Preface: the AskTRP forum rules are not accessible. It just links to the banned subreddit. So I can't read up on what I can post or ask. If this post doesn't follow the rules, feel free to remove of course.
Anyway, I have a good female friend of mine and she's good fun. No real interest from my side, known her for the longest. (I'd still do her though ^^)
She never had a relationship longer than 3 months and she's 28. She finds most guys Disney Princes and has a hard time committing herself. I'm convinced she has natural red pill beliefs as well. She had plenty of fwb's before, still does. Is attractive, I would rate her an 8 myself and can be intimidating to guys in general, because of the bluntness and open disgust of bp behavior.
Nevertheless, I always wondered why she's not able to keep a guy. I've known her for a very long time. I don't see any fucked up behavior from her side. She's entrepreneurial and has her own successful company with international gigs. But like I said, she takes no shit either, has high demands and is mostly working all the time because of it. And of course she wonders as well.
Now, to be honest: If I were to meet a girl today, that is in her late twenties, attractive and fun to be around. But never had a relationship in her life apart from 1 that lasted 3 months. Then all my bells and whistles would go off...
What redflags would you define in such a girl?
Mine:
- no experience in LTR = not knowing what she wants in a partner
- potential immature handling of an LTR
- yearly subscription to the local cockcarrousel
- ready to settle, nearing 30
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
All of your comments are spot on.
I think one thing not clear from your review, is this girl even interested in a LTR. She may not be, she's just having fun. This is what most girls in college are doing today, they may have a short time committed relationship, if it's convenient, but most are playing the field.
so, yes, a woman who's late 20's and never had a relationship over 3months, would raise a lot of my flags. I'd view her immediately as a plate, nothing more.
Have fun with her and wait for the personality disorders to show themselves.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Have flagged this to the site owners.
She is a commitment phobe, but WANTS TO BLAME MEN for her lack of commitment.
"Disney princes" is such a weird thing to say...... probably she's heard "disney princess" a lot and is flipping it around.
Women are red pill as fuck. Part of being RP for women is to pretend to not be RP while maximising their benefits.
Maybe she's intolerable, commitmentphobic, bored easily, prefers casual sex.
Women always blame the guy. You never hear "I just can't settle down" or "I like to have as much cock as possible". It always gets turned around onto men.
Yeah, no way she's LTR material.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Most women are, but this is an example of a woman that i would argue is less so than normal, and that's part of the reason she's struggling. She has the natural female dual mating strategy but cannot understand how men work outside of easy sex.
OtPayOkerSmay 1y ago
It's possible that she's got too bossy of a personality for the alpha-bux she's trying to shoot for. They quickly realize she'll be a headache in anything more than a fling, so they toss her to the curb for someone who will be submissive and non-competitive/combative.
Women who build their lives around trying to compete with men will often end up as leftovers, because the men they desire do not want an adversary as a partner. They assume that men will find them attractive for the same reasons that they find men attractive - status, no-shit attitude, entrepreneurial, etc. - and this mindset fails them, since it's mostly only betas that want and will put up with this type of woman.
hannulv 1y ago
This is totally not true. Girls have girl wiring. RP exposes girl wiring. Girl's don't innately understand their own wiring. A lot of their wiring even involves self-deception. You can't lie about what you're doing when you don't even realize that you're lying. This is why girls that cheat always say shit like "I don't even know how it happened. It surprised me. It just happened." Their brain often hides their own feels from them even while it is navigating to put them in compromising situations. By the time they are aware of the feels, it is "too late".
This is why it is so critical to establish hard boundaries about broadcasting sexual availability and mate-guarding themselves in an LTR. Girls collect orbiters for validation and then develop feels.
She doesn't need to understand RP. She just needs to understand that she will lose her prize if she collects orbiters and puts herself in compromising situations.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Great points!
whytehorse2021 1y ago
No, women are blue-pilled as fuck. My wife is actually red pilled and she is the complete opposite of modern women. The blue pill for women is the whole go to college, get a career, sleep around in your party years, and then stick the landing in your 30s and find prince charming. Throw in some body positivity and a grandiose sense of entitlement too.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Beware of "this one is different".
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Nah the feminists already came for her and she shot them down. Even offered her money to end our marriage. Women raised under Islam are somewhat immune to blue pill lies. Obviously it's replaced with God pill lies but hey whatever works.
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coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Doubt that.
She's an attractive slut with masculine traits.
She does not naturally understand TRP at all. If she did she would be more like the women over at r/RPW and have zero issue finding a stable relationship.
She's prime pump and dump material for all guys that are good looking and confident enough to try. That sounds like all.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
My wife was a late bloomer. Didn't even entertain dating men until her late 20s. She never rode the cock carousel. Very religious. Plenty of FWBs is a red flag.
Gosh it's so hard to hold mt tongue when I see a guy taking his wife in to get her nails done. It just makes me want to yell "BETA!!".
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
lmann817 1y ago
I know a girl like this too, sounds like she’s over masculinized. Focused on her career, assertive/dominant, not looking for commitment with any degree of urgency. And while some of that may sound positive, it actually can be a huge pain in the ass in a relationship. You want a feminine girl interested in a masculine man, not a girl who’s competing with you to be masculine, it introduces all sorts of problems and annoyances.
Another red flag is finding no man high enough caliber to date. Having impossibly high standards is usually a reflection of some emotional problem the girl has, maybe a subconscious hatred of men. I even think some girls enjoy rejecting men and want them to fall short of their expectations. A lot of this is based on the girl I know to be fair, but calling them Disney princes lines up with a girl who enjoys feeling superior to men.