Thank you all for the responses, they were really helpful. I'll keep you updated if anyone is interested

Men are conditioned for monogamy, but it is rooted in our biology to seek multiple sex partners. Men and womens sex strategies are incompatible, you either play on their terms (go into scarcity=give her the power which she will eventually hate you for i.e. ruin the relationship), or play on your own. I think I read on this in the rational male. Never overtly state that you are seeing multiple women, this will activate her ASD, only covertly imply this. One of the basic tenets is: women will rather share a high-value man than be settled with a low-value one. Hope this helps with your moral dilemma.

Most girls seem to just want to have fun, so who really cares? Depends on the girl I guess. Oneitis is bad though, scarcity is bad. Do what you want until you find a girl worth committing to, which probably will take a good long while. Another thing is your main girl is seeing other guys so why the fuck would you feel guilty for doing the same dude?

Dude.

That's just blue pill mindset.

Let's detach from the situation for a bit.

If she found a better man, would she fuck you?

Exactly.

Men are polygamous by nature, women hypergamous.

You do you.

She should fuck you alone and you multiple bitches till YOU decide you have had enough and want to cut some off. (Note: not settle down). However, let her know this covertly.

Cutting them off should be irrespective of how she feels and more of your choice.

Since you are struggling with this part, you should probably not cut your options.

Spin plates to the point where all bitches feel no different.

This will lead to an emptiness then afterward, a freedom you are not accustomed to.

Spin some more plates.

You'll get used to it.

It's almost the hardest thing to do; getting accustomed to the emptiness but I promise you the other side is better.

Mostly, you stop pedestalizing women and view them with the value (read femininity, willingness to adopt your frame, few red flags) they bring.

So, regarding Anne, don't cut options because of her.

Would she stop sucking attention from other guys because she's seeing you?

This sounds more of vengeance but that's not the angle you should view it from.

My main point is: you deserve to give yourself the freedom to be a man.

So I've been dating this hb8 for two months now. Let's call her Anne. We made it clear that we can have flings with other people, but as soon as things get more serious with another person (meeting multiple times, not just having fun, being romantic, getting to know each other and not just fucking) Anne wants me to tell her because that would not be ok for her.

ok....... kinda........ but you shouldn't accept this limit.

lola

cool

dump / tell / confess etc

See lola until it becomes regular, then tell Anne that Lola is now a regular in your life. Listen and nod and say "yeah... I see" to all her objections. Say you want to continue seeing them both. If Anne gives you an ultimatum, tell her "I'm sorry you feel like that, I'd like to keep seeing you". Don't agree not to see either of them. Just weather the storm until they both accept the situation.

Honesty is the best way because it gives you a drama-free life. More than 50% of women will accept a poly relationship, if Anne is not in this 50% then that's her choice.

I do this and usually they stick around just fine. Occasionally it's not for them (provider hunters), and that's fine. The trick is to very gently stick to your guns.

Anne has made it clear that she’s not okay with dating you if you’re seriously dating another woman. Did you let her decide that rule or did you agree on that boundary together? You should have told her from the start if you wanted to seriously date another woman and not just have flings. You don’t have to outright disrespect her boundaries to be an alpha