As a person I like being upfront about my intentions and don’t hesitate to lead or to make plans with people. Im a very social person and I feel like I get my energy by being around other people and I don’t like being at home doing nothing. Lately after breakup with my ex I’ve been trying to socialize a lot more and go out much more often
However I’ve noticed some of the group of people that I have some of the deepest connections with, literally Minick female behaviour. When I try to make plans they either are reluctant or don’t say anything and I have to convince them to come out. They are very indecisive people in general and bluepilled when it comes to their relationships, and I’ve seen them display some of these traits in their behaviour. They spent their days texting their girls and meeting with them (they’re all broken up now)
Despite that I’ve even told them recently that it’s okay to say no if they don’t want to do something. It’s much better than beating around the bush or being afraid to say something. Ironically when I’m busy doing other stuff they’ll complain that I didn’t invite them and what not.
At the same time am I displaying clingy behaviour that’s turning people off? Ill usually get to the point “let’s do x at y time whose down”. These are very fun people to be around and they enjoy my company but I’m not sure if theyre just indecisive people or if I’m just being too clingy and needy or display that when I don’t get a straightforward and decisive answer.because sometimes I do display my frustration when people aren’t clear with me
koedeloe123 2y ago
What I've learned over the years is that people like this never change. One of my former best friends literally did everything you wrote above. I'd make plans with him, he would agree, then when he was supposed to show up, he was nowhere to be seen. I can't even count how many times he ruined my night by not showing up. And when you call them, they don't even pick up their phone, or come up with the most ridiculous excuses.
Then you have friends who get a girlfriend, and disappear from the earth, never to be heard from until they break up with their LTR. You're clearly not a priority to them, as soon as something 'better" comes along, they will cancel on your plans without giving a fuck, it's best to cut off people like this.
The sooner you remove these people from your life, the better. My cousin works 80 hours a week, has 2 young kids, works out, and has multiple projects running in the background. Yet he has time to meet me. When someone genuinely wants to hang out with you, they will make time. Of course, sometimes it's not possible, but the least you can expect them to do is let you know in advance "Hey X, can't make it, you're free next Wednesday?' .
I always wonder how these people function in life. Imagine showing up late for job interviews, dates, picking up your kids, catching your plane, ... That's why time management is so important. If your friends can't even do that, it's best to cut them the fuck off.
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DastardlyCade 2y ago
Yeah so far I’m either out gaming chicks with my cousin. Or I’m out with these guys just kicking back and eating or chilling. And they don’t play video games. One of the guys we used to gym like 4-5times a week. And sometimes I feel like they’re iffy about going out but won’t vocalize it and have me guessing. Which is what throws me off and pisses me off
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Growing 2y ago
I laughed at this.
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