I'm 20 years old, blessed with good genetics so I've always been able to get laid.
However, about 6 weeks ago, things ended with my "main girl" (FWB) and she did some very petty things right after. I'm not gonna lie, I was hurt by a girl for the first time in ages.
The following week, I felt like shit; second week I had a ONS; almost felt worse after that so I gave myself a week off. But the last 3ish weeks I've actively tried to get laid. Just "gaming" other girls has helped me get over her but I've never in my life had this hard of a time actually getting laid. At the moment, it seems like all the stars have to aline for me to just be able to get a date.
My ego is doing just fine getting "rejected" and flaked on but I've reached a point where I just cba (I feel asexuel lmao) and I barely have time for girls atm. So I would be completely fine with just taking some time off and not gaming girls at all, but I'm scared that it will slow down / revert the grieving-process (that sounds fucking gay but you get what I mean).
What would you recommend regarding my rant above, am I gonna survive even if I don't try to get laid for a month or two, or even more?
What do you when it seems like you have "negative momentum" when it comes to girls?
whytehorse2021 about a year ago
Go hang with some bros.
Vermillion-Rx about a year ago
You say you had no problems before, had an emotionally disruptive experience to your psyche (you're human), and now are struggling to get laid despite trying.
It's a pretty simple answer, you're off your game because you're emotionally fucked. As WhyteHorse said, go hang with bros. You need to get your masculine energy back, it's probably reduced atm.
You haven't identified any other issues in your post that would stand out as reasons you're not getting laid. "Trying" hard is counterproductive. The harder you try, the less successful you will be. Women can smell you trying
Hanscheezburger about a year ago
Focus on you and the women will too
mattyanon about a year ago
Most will say "you're trying too hard, just let it happen".
This is of course a faint shadow of the correct mentality. The reality is you gotta try, but not care too much. There is a subtle energy about a man that can make all the difference between success and failure.
Find a way to make it all more fun rather than focusing on the outcome. Try your best, but leave the outcomes to the gods.
You'll be fine either way :)
Dry spells are normal, you'll come out of it the other side. Meanwhile: you are lifting, right?