Hello again, second post today after my brilliant post earlier. I'm doing better now, but I needed to vent badly.
So I go to the gym and I notice that a lot of girls look at me. Here's the thing, none of them EVER smile at me. The thing is, whenever I look back at them, they quickly look away. Many times, I catch this happening multiple times per workout with the same girls. Not to mention, a lot (not all) of these girls go to the gym alone and don't talk to anyone.
I hurt my shoulder a few months back and it has prevented me from bench pressing without pain. So yesterday, I asked a guy at my gym that I know if he could help record a video of me benching one simple rep of 135 lbs just to get an idea of what my form/grip is like (my max was 275 until my shoulder pain fucked it up). In the damn background of the video was a girl that was GLUED to me. Literally looked at me on the bench, turned around to get her water, and then turned around to look at me again. This is the one of the same girls that looks away whenever I catch her looking at me.
Now I know this is fucking stupid of me to make a giant post about something so minor but is it a GOOD thing to have girls looking at me even though they don't shoot me a smile? I'm pretty self conscious about this stuff because I read online about red pill guys saying shit like "it only matters if she looks at you AND smiles".
Am I overthinking this?
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
This is normal. Girls are scared to make eye contact with strangers.
normal
ah, ignore that
Yeah, it's normal.
Look, it's a good thing. She looks because attracted, might have a bf, might he shy, might be on the rag for all you know.
Smile back at them, keep looking until she catches you smiling at her, when she looks away again you get back to what you were doing.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Yep. Girls check out dudes at the gym same as we do to them. Doesn't mean much though. The gym is a tough place to pick up. You are probably going to want a stronger IOI like a smile or something before you start shitting where you eat. And if you do go in, start lightly.
grilledcheesaroo 2y ago
Smile isn't a strong IOI, lol. These chicks smile at literally anyone. I would say strong IOI is brattiness.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Can be, if you are playing around with her and she is responding with it yeah. But that's after you've already approached and built a little rapport ime. Doesn't really pertain to the OP's question.
User4566 2y ago
Brattiness? Could you explain? Maybe examples?
grilledcheesaroo 2y ago
When she is being kind of bitchy. She is most likely crazy and wants you to out-alpha her but I guarantee you that she wants you. Women who DON'T like you are going to be INDIFFERENT. Some of them are going to be sweet while dodging you.. but understand that women are not bitchy 99% of the time and when they are; they get bitchy for a reason.
User4566 2y ago
Isn't it just like when you are checking a girl out and looking at her assets, you would look away to avoid her catching you?
I've never had a girl smile at me unless she knows me. I have introduced myself to girls and they smile and light up but never randomly.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Yep. Pretty much just like that. Most girls are pretty shy. Sometimes I think they want you to look though.
Hmmm. Dunno. Used to happen to me before masks sometimes at the gym. I mostly just pop in headphones in and ignore everyone these days though. A good way(in the before times, in the long long ago) to test was if you caught one looking at you just shoot her a little grin or something and gauge her reaction.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
The double-take is a pretty strong IOI. The first-take is pretty meaningless. A lot of times women are just trying to see how many guys they can get to check them out. Also don't shit where you eat.
RedPill115 2y ago
Oh good, is the whole blue-pill thing back? "You should never date girls you actually meet anywhere".
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
If you dont understand or dont care about the consequences of gaming women at the workplace or the gym you can always go ahead.
The fact that blue pilled people end up marrying colleagues more often than not isnt really relevant for a red pilled guy just looking for another plate to fuck and then ditch down the road.
RedPill115 2y ago
This is exactly it.
Then maybe this should be the point, rather than the blue pill feminist "no one should date evaaaarrr" narrative.
But since the OP is at the gym, not at work, it irrelevant here.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
You should explain your argument so it's clear what your point actually is.
Saying "dont shit where you eat" is simply a reminder of the increased risk in dating in arenas you're invested in, e.g. work or at your gym. It's not complicated.
RedPill115 2y ago
This certainly makes my point about how this is blue pill bullshit.
Scam, scam, scam some more.
Try using words to mean things, not just to lie in more complicated ways.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
What the fuck are you even talking about?
Any bad case scenario with a crazy chick is bound to fuck you over tenfold if it goes down at your workplace or the gym, compared to night/day game, social circles, etc.
User4566 2y ago
That's a very good point.
thedonuts352 2y ago
Work out alone. At 4AM when there are no girls at the gym, or at home. Go to the gym to train, not to see girls or be seen.
Growing 2y ago
Thought about the intention of going to the gym too. Is it purely lifting or lifting and picking up. The latter messes the former.
User4566 2y ago
Bold of you to assume I have the grit to wake up at 4