I'm just getting out of high school. I turned 18 about a month ago. I discovered TRP when I was 16, took a break from it seeing it as being too toxic for about a year, and am now coming back to it after seeing even more evidence for it's being reality...
I'm either going to go into IT/web development or go into some sort of trade. I've had a lawn service since I was 12 and have saved up around 25k. I might also get some sort of part-time job if I find something that seems interesting to me. I'm also developing a SaaS application for landscaping businesses.
Currently living with my parents (which are in their 60s, I was born later than most, and they married around 30 or so. The desire between them isn't very strong, they disagree on politics often, and frequently complain about money even though they do little to get more of it, despite me trying to offer advice).
Every time I mention the possibility of moving out and getting my own job to pay for the expenses, my parents simply say it would be too expensive and a better idea to save the money when I don't need it. Part of me agrees with this but another part of me wants the freedom of having my own place. I am not sure which would be the better of the two evils, but if I started dating around I would probably find it difficult to have girls see me as high value if my only place to be is my parent's house...and just awkward.
My main issue is that I don't go out much to places that people can socialize, and I don't know how to really do that since I have barely anything to do out of the house. I feel like my social life is going to be left in the dust seeing my friends going off to college where there is a constant flood of people you see every day and parties and such, and I'm just here at home with nothing to do but work.
I've tried dating apps but get almost nothing. The odds are so skewed in the females favor, being that they don't respond strongly to visual stimuli and there isn't much way to convey anything other than physical attractiveness (I'm about a 7.2 according to photofeeler). So that may work if I got more ripped (I'm naturally skinny waist and have wide shoulders) but I don't think that will happen any time soon. I need ways to go out and meet people. If I got a job which involves people, I might, but I've heard mixed reviews of the social conventions around dating/fooling around with coworkers.
What ways do people normally meet people besides online? I'm not interested in clubbing. Thoughts appreciated.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Why the hell would you go get a job or education when you already have a business and $25k? Buy a truck and trailer and some equipment and advertising and expand your business to full time work. The only education you need at this point you can get for free from the Small Business Administration. Take the weekends off and do things you like and meet people there. I do rockets, fishing, D&D, hiking, camping, classic car shows, air shows, etc.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Agreed, OP you should consider possibilities of starting your own business and getting that experience vs going the safe route.
Something simple like lawn mowing can be expanded or transitioned from down the line. Mowing>landscaping>contracting for construction/dig sites etc. Or you could move into construction or building management. The experience of running a business in itself is great.
OTOH a trade or a career path can be transitioned from too, into exec positions or your own business. Without risking savings but with less potential upside at the same time.
Staying at home or not; you should use these coming years for building your life, not so much chasing pussy.
Doesnt mean you shouldnt do both. Just dont sacrifice a lot for pussy. Lift, get a good hobby or two, learn nutrition, style&grooming. Learn game and approach women. Daygame at malls, games, concerts. Talk to women you see when you are outside. Get used to that and you will get girls.
GrassIsGood 2y ago
Well, I also have the business I'm starting selling software to landscaping companies, but that will take a few years to really get going. I've already got a truck and trailer, but overall I don't really want to spend my life mowing lawns or doing landscaping when I could be doing something more intellectual and help save the world. It would also consume pretty much all my time, even weekends because it almost always rains and you get off schedule, and if I spend that much time doing something I'd like it to be more meaningful than mowing lawns or landscaping or whatnot. I will likely take a few years to orient my self in the right direction, and try to get my software business going first.
Yep I need to find some more social hobbies...
whytehorse2021 2y ago
It's hard to see the larger picture when you're young and starting out. Eventually you would hire someone else to do all the work. You can do whatever you like with the profits: save the world, get hookers and blow, make software and compete with low paid slum dogs in India, etc. Drop a few grand on a riding mower, get a snow plow for winter work, canvass an area with leaflet ads, etc. Branch out into irrigation, sprinkler blowouts, gov't contracts, etc.
Ti123 2y ago
All these guys in here will tell approach 10,000 bitches daily when they don’t even get out. Living in their fantasy of wonderland.
Your goal in college should be to meet new people. Make as many friends as possible. Practice approaching people and start inviting people to do stuff. Go to college only if you go in stem fields. You need a job, because doing all these activities will require money. You’ll see people just knowing you on campus then you are open to invite sally sussie or whomever because people know you.
GrassIsGood 2y ago
The post was about me NOT going to college, so I won't have that ability to make as many friends as possible and practice approaching people and need to find other ways to do that. Not saying I would sacrifice my work life to do so, but it would be nice to have at least SOME social life.
Ti123 2y ago
As someone else mentioned gyms are another way
abitofmemory 2y ago
lol. but i am literally completely alone in the country where i am right now in. i have neither any relatives, nor friends here.
and i just go out, enjoy the outside (sometimes it is much better than dying in front of phone/desktop screen, sometimes i want to puke since there is nothing fabulous outside) and approach as much as i can.
maybe not 10k, but i would expect that i daygamed at least 2-3k women during the last 5 years
Ti123 2y ago
Move somewhere where people are. Once you start getting older people get stuck in their because defeatist mentality catches up to them. Socialize or you’ll just become social retard
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GrassIsGood 2y ago
Yeah, unless I wanted to be a doctor or lawyer I don't see any reason to go to college, which is why I haven't chosen to do that. Where I am in my small dense city right near DC, it's almost like you've chosen to go the way of the devil if you don't go to college for STEM or politics. My parents get weird looks from other kids' parents, I get people concerned I won't be able to support myself, etc. But thankfully all my family is very supportive since I have the mindset to make everything work for me and I don't waste time/money.
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abitofmemory 2y ago
u can go to gym and meet people there. even if u wont get laid immediately u can talk to other men and then ask what they do in their free time. if they go fishing, traveling, just walking or whatever, ask to go with them. then u can try to use the social chains and meet new people through these gym men u will go out with. now u will have some chances coming across a single and nice woman through common friends.
so, going to gym allows u to accomplish two things: make ur look better and increase ur chances on finding a woman.
GrassIsGood 2y ago
Genuinely useful idea. Thanks.
Bulba 2y ago
Pick up a hobby that has women in it. Like dancing classes.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
They might not have your best interests at heart. LEARN TO MAKE YOUR OWN DECISIONS.
It's possible, but it's not ideal.
Fix that. Be social. Join clubs, organisations, everything you can think of. Doing it regularly, stick with what works.
Dating apps suck for 95% of men and don't help you learn to get better.
Oh yes they fucking do....... but that visual stimulus has to be top 5%.
right
Forget shitting where you eat.
Clubs suck, but bars can work well.
Look, this is the same for everyone.
Be as attractive as you can get, and then choose from:
Details depend on your position, interests and city.
GrassIsGood 2y ago
"Oh yes they fucking do....... but that visual stimulus has to be top 5%." That's what I meant by don't react strongly. In order for them to be phased by it it has to be extreme.
Thanks for the suggestions. However, I am new to the terms at the end. What is "Day Game", "Nigh Game"? Why would it be different? I'm not old enough for bars to make any sense.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Google is your friend
GrassIsGood 2y ago
Also, do you have any idea as to how I could really figure out if "They might not have [my] best interests at heart."?
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
I mean they may be unable to let you go free in the world because of their own needs