experience the break up and when that fear of losing you rises, thats when youre able to get them back.
If you want her back dont be her friend.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
I will never fall into the friendzone no matter what girl it is. That's not my style.
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
generally girls will only be friends with guys (they) break with, if the guy broke on her, its more of a "next"
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