I know alot of people say you shouldn't try to date a coworker, but this coworker I rarely see and I'm very good at handling rejection so I went for it.
Long story short I asked her for her number but didn't text her til like a week later. Not intentional. I had a date later that evening and I worked like 70 hours that week and was busy . I only saw her once after getting her number, we spoke, and I texted her later that evening. After I texted her she said " who is this". I told her who and she didn't respond. After that I assumed it was a rejection. She didn't seem that interested to begin with in my opinion.
The next day when I was walking into work I saw her and it caught me off guard because I usually don't see her early in the morning. So I walked past her and she tapped my shoulder. She's never touched me before. I said "whats up?" And she didn't really say anything so I kept walking. After I went into the office like two minutes later she walked in there and was standing there like she was waiting for me to say something to her. I never spoke so eventually she left.
I've had a girl literally try to put me in the friendzone and got upset when I wasn't interested in that. She showed no interest in me until after she rejected me lol and tried to cockblock me with other women. I thought this situation was heading in that direction.
I know you should never let a woman see you butt hurt but I didn't care and felt like I was being toyed with. I had no intentions of making her my gf and I wanted things to go back to how they were before I hit on her and not deal with the attempt of making me her orbitor or validation. So I texted her and said "if you cant respond through text, don't touch or speak to me in person". She didn't respond obviously.
Did I handle this situation completely wrong?
Nadox12 4y ago
Hey Mate,
"I know you should never let a woman see you butt hurt but I didn't care and felt like I was being toyed with..."
and
"So I texted her and said "if you cant respond through text, don't touch or speak to me in person". She didn't respond obviously."
I think you handled the situation well at the beginning but it was a mistake to write that to her. Now she might feel uncomfortable with you around her, especially because you both work together. In my opinion you have to play, in settings like that, the long-term game. So even if you she did not reply, you just could acted with her like before in a confident, laid back and humorous manner. Even if you don't care she knows now that you are butt hurt you drastically reduced your chance with her with the last text, because you were indeed butt hurt.
For the next time if something like that happens, try to play long-term, flirt with her and let her see that you are a cool guy. You don't have to rush things, but you have to show at least some interest that she knows that you might flirt with her.
P.S: Its your peception that you felt like being toyed, its not a fact. You have to remember that you are working with her so she might dont want to been seen as slut at work or stuff like that. Never forget things like that.
jaykrez619 4y ago
What do you think is the reason she didn't text back but was trying to get me to speak to her?
Bulba 4y ago
She obviously wanted to see if you have the balls to approach her and ask her out in person.
It was a shit test and you failed it.
RedPill115 4y ago
Texting uses a different part of the brain then talking to someone in person does, which uses a different part of the brain than physical touching does. I'm a guy, but I get real tired of girls being shy in person, then "be emotional" over text - text is where emotions go to die.
The most favorable explanation is that you didn't text her for a week so she wanted things to go or not go somewhere where it's normal - in person.
The next explanation is that she felt like you were playing games with her not texting her for a week, so she started playing games back in not responding then being there in person.
What's weird though is she showed up and physically tapped you on the shoulder. For a girl to be that forward is odd, like your text got lost on the network somewhere and you didn't get it so you didn't respond, so now she's confused about why she responded favorably then never heard back.
hannulv 4y ago
Sounds like she dodged a bullet.
Hanscheezburger 4y ago
This reeks of oneitis. Read the sidebar
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