Second time shes done this. First time she flaked and apologized.
The second time was today, we sort of had miscommunication about meeting up admittedly, but we never called off the date either, nor confirmed it. As I was coming she told me she wasnt home and asked for forgiveness, explaining that she wasnt sure if we were still on because explained the miscommunication and we never confirmed a solid plan.
I understand this, and i wasnt even sure if we were on either, so i find it to be a legitimate reason.
But im not sure if gracefully accepting her apology is weakness too. This means all she has to do is use her words to get out of a future flake. Technically this is the second flake, however it is asterisk, because we never actually solidified the plan and i showed up...? But her asking for forgiveness is admittance of guilt per se, because she probably felt the same way and left the house with me when i was supposed to pick her up.
Thoughts?
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Girls are retarded sometimes and dont check even if they're not sure what's going on. It's like they're used to not knowing what the fuck is happening. They cant lead for shit.
You're allowed to be annoyed and to let her take some responsibility. Just dont be butthurt about it.
But do lead better next time. Be clear. Dont allow room for misunderstandings. That way you wont have to wonder if she's messing with you or is just forgetful etc.
LudgerKresnik 1y ago
seems like it's your fault for not making a clear plan.
woman want a man to lead them and if you don't give them a solid plan they are like a lost kid who don't know what to do.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Right.
First time: "you're forgiven this time, but don't do it again".
Second time: "two of your two bridges burned, you have to make it up to me".
Third time: "We need a break".
Exactly. So don't let her off too easily or she'll stop respecting you.