Hi guys, this is going to be a post mostly about my insecurity and id like your advice and help on how to handle it.
I've been in an LTR with this girl for over 10 months now. Im 20 and shes 19. For the past month she has been giving me hints that she wants to come over to my place. Whenever she would aske I would always come up with an excuse and we'd just move on. However, a part of me wants to invite her over but I dont know, I just have this weird feeling and fear inside of me and I dont know what it is. I always come over to her place, I know her dad, mom and her siblings etc...
Whereas my family isnt like that. Its just me and my mom living at home and our home isnt the best. Part of me is embarrassed about it and I feel like if she was to come over she would hate it ? Why am I like this? The inside inst generally bad, i have a nice chill room but you can hear a lot, people walking around other rooms etc, the walls arent the best.
Anyway, long story short, I am scared to invite my LTR over to my house because I am embarrassed of it and I think she will hate it and not want to ever come back. She is attached to me and so far we have been going strong and already have 2 holidays planned for the near future and Christmas. Please give me some advice on how to handle this.
Tooktheredpill 2y ago
I grew up VERY poor and I can empathize with you my friend, but you can use it as a test. If she’s genuinely into you, it won’t fucking matter to her. If it bothers her, then you know how into you she really is.
I will say this, though: if she comes over and she sees you’re very uncomfortable, it’s going to make her uncomfortable. As difficult as it is, you’ve got to be in the DGAF mindset.
Again, I know where you’re coming from, and while it may be tough, this your chance to see how into you she really is.
Good luck man. I wish you the best.
Amazonforest 2y ago
Yeah, its the idea of being poor and not having the best of things compared to where she is spoiled by her parents..
However, she never seems to be big on money and never really cared about it when being with me or anything and often even offers to buy things and pay for it herself. Its not even the fact that im poor, im not, I have a stable job and i studying but its the idea that I live in a shitty house that makes me cringe and hate myself.
Tooktheredpill 2y ago
Regardless of what you choose to do and how things go with her, keep your nose to the grindstone and put YOU first and foremost. I’d kill to have the RP knowledge you have when I was your age.
Hang in there man and keep grinding. Trust me, there WILL BE plenty more where she came from, and whatever you do, don’t knock her up.
Take care brother.
Growing 2y ago
Why do you have an LTR at 20?
Other than that, girls who are into you don't really care about your financial status. If ahe does, she was never into you.
I've observed from my acquaintances. One girl moved out of a highly financially stable home to sleep on the floor with her boyfriend.
However,.we from this forum always insist we should get better every day.
All the best bro.
Amazonforest 2y ago
Why? Because I have been fucking girls for 2 years and it never led to anything serious and I wanted to see how life is with a girlfriend and with the use of red pill I managed to get this girl very attached and also we have very good chemistry and get along well so why not go with the flow and see where it takes me.
Growing 2y ago
Kindly go through the sidebar (again?).
In as much as spinning plates feels empty, it's great for your own growth.
You are still young. Much of your worry should be on game (not LTR) where you know, without a shadow of a doubt, you can pick girls up and most importantly, drop them like they are hot metals.
I am doing your question injustice. I can't possibly explain in full depth.
But this is my visceral feeling about your question. It's not more about her getting attached but more about you. Feel free to correct me.
Granted. Enjoyable girls are hard to find. But when you find one (or several) are you willing to let them go or do you wanna hold on to them? (Usually at your own cost)
You, my friend, should and must be willing to put yourself first at all costs. You suffer consequences whether you do that or not. It's better to suffer from your own.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
living with your mother isn't ideal.
inviting her over is then "meet the parents" which is a large commitment from you.
How to handle this:
Well, she's your LTR, invite her over. Make your room as clean/awesome as you can. Other than that: apologise for nothing, say nothing bad about it. You don't have to be proud, but don't be ashamed or apologise for your house or your situation.