Long story short, met this girl on Telegram. We talked all night one night. She told me a convincing story of growing up Mennonite and how she's never dated before. She says she's really into me and has never met anyone she liked like me. But she lives in AZ and I live in MI and she is working 80+ hour weeks at an understaffed hospital for the foreseeable future so we can't meet soon.
She has told me many times she likes me and not to leave her on read but she goes forever without texting me. When I asked her on Monday how she's doing, she didn't respond until today and she merely responded "ok, nothing new." No asking me how I am or telling me when we might be able to talk.
Is it possible she's just retarded or am I retarded for letting her string me along like this?
noidea 5y ago
oh bro go read the sidebar and lurk more. youre her orbiter. no idea how to recover from that. chances are slim.
WahmenLover 5y ago
I've been reading red pill material for ten years. I don't recall any story like mine. Apparently you think she blatantly lied to me multiple times. It's possible, but don't tell me to "lurk more" just because I'm not completely jaded like you
FromRedditNr928321 5y ago
lmao bro. clearly you havent understood a single thing about red pill. you are literally emotionally investing into someone you have never seen. the fact that you are defending your love so much while she didn't DO A SINGLE THING TO DESERVE YOU just tells me that you are a complete loser. you don't respect yourself or your time. if you really know everything about red pill then GO OUT AND START LIVING IT TODAY.
noidea 5y ago
bro I dont want to insult you. its just that your attitude here is wrong as in you are not doing yourself any favors. stop sweating it for her and look for ther chicks. jesus...just look she is not investing if the things were true what she said she would already found a way to meet you. call in sick, get in the car, easy...has she done that? no...she is playing you for keeping you in her orbit. dont giver her free validation man. Im sure you heard something along these lines before when you read that much RP material
WahmenLover 5y ago
She claims to be a charge nurse in a very understaffed surgical unit which means people's lives literally depend on her being there. So I'm not sweating the fact I might not meet her for a while. But I would like to at least spend 10 or 20 minutes a day talking to her. I want her to flirt with me and confide in me. As for other girls, I don't have the patience to chase women. I have been single and celibate for 10 years before this except when an old ex gf came on to me hard a couple years ago and I had a short fling with her. I'm basically a MGTOW who thought he had something close to a unicorn fall into my lap. If this doesn't work out then there won't be any more females in my life for a long time if ever. Sorry I don't have abundance mindset or whatever. I don't need to get my dick wet that bad and I certainly don't need to get married.
FromRedditNr928321 5y ago
"But I would like to at least spend 10 or 20 minutes a day talking to her. I want her to flirt with me and confide in me."
you are a creepy incel bro. you are in no position to make such demands.
noidea 5y ago
I also dont have an abundance of women and often date below my SMV. nothing to be sorry for, its just that for example the abundance mindset helps staying sane in a world where hypergamy runs free and it is attractive to women. I also thought about MGTOW but its honestly not for me. I mean I take month long breaks doing my shit but then its enough and I start again, everytime a little better and a little stronger in terms of the mindset and attitudes. The thing is women today have access to alphas and they know how they act. One has basically no other choice but know what alpha behavior is and then try to become one or copy the behavior. While the latter is a little fruitless but one has to start somewhere. You know its very simliar for me too. I was just trying out RP things and gave it my all. Shit actually worked more or less and I suddenly stood in the bedroom of a girl I considered so fucking gorgeous I coudnt belive it....you know what happened next? Piece by piece she was letting me know by her actions that she was was with several alphas and I was maybe just barely worth her while. I hold my frame and shit as good as I could but at the end it slowly declined and I lost it. Not in terms of it ended but I could see her attraction wnet away piece by piece and knew if I had started earlier learing the RP way, I could have held this up....that was the hardest shit to swallow TRP wise yet and Im actually on anti-depressants since half a year now. On the other hand Im glad I did not because I had serious oneitis for her and this whole thing could have been a catastrophe. Anyway you see we have no choice the go the alpha way because the day may come where women xy comes along and then you want to have the practive in or otherwiese oyu can watch it all fade becuse she knows Chad and wants Chad and you have just no glue.....On the other hand I also learned that bascially no women is really worth it having onwitis for. The fact alone that they have their lizard brain that constantly comes up with some manipulation, shittests or whatever...nope...not worth to marry, not worth to have oneitis for and not worth to loose one ounce of energy over if she replied or not...and the funny thing is dude, that is one core believe or core attitude to have that they find attractive...this "contradiction" alone is another reason for a nope...fuck it, mission comes first...until I change my mind in a few weeks and I am ready for another dose of reality society "protected" me from in my youth. But I understand your situation and I hope someone comes a long with good advice to turn this around and I also hope you learn something from the situation with her. godspeed bro
WahmenLover 5y ago
Thanks for your story. It's good to hear other guys' stories and experiences. It makes me feel less alienated. I'm sorry for insulting you in the other thread
noidea 5y ago
no problem man, good luck
moorekom 5y ago
There can be two possibilities:
Either way, how do you think this will proceed in either scenario? Obviously, you are not much of a priority. Move on. If you want, keep her as one of the backups. If she asks you to not leave her on read, tell her to give you a reason to or just say "Sure" and do what want to. Don't over-analyze bitch drama.
WahmenLover 5y ago
Even if she is super busy, she could take a few extra seconds to apologize and tell me how much she misses me. "Hey nothing new" after 36 hours is just insulting from a girl who has said she's "not talking to anyone else" and that "she has never met a guy she likes as much as me." A few weeks ago she called me while hammered and even said she loved me multiple times. And this is supposedly from a girl with a body count of zero, which, if true, would negate the typical red pill response of "she probably can't pair bond due to how many dudes she's fucked"
moorekom 5y ago
How do you know this girl is a virgin? How do you know that she has never met a guy like you? How do you know she likes you?
Virgin girls can be very attached (to the point of being clingy) to men they like. Most women, whether they are virgins or not, tend to pursue men they like and think are above their league. Has she done that? If yes, how?
WahmenLover 5y ago
To your first three questions: I don't know for sure. Just my gut which, until recently, believed everything she said to me.
Initially she seemed to "pursue" me but lately it feels like she'd rather dust her lampshades than talk to me. But when I call her out she says shes "trying her best." As for leagues, she has explicitly said she thinks I'm out of her league and she doesn't want to push me away but that's exactly ehat she's doing by giving me mixed signals and one word answers
xt3m3r 5y ago
if she wanted to hang out with you, she would make time. people make time for those they want to see. thats how you guage their interest. you're literally her emergency, break if bored , option
for your own sake, please find someone who actually wants to talk to you and meet you in person .
if you really wana entertain this (i dont recommend) and feel like she is that busy, then at least seek other options while trying to get this lost cause to fuck you. just so you aren't hung up on her
mattyanon Admin 5y ago
Ah yes, the classic "don't do as I do, but do what I ask".
You are retarded.
Actions speak louder than words.
Girls will often spout endlessly about how much they love you, but their attractions are fleeting and they have emotional ADHD. Worst in young/inexperienced women.
If you want to explore things with this girl: what's your plan for meeting? when will that happen? will you have a LDR? how do you know you're not being catfished?
DO NOT PUT YOUR LIFE ON HOLD FOR A MAYBE. Get more options.
Hanscheezburger 5y ago
When you said "worst in young/experienced women", did you mean to type "inexperienced"? Or both young women and experienced women who have had many partners are prone to that kind of behavior? Thanks
mattyanon Admin 5y ago
yes sorry.... edited it now.
YourOwnDisaster 5y ago
Whatever fantasy you're playing in your head is likely not gonna play out the way you want. You're her validation tampon. Leave her ass on read.
redhawkes 2 5y ago
I can't believe what I read here lately. askTRP was a parody already, but this is next level retarded.
The latter. Your post is the definition of scarcity. Entertaining(orbiting) a hoe you haven't even met irl. She's living rent free in your head, wake up. All you have is some illusion of her, oneitis.
Read the fucking sidebar and eject.
BabyUareSoSexy 5y ago
If it's not a hell yes, it's a no from me.
FromRedditNr928321 5y ago
dude block her immediately. what the fuck are you doing with your life. focus on yourself and girls you can fuck. I don't text a girl more than 10 messages before meeting up. I highly recommend to read the sidebar and then start living it so you stop making these mistakes.
BusterVadge 5y ago
Bro. Why are you entertaining chicks from a different state online when you can be getting real life pussy from girls in your area?
This is cringy.
carnold03 5y ago
I've no firsthand experience with telegram. I just know it's a chat client. However, unless you've got plans to move to Arizona, or she's got plans to relocate to Michigan in the near future, I don't see a relationship between you two actually developing with the near two thousand mile gap. Further, it reads like she's a hospital nurse. I'm honestly surprised she's been able to chat with you at all given the hours she claims to work. She's barely got the time to eat, sleep, and bathe after work.
If you want to keep chatting with her, it's your time do with it what you please. However, I hope you're willing to consider that there are a lot of other single women who're available and closer to you than she is. You're ignoring women you could talk to face-to-face for one you interact with by means of a chat client. Until something can be done about that distance you'll need to keep that in mind as you move forward.
At_least_a_M 5y ago
Block and move on.
Stop this autistic behavior.