She works at the store down the road where I regularly shop, and she was super into me at first, or at least she acted like it. I have some idea as to why she may have lost interest, but whatever the reason, now she clearly thinks I'm the kind of guy who deserves to be stood up and then lied to the next day about it. I stupidly bought the obvious lie she used to excuse herself in the moment and said let's reschedule, and she said she'd tell me her days off soon, but I'll be surprised if she actually does, and even if she does, I'm not going to actually try to set another date with a girl who thinks she's too good for me.
Normally in a situation like this I'd just never text her back and forget about it, but I still have to see and interact with her in person regularly. I'm not sure if I should confront her in some way, act cold around her, or just act normal and pretend more or less like none of it ever happened, minus showing any further interest.
I'm leaning towards that last one being the wisest choice, but I also really want to say something. It just feels wrong to take such blatant disrespect without returning the favor, particularly from someone I'll have to look at every week for the foreseeable future. She works at the only store nearby and for long hours most days, often as the only cashier there, so I really can't avoid her without seriously inconveniencing myself.
PaleOrc 3y ago
"How to respond to girl who stood me up?"
Don't.
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Henny 3y ago
Hi man! I'm sorry if you felt that way, no one should ever do that to anyone, especially if their intentions are true and sincere. It may not be easy to take it from a commenter but, I suggest you stay casual and civil with her. Don't let her see that you have been hurt or disappointed. Just act casual and professional. What's done is done. We move on. if she says Hi, give her a wave and smile. No need to be awkward, In the end of the day, you did nothing wrong. Your intentions are pure - that's the most important thing. Choose to be the better person. You'll find your match.
Granger750 3y ago
Thanks man. This is pretty much what I was thinking I should do, but you've confirmed it for me. It just feels kinda shitty to pretend like this girl didn't treat me like trash, especially when she was the one who came onto me to begin with, but you're right. That's just my ego talking.
I am also pretty sure I know what happened now, so I pretty much don't care anymore. Basically, I think I withdrew too much attention, and she's an immature, passive-aggressive little girl, so rather than seeking attention by texting or something else, she just decided to stand me up. I don't think she's pathological or anything, just childish. She is only 19, so it's hard for me to hold it against her as a person, but yeah. Guess I dodged an extremely cute bullet there.
Chantfire 3y ago
yreply.yeah just go cold on her. Short emotionless replys if she comes back or just text her: Lame! If wanna chat again but not on weekends. And move on, get anew one and put her at the back of the live don't forget you're the price.
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PaleOrc 3y ago
Agreed. Most of these "what do I do"-posts flat out wouldn't exist, if there wasn't such a scarcity of abundance mentality. (Pun thoroughly intended.)