Background
I am 19 years old, 5'7, 152 lbs, 24% BF Indian male living in the west. I grew up as typical BP guy, wasn't the most popular kid in elementary/high school which means approval seeking/nice-guy behavior. [Possible also Low-t but I gotta get cheeked out proper]Currently in university pursuing a Bcom and not at all happy with my life.
Lifting 4-6 times a week, consistent for the past month, put on a bit of size.
Things I Need Help With
The rule of thumb is internalize; outcome independence, abundance mentality, and a sense of entitlement when it come to women.
But as someone with no experience in that field how do you get rid of that desperation when it comes to meeting and interacting with women?
I want to get laid I want to fuck but despite reading the sidebar, various supplementary texts,and lifting i'm still confused how to I kill this desperate beta self and become a man who is in control of his sexual life?
[deleted] 8y ago
The pussy is still on the pedestal. And it's because you have "no experience in that field ". You still think girls are magical creatures, but that has to be a fantasy, because how would you know? You say yourself you have no experience with actual, real women.
Start gaming women. Just start approaching them. You will make a total ass of yourself, which is good, because it is the fastest path to shattering your delusion that women are awesome.
And failing constantly will also give you the motivation to stay in the gym, constantly improve, and stay in the gym. It will also slowy grind away your rough edges and you will eventually, one day out of the blue you will come to a place where you realize you actually aren't bad at generating attraction in the nether regions of a woman's hips.
You've only been in the gym a month. Keep going. Get back to us when you've been in the gym consistently for a year.
[deleted] 8y ago
The only way you're going to be able to create an abundance mentality without drastic self-improvement is through manifesting irrationally high self-confidence.
If you're going to take the self-improvement route you should start by halving that body fat %.
clavabot 8y ago
How can I develop high self confidence if I don't know what to do to become confident?
I cant be confident in driving a car unless I practice and how can i become confident with picking up women if I don't know the right skills to practice?
machimus 8y ago
Look kid, the main thing you learn when you finally bang is you feel no different. You’re still the same guy you were before...so there’s really no point in stressing about it because nothing important is really at stake.
clavabot 8y ago
I understand that logically, but i see my friends get laid like its no big deal, guys in the club pulling chicks etc. And this leads me to wonder if there is something wrong with me. i cant help but feel that way and I want to fix it