What are your thoughts on women lying to string you along?
Many guys in the community blame guys for falling for this, but that’s stupid in my opinion. There’s a difference between a subtle lie to protect your feelings, and then a beckoning lie to get you attached under a false pretense.
I personally still think that even little lies to protect feelings are dangerous, as is evidenced by the men who hear these little lies 1,000 times in a row and they don’t know they need to better themselves until years later, and then they just marry a lady hitting the wall because it’s easier.
So, in my opinion, lies are bad. I had a girl chasing me and I just ghosted her like a decent human being. I could’ve kept her chasing for the continued validation, which she was giving a lot of, but that’s a dick move.
Is there anyone here who can’t accept even the smallest lies or is it just me?
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Why didnt you just tell her what you were after and let her make up her own mind? Wouldnt even have to ghost her "like a decent human being" lmao.
Getting "strung along" implies you're not the person who's in control. A good thing about TRP is that you learn how to be in control, and to improve your position or remove yourself if you are losing control.
If a girl is lying that's a very bad sign.
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coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Who the fuck strings along a fatty for validation anyway. Lol
Thinking black and white again. It's nuanced
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mattyanon Admin 3y ago
Agreed.
When this happens I just ditch them.
I accept that it happens and it happens a LOT.
But it's dishonest and they get ditched for it.
What else can you do?
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TriumphoftheSwill 3y ago
Lying is an intrinsic part of being a woman. It is a core part of her DNA. They don't just lie to others, their entire worldview, how they see themselves and the world around them is all lies. That's why fat women think they are beautiful. That's why trashy women think they are virtuous. Women can't exist without lying constantly. You just have to understand that and deal with them from that point on.
It's more of a handicap to them than it hurts men. Women never truly live in reality and without a man to guide them. Even if they do well for themselves they end up addicted, broke and close to homeless. I've seen this happen with so many women. They can't handle reality without lying.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Yeah it's become normalized for women to scam men. Entire web sites like onlyfans and sugardaddy openly display this. Can you blame them though? As a bi guy I know what it's like to have the situation reversed. Like some guy asking you to go out to some fancy place or he's planned your future together after having sex a few times.
It really boils down to covert contracts and oneitis which arise from scarcity mentality. I guess the real problem would be what's causing a scarcity mentality in the first place. That would be open hypergamy. The solution? MGTOW. RP is is just a variant of MGTOW.
tenfour 3y ago
interesting point
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
The bottom line of why it's usually the dude's fault is because if she keeps saying one thing and doing another, the guy ought to see the game being played and bail.
If you stick along despite empty promises or alluding to getting with you, and she never gets with you, then the dude out to next her. No man should put up with that, placing the onus on him to see it for what it is and act accordingly
Women are almost always going to lie about their intent and lack of interest because on a visceral level, they don't want some angry dude beating their face in when she rejects him. It's irrational but women go to lengths to protect themselves from harm by lying about their disinterest.
It's stupid, but that's female nature, maintaining physical safety and avoiding the reputation of being a cold bitch. So they lie about interest
It's not your place to get upset with female nature and work against it, but to work around it or with it and act accordingly
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Don't read that literally. It's a subconscious fear they have, they're not overtly thinking it
But that is how they think, it's fine to not like it but you're trying to warp female nature into should be's instead of what is
RedPill115 3y ago
Just don't agree with you; their main drive to lie to protect their own ego.
I agree with your "accept them for who they are" but believing their physical safety argument when that isn't it 99% of the time isn't doing that.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
I didn't say that was the main reason, if that was implied by being one of the only things I mentioned it wasn't deliberate
RedPill115 3y ago
Not really sure what you mean.
You lumped it nearly all into safety, which sorry to be pendantic, it's just my personal pet peeve.
tenfour 3y ago
...If we accept hypergamy is innate then lying is innate is too, then we can discuss to what degree each happens.
Lie is gut twisting revulsive all I know being on the receiving end.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
I mean it's an Internet forum, I'm responding to randos. Not all my responses are going to encapsulate every facet of a phenomena