Jesus fucking christ mate

EDIT: There aren't even sides or opinions or options here but a single ONE.

Fucking hell

EDIT 2: How are you a member of this sub and allow your girl to go to clubs?

Judge a person by the people they admire and the people they are friends with. For women, that's especially so.

Her friend is pushing her to cheat and telling her it's ok. You can't make someone not be friends with someone without being controlling, but you can break up with someone because they aren't good for you.

OP is getting anhilated in the comments.

You snooped and found out shit you can't handle. That sucks. Even if you'd never read that e-mail, you still kind of knew this shit was going on, didn't you?

This is a clear case of the slutty friend enabling your gf to keep acting single. Your gf said she "would" fuck Chad not that she was going to. It's a game friends play, both men and women. Your gf said she "would" because she's not dead and is a sexual person and can tell that Chad is hot. So what? When Roxanne said "why don't you", your gf showed her commitment and seriousness she takes the relationship. She doesn't want to fuck Chad if it means losing you. That's good.

Roxanne is still on the CC and wants a friend to be there as well so she's encouraging you gf to join her. If your gf does, it makes Roxanne's behavior which Roxanne finds shameful on some level more acceptable. Roxanne is telling your gf it's OK to fuck Chad and that you won't find out. That's a really shitty thing to do and, over time, will influence you gf's behavior. It's only going to be so long before Roxanne makes sure it happens. She'll get you gf loaded and put her in the situation to be close to Chad and encourage her to do it. Fuck, she'll set it up with Chad and hold your gf's hand while she's getting plowed.

You gf wants to be with you but her friend and her inner hamster are pulling her to act like she's single. This is more than just a little ladies night out. They go to bars for male attention the way singles girls do. She's not driving around. That's her plausible deniability. Driving around mean she can do any damn thing she wants and tell you she was just driving around.

Your gf spends way too much time in clubs and "driving around". What the fuck are you doing all that time, sitting at home with your dick in your hand? She's looking around for her next step up the ladder and you're helping her.

The answer is right in front of you and tells us all we need to know....

The one question you have to answer which will shed light on your problem:
When your girl does all this going out with female friends trolling for guys, is she worried in the least about who YOU might be fucking while she is away?

The answer, of course, is a big fat NO....then you are the beta in the relationship and she is the alpha.

They are NOT talking about you and whether Roxanne wants to fuck you now are they? Your GF doesn't even seem that interested in fucking you so why would Roxanne.

It is only a matter of time before she finds a man who sets off her tingles, will have her and she will drop your unattractive ass.

About the only thing you have going for you at the moment is that she apparently is of such low SMV that Chad is not motivated enough to smash her pussy but some other lower SMV dude is likely to be willing and so is she.

Look at this dudes user name and he only has one post. This has to be a troll post

you misspelled "ex girlfriend". Chad and her friend are trying to get a threesome out of her.

HARD...

NEXT

Dump her you idiot.

There are two things to be said to you bro.
This is disgusting, isn't it? Every woman in the planet acts exactly like that, says exactly those lines and makes the same comments in order to get status with her female friends. If you dislike it you shouldn't be in LTRs.

BUT not every girl in the world has a Roxanne friend. Roxy there is the difference between your girlfriend looking into fixing your relationship when things go wrong or lubricating her patience with Chad's cum until she's empowered enough to slip away.

looks at some dumb shit talk between two girls
gets insecure

you should immediately dump her cause you've never said anything similar to one of your friends right?

"watch what they do not what they say"

also, you've prob got some mad fucking dunning-kruger going on, most likely cause your in soft peach-mode beta land of 2 years and 8 months ("my gf will never cheat on me we've been dating 3 years!")

Where are you from? I'm pretty sure I fucked your girlfriend.

Girlfriend told her friend she want's to fuck him.

Wants has no apostrophe.

Ill try to make this short. But my girlfriend has been pretty hidden about what she talks to one of her female friend "Roxanne".

Hiding stuff, even with another female, is typically a questionable sign. That female friend is the one they tell shit to, including who they're cheating on you with.

girlfriend goes to clubs maybe 2x a month, drive around the town 4-5x times a month with Roxanne.

Sounds like they're either scoping for guys or fucking them already.

The conversation is kind of interesting. The "slut friend" (Roxanne) is trying to talk your girl into being a cheater, which suggests your girl is still good, so far. However, Roxanne + drunk girlfriend may be just enough for your girl to fuck up.

She said we should maybe cheat on you, wants to hook up with the guy, and thought her friends cheating with this dude was cute, she is TRASH.

She is willingly associating with a friend who is encouraging her to cheat.

It's over, accept it.

Hard next that bitch without explaining. She doesn't even deserve to know why you next her.

Stop wasting your time with that bitch. Move on and block everywhere.

If you don't you have no self respect. Cuck.

Don't let the oneitis give her a chance, if it was you that told a friend you want to fuck some girl behind her back, how would she react?

If your SMV is high enough, this shouldn't look phase you. Dump her, don't give into the beta cuck feelings of feeling bad about dumping her, rip off the bandaid tonight if you haven't already. Get her shit out of your house tonight, drop it off at her place, change your locks if she has a key. Get ready for a rift, too, she's going to want blood if she's psycho, so expect slander at your workplace.

You did right in checking up on her, she would have cheated eventually and you would have been none the wiser. Good luck, man. Don't be a pussy.

Seriously? Just dump her and move on or you'll be back here in 6 months with " my gf of 3 years cheated on me what should I do "

Roxanne you don't have to put on the red light Those days are over you don't have to sell your body to the Chad

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Girls are not only similar to their friends but strongly influenced by them. Who's to say it would only be a 1 time thing.

On top of that the only reason is because she has a boyfriend. Not because she likes you more or has future plans with you. You are her accessory, like a purse or underwear.

FYI, top post in science right now is about incurable ghonnorea. Think about it.

REDDIT I CANT FIND MY ASS WITH BOTH HANDS PLZ SEND HALP

holy fucking shit, it makes my stomach hurt bad by just reading that... fucking unbearable... if she has respect for you she would ditch roxanne and if not at least tell her to respect your gf and you, you are in damn relationship.... wtf is this bullshitery.

Your GF is at a time of her life where the partying scene is new and exciting. Her friends are like the girls in "Michael's Story". They are "finding themselves" (re: Riding the CC). Your GF is likely feeling intense internal/moral conflict about whether she is "missing something." She loves you. She is committed to you. But she sees and hears about the excitement her friends like Roxanne are experiencing and begins to wonder if you are "the right one."

Under the best of circumstances, your relationship is at a period where the footing is going to be rocky. But now you've got Roxanne, a remorseless slut, chirping in your GF's ear. Undermining you at every opportunity. Roxanne will nit pick your perceived flaws. She will cheerlead for Chad. She will actively sabotage your relationship.

You are in a near impossible situation. Attempt to root out Roxanne out of her life; you are the controlling, jealous asshole Roxanne said you are. GF "feels trapped" and "suffocated."

Do nothing and Roxanne's poisonous treachery continues unabated. Your GF clubs/parties more. The nights became longer. Her clothes more revealing. She doesn't answer your calls. Guys hit on her. Validation. Your life, by comparison, seems boring. Is she missing something?

Where does this lead? Possibly she cheats on you behind your back. Most likely, and she does sound like she defended your relationship, so I'd say, she comes to you before cheating and says "I need to take some time to find myself." You "take a break." She goes mostly silent for a month or two, while she fucks multiple guys. She calls out of the blue. She missed you so much. She's got your old sweatshirt. Can you meet to pick it up? She is wondering if she made a mistake? Should she get back to you? Most likely, she will say something like "she still loves you, but she's not IN LOVE with you." And then she tries to make you an orbiter for the rest of her life, while she goes and gets alpha males.

NEXT

Maybe your girlfriend cheated, maybe she didn't. Maybe she wants to cheat, maybe she doesn't and is just talking crap with her friend. Maybe she deleted messages to hide bad shit from you, maybe she didn't.

All of this doesn't matter that much. You're with a girl that doesn't respect you or your relationship.

And if you really want to know the measure of a girl, check out the friends she keeps. Girls worth making into a girlfriend don't have a bunch of slut friends.

Roxanne: So? He wouldn't find out haha.

Girlfriend: Hehe. Maybe

Roxanne: I doubt it.. mine never did.

Girlfriend: heheh :p

She doesn't respect you to even talk well about you behind your back, or condemn the cheating of this terrible friend of hers. She doesn't keep good company, and she's not LTR material. You know what needs to be done.

You should not be in an LTR with a dumb girl who goes clubbing alone with her cheater girlfriend (who also jokes/encourages her to cheat).

Time to let go m8. The jig is up.

4 Options:

1. Start blatantly flirting with other women in front of her.

2. Demote her ass to plate, & fuck other women.

3. Hard next, & fuck other women.

4. Spend some time in Monk Mode.

But they both spend some time together, girlfriend goes to clubs maybe 2x a month, drive around the town 4-5x times a month with Roxanne.

Without you?

Stay and get cucked, or break up with zero explanation and hard ghost her. Roxanne cheated on her bf. Birds of a feather flock together.