Had a first date I thought went well with a girl I'd rate her an HB7.5/8 range. met off tinder. On the date one question came up where I asked why she was on tinder, said she just recently broke up with her boyfriend and was looking for something casual. We had a drink, ended up kissing her and invited her back to my place. She agreed at first, then once I got home she texted me saying she had to go check on her friends dog and wanted to rain check, prior to the date she told me she was dog sitting so valid excuse or not I was a bit annoyed she left me hanging but decided to just drop it and move on. She texted me when she got home saying she had a good time and wanted to hang again but not next week, the following one. I agreed, no response. Texted her the weekend before to check her availability still no response.
Figured at this point she ghosted, found someone else or went back to her ex. Today about 2.5 weeks later she hits me back saying sorry she's been busy with work and doesn't get notifications (BS excuse I know) , normally I'd just drop a girl like this but she's definitely one of the more attractive women I'm dealing with right now so considering meeting again but at my place but need to confront her on this issue without being too aggressive about it?
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
You don't need to check on her.
She's fucking other men..... see if you can have your turn too.
goodmansaysfuckyou 1y ago
No you don't. If she fucks you then she fucks you. If not, then move on and forget she ever existed.
She is not yours it is just your turn. She has been fucking someone other than you so it isn't even your turn yet. Best case scenario is that you have an occasional plate/FWB but don't expect anything more from her. Wear condoms and use what she offers.
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Alphamindset 1y ago
Agreed, and idk where people are getting that I'm looking for an LTR. Literally never mentioned it. Some girls just don't wanna fuck the first meetup, I've had girls ghost because they assumed I was trying to hookup too soon. Pretty sure she's down to come thru so was likely gonna suggest a movie, maybe have some wine or cook/order some food.
xaxixh 1y ago
Why are you looking for LTR on tinder and since when did we start caring about what she wants? Stop being a beta.
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Alphamindset 1y ago
Why are you assuming anyone mentioned an LTR, just because we don't smash on the first date doesn't mean i'm trying to wife the bitch. Some of you dudes on here are lowkey RP rage dudes. Please relax.
xaxixh 1y ago
Fair enough.
redhawkes 2 1y ago
who gives a fuck, actions>words
What issue? You're not exclusive, you got oneitis for a tinder hoe.
Confronting/calling out lies accomplishes absolutely nothing, it's just going to be turned against you. Don't get too enthusiastic or invested, invite her over and smash.
Alphamindset 1y ago
I clearly mentioned it was just something that came up in the conversation. Some girls are looking for an ltr, some are more casual. I've had girls leave because I tried to invite her back too soon so maybe relax? Some of you really acting like you need to fuck every girl on the first date. Literally I can deal with not fucking on the first meetup if that's communicated. No one has oneitis, I literally have 5 other girls I'm setting up dates with right now. did you read the part where I dropped it? She messaged back after 2 weeks when I already assumed she was gone. it's merely about not letting women disrespect my time.
redhawkes 2 1y ago
Yea, ltr on tinder.
The fact that you reply like a butthurt sperglord says it all. If you came her for advice, stfu and spare your ego. She fucked someone else and put you on the backburner, it's obvious.
Men with options doesn't post here about hoe who ghosted him.
Alphamindset 1y ago
Sounds more like you're putting your own insecurities on me. There's a difference between advice and throwing ad-hominem attacks. I asked simply how would you respond and you started throwing slurs and assuming things that I never stated. I already assumed she could be fucking someone else, it seems you have a reading comprehension problem or you were too stupid to catch that because I have to keep repeating myself. Not everyone here is an RP rager like you so maybe relax and go talk to your women since you have so many options buddy? You legit sound butthurt getting mad over a comment that doesn't even concern you so stop throwing temper tantrums like a female.
redhawkes 2 1y ago
It's always the guys with 'alpha' in the username that spit the most beta shit. Every time.
Trigger the beta's ego and watch sperging in the comments.
Alphamindset 1y ago
You're still here? I thought you had options? Guess not.
SeasonedRP 1y ago
You don't need to confront her on anything. Act like nothing happened.