So I decided to bite the bullet and download tinder and to my surprise, it’s working pretty well. I get 6-7 matches a day and they usually answer positively to my "out there" openers.
HOWEVER.
After a few messages back and forth, I ask for their number, which they always give out. So I add them to my contacts and text, introducing myself (usually a few hours between them giving me their # and me texting them).
And then they become ultra unresponsive. I’m talking hours left on delivered, ghosted twice even. It’s hard to get to meeting them when they barely reply to your messages.
Any idea as to why this shit happens by text conversations but does not happen at all on tinder? It’s confusing af
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financehardo420 Should i (x1) 2y ago
At least tinder works for you dawg I use the same pics same profile n still nothing but crust for me in my town lol
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
if you get their number, tell them "I'm gonna call you in 10 minutes"...... then CALL THEM.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Try changing it up. You get a decent number of matches so you can try 1. building more investment before # ask, and 2. Escalating and building more sexual tension before the # ask.
Tailor it to the girl slightly. Does she seem like a sexually open girl thats DTF, go direct. Reserved, shy girl, go slightly indirect.
I dont ask for numbers until the date is set personally.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I would argue you're doing it wrong and not using enough social awareness or intelligence about how women mentally operate. After all, you are a stranger on an app and they also have a bunch of other options to choose from. Read my comment thread on this one for a more functional strategy.
I also don't ask for their number until I've met them in person, it's a completely unnecessary step that scares them off with a number request and you don't need to shoot yourself in the foot like that
https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/299826/game_on_tinder/7291214
NeoSpartan 2y ago
I've literally always asked for a number after like 3 to 5 message exchanges and it's never failed. I don't get this at all.
If they are too skittish to give you their number, what makes you think they will be okay with taking the larger step of meeting you irl?
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Wait no, it's failed at least once. But I'm pretty sure she wasn't gonna meet up anyway.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
That's just how I do it. Your mileage may vary
NeoSpartan 2y ago
So you set up the dates through the app? I guess there's no drawback to that but I think connecting through a more personalized medium adds some feeling of a stronger connection in their minds. Plus you can verify them.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I mean yeah. It only takes me 2-3 messages to get a date. And they seem incredibly comfortable in person with me. I suppose I could ask for the number but it hasn't seemed like I've had to
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Yeah I guess it doesn't really matter. I'm just used to doing it this way, I have sort of a system I suppose. I do think my theory has some merit though, every little bit helps imo.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I'm sure if I got their number it might go better. Perhaps I'm playing it too safely but safe has worked thus far. The worst she can say is let's stay on the app
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Hmmm, that is weird dude. I mean the hours on delivered isn't, a lot of girls are just like that, I mean I am too, busy with other shit ya know? Respond later.
Complete ghosting is odd though, are you taking forever to set up the date? Because I could see how that would be annoying. One thing I've seen a lot of girls complain about is guys sticking to the penpal thing and taking forever to make a move. Indecisiveness is a real panty drier.