For those who dont know about Whatsapp, its a texting app that literally every country but the USA uses to text eachother. With Whatsapp, you cannot hide your online status.
She is a good LTR to me, hasnt shown signs of cheating or anything. But the thing is, most of the time I go online on Whatsapp late at night, she is online. Im not the jealous type, but it just gives me doubt about her, even though she hasnt done anything to show signs of cheating.
There is the off chance she goes online just to see if im online, the classic girlfriend being nosey, but its unlikely.
I just dont know what to make of it..? There is no discussing this with her, because it will come across as insecure and/or jealous. But it just gives me this growing doubt about our relationship, and makes me not want to be with her, despite how good of a LTR she is to me otherwise.
I also understand that girls are very social creatures, moreso than men, and most women are always texting someone at all hours of the day, but maybe its just wishful thinking.
Anyone have advice about this situation?
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Who told you that, it's used extensively in USA
So, it's possible she has girl friends, or a group she's in. When I was in a WhatsApp group everyone would be spamming that shit at all hours of the night
Honestly, why don't you just send her one of your ordinary messages during these hours on Whatsapp and see if she responds. Or if she does, if it's enthusiastic or not. Then just say some bullshit you're up to and ask her that back
Maybe video call her, specifically on Whatsapp and see if she's annoyed or happy to pick that up. If she's possibly chatting another dude she'll be annoyed to have to pick up a video call or give weird as fuck text answers
Edit: if you two never talk on Whatsapp at all ignore my advice and just text her normally on phone instead if you go with that.
This is a pretty passive approach to maybe seeing if anything is up in a non-butthurt, non-paranoid way
tenfour 1y ago
Last time I was looking on WA, you can't hide that you're online unless business version can do it? Also online status stays ~30s after you're out of app
You can hide last seen and read status
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Oh my bad, I'm an idiot, you're right, online shows up regardless if you are or just after you stop being on. But yes, last seen is a two-way street
Onestepeveryday 1y ago
This feature about not being able to hide online status helped me with a girl I was about to date, she always took like 4-8 hours to reply basic stuff, and she was most of the day online on whatsapp so I understood she wasnt into me.
tenfour 1y ago
Yep, it works even if you have 2nd SIM and person doesn't have you in contacts. It would be even better, if there would be software to collect that online status for LTR prospect and get determined with one glance.
Vermillion, correction for sharing knowledge, not to look down
Onestepeveryday 1y ago
there are a few apks on playstore that track online status.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
My wife uses whatsapp late at night but she has family on the other side of the planet...