Most girls tend to hide their past from me, so they come across as more pure than they really are. But my new, hot, submissive FWB keeps mentioning men in her past. I usually smile, laugh, or ignore her when she brings this up. She also told me that I should train younger men on how to fuck.
Am careful not to judge her so that eventually she'll reveal how slutty she really is (I know it's bad, but I'm not marrying this girl).
My question is this: what is her point in bringing this up to me? It doesn't feel like a shit test at all. It feels more like a comfort test....wanting to be accepted my me, even though she's been a total whore.
Thoughts?
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pfeilmacher 5y ago
She's definitely damaged, but lots of women who are damaged go out of their way to hide, or at least be very discreet about their pasts.
I think something else is at work.
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pfeilmacher 5y ago
We don't use safe words. And she gets fuck like a terrible slut when she's with me. Usually hooded and tied up. Plus, she's good with threesomes.
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moorekom 5y ago
She wants to be accepted for what she is.
She is using flattery to get that result. She might be attracted to you and might want a relationship eventually. You can either break it to her that you're not looking for a relationship preemptively or you can wait for that talk to come by itself and break it to her then. But, my gut feeling is that that talk might come eventually.
pfeilmacher 5y ago
I've had enough women impressed by my skills in bed that I believe she is being authentic when she says that. I'm not sure she's trying to butter me up.
But I think you're right....she's going to want an LTR at some point.
moorekom 5y ago
Flattery does not mean that she must be lying. Flattery is also used to condition your behavior with positive supplication.
While it is not a guarantee, her behavior shows that she is invested in you. Unless you fuck up, she will bring up the talk. If you want to get rid of her, the best course of action is to fuck up and create an image that you're not she has built you up to be. She'll go away by herself.
pfeilmacher 5y ago
Agreed. Thanks.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 5y ago
she's comfortable with you. You accept her being a slut and don't judge her, at least that she knows.
She'll do more an more if you let her and don't show any judgement. She's obviously been someone's slut. she's telling you to train guys how to fuck a woman, she knows how to treat a man, probably from the training she has had from her alpha.
see how far it can go, good time to get into BDSM if you want, it can be fun
pfeilmacher 5y ago
Excellent points. Somebody taught her how to suck a cock right. Out of all my lays, she's by far the best cock-sucker. She's also very low maintenance but affectionate while she's around me, which is how I like it.
And we're already heavily involved in BDSM. In fact, I don't really mess with vanilla girls anymore, and I haven't for years now.
redhawkes 2 5y ago
She's either trying to show you that she's valuable (other guys find her attractive), or she's retarded af (solipsism).
Give her enough rope to hang herself.
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arakouzo 5y ago
This is what women are really like. When you have a casual relationship, they think you're in on the game, so they can be themselves around you. No pretending, just fun sex.
This isn't a test. This is a woman who is using you for sex, just like you're using her, so she doesn't care what you think. She doesn't care if you're gone tomorrow because finding sex is easy for her. She doesn't have to pretend around you.
This woman is not testing, trying, playing, or pretending anything. It's every other woman in your life that's trying to put something over on you.
I suppose there's a small chance that this woman isn't as cool and casual as she's pretending to be and keeps talking about it to try to convince herself that she's okay with her choices and her situation, but might hate herself a little on the inside. But that's not your problem.
pfeilmacher 5y ago
Excellent points....but I think your final point is right....she's got the feelz for me.
I like this girl. But I'm holding back until I can tell how damaged she really is.
arakouzo 5y ago
Obviously you like this one. Because if it were really just a FWB, her sexual history (and the fact that you aren't exclusive and she's possibly currently having sex with other guys) wouldn't bother you.
How many other women are you currently having sex with? Why is this one casual sex partner special if she's not your only one?
pfeilmacher 5y ago
Not gonna lie, I do like her and will keep her around as long as I can, especially if things continue as they are. Good chemistry with her, which feels nice considering that at least my last 10 lays/fwbs/plates/etc were a bit stale in all aspects.
She's the only girl I'm seeing currently. I'm in a TINY town helping out family for a few more months, and it's really slim pickin's here. I don't have a lot of free time, so seeing this girl once, maybe twice a week fits in with my schedule nicely.
I should add that I doubt she's seeing others, as she is every bit as busy as I am. It's possible, but I doubt it....she's getting what she needs from me.
And I tend to be territorial with women I'm sticking my dick in more than once, so there's nothing new there.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 5y ago
holding back until I can tell how damaged she really is. Why? What are you holding back on? why do you care if she's damaged? Is she a possible LTR? Ok, let her keep talking, know what you are getting yourself into.
Let her talk and then watch (what she does), of course. Be ready for a quick exit though. Have fun
pfeilmacher 5y ago
I just want to make sure my assumptions about her are accurate before I box her in to a category.