Gentlemen, there are several phrases that seem to have evolved in their meaning over time. For example, words like "Racism" and "Rape" have pretty much lost their original meaning altogether. This is problematic because it confounds understanding and finding common ground. Oftentimes a new word would do better than to twist the meaning of something we all understand.
We also have a few newcomers. If you are over 30 or so, then words like "intersectionality" and "Simp" were not in common use (if they existed at all) when you were a kid.
With that in mind, here are just a few of many terms that need clarification - or debunking as the case may be. Feel free to add your own. When and if the list gets sufficiently long, I may will post on the other sub. Here they are:
Fell Pregnant: We all know what this is supposed to means, but women do not "fall" pregnant any more than they "fall" into physical fitness. There is literally no such thing as accidental impregnation; Pregnancy is a very deliberate act, and in many cases it takes quite a bit of effort (on at least one party) to achieve. Ultimately both parties must share responsibility for this condition. If a woman allows a man to ejaculate inside her vagina (especially during fertile time) there is a have a very high chance achieving pregnancy. Therefore, this should be called: "Achieved Pregnancy"
Fall in Love or Caught Feelings: One does not fall in love, nor does one catch it - we catch colds, not feelings. These feelings may be beyond of our understanding, but they are far from accidental. One can become infatuated or have a crush that is entirely out of our own control. Life is harsh like that. But love implies a deep bond, and this requires getting to know someone, sharing values that are separate from any romantic feelings, etc. (Ultimately, in my view, love is more of a verb - it is something you DO or give.) In many ways it is a slow deliberate action - if you "fall" into it, it is probably not real authentic love. So in the common sense of this phrase, this should be "Became Infatuated"
Got My Heart Broken: Yes, one can be mistreated, abused, dumped, ghosted, or otherwise harmed emotionally by another person. But let's be honest men - it is WE who chose our woman, WE who tolerated the first few bad behaviors, WE who ignored the red flags. When our hearts "get" broken, most of the blame can be laid at our own feet. Allowing oneself to become bonded with a questionable other is foolish. It may actually be necessary for normal human development - like a rite of passage that teaches us what is important in a relationship. If you had your heart broken, ask yourself if you did this to yourself and proceed accordingly. And if you repeatedly have your heart broken, it is definitely all you. An alternate term for this would be "Failed at Boundary Setting."
Was Abused: Let's be clear about this one as well. Women abuse men all the time. Men also abuse women at times. But what used to be seen as abuse (Physical violence, assault with a belt or other object, repeated breaking or throwing of objects that led to an environment of mental anguish, is now something much different. What is needed here going forward is clarification - was the experience mental (aka emotional, psychological) or physical abuse. Regarding mental abuse, this is again, on you. If a woman (or a man) verbally mistreats their partner, and that is allowed any more than once (we all slip up in the heat of an argument - maybe once a year, if that) then that is on you. IN which case see "Failed at Boundary Setting" above.
Verbal Violence: Violence is physical, not verbal (see above). Verbal violence is a make believe term and should be ignored. "Verbal Abuse" is the proper term here.
Made a Mistake: This is often used to minimize cheating or other disloyalty. Know the difference and never let a woman pull this trickeroo on you. According to Google:
mis·take /məˈstāk/ (noun): an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong. As in "coming here was a mistake"
An example would be making a bad decision, but one that seemed right at the time - like taking a shortcut on the way home only to find it slower than the main route. It implies something accidental, and something that happened rather quickly. There is nothing accidental about infidelity. It may indeed indicate a lack of judgment, but we should not stay in an intimate relationship with someone whose judgment is broken in this way. Let's just call this by one of its appropriate names: "Infidelity" or "Cheating" or "Disloyalty"
IMPORTANT PSA:
On a very serious note. Physical abuse is a crime and should be treated as such. If a woman ever puts her hands on you, even once, you visit the police immediately and have it documented. Do NOT fear being put in jail. Police are being trained better these days, and they can tell who the perpetrator is. Especially if it is you calmly speaking to them in the local precinct. They are smart and they can tell and they don't judge like they did in the past. In fact, they will likely understand and empathize. There are many prominent cases that show that the tables are turning. So you MUST find the courage to report it. The best thing to do is to go to the police station and press charges. Once that is done, you break all contact and never talk to that woman again.
Ever.
The days of letting this stuff slide has got to end NOW.
Kythamis 3y ago
When the word for gender equality only include the feminine in it :/
People argue etymology and language doesn’t matter but it definitely does. It can create a predisposition for men to not support gender equality under an obviously biased name such as feminism. People still argue feminism = gender equality.
People who actually believe feminism is equally about gender equality are fools who support and enable men being left behind.
HatezWomenzCuzIncelz 3y ago
Simp goes back to the 40s at least.
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"Dating". If a woman says she's "dating" someone, she's fucking him at least a little regularly.
"Hookup" or "hooked up": Casual sex that might or might not lead to "dating".
"Talking" or "talking to": The interview process and audition leading up to "dating". If a woman says she's "talking to" a man, or that he and she are "talking", she means she has not yet decided whether to fuck him or hasn't yet had the chance to fuck him. In some locales, apparently "talking to" means the same thing as "dating", which means fucking.
"Hanging out": Meeting at his or her place for sex.
"Going out": Meeting at a public place before hanging out. This might be part of "talking to" a man if they have not had sex yet.
In relationships, there are no mistakes. There are only decisions.
DeeplyDisturbed1 3y ago
Nice!
moorekom Mod 3y ago
Women use brand names to associate themselves with quality instead of being quality themselves. So, they like to appropriate rather than to create.
Women often confuse arousal for attraction. Women who have been damaged by the carousel are used to dopamine hits and lust. They have no idea what long term happiness or love is. Love for men is "to love". For women, it is "to be in love".
DeeplyDisturbed1 3y ago
All excellent points.
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DeeplyDisturbed1 3y ago
This is among my top ten favorite comments of the year.
It gets to the heart of the "equal rights, equal responsibilities" thing.
If women want equality, then let's see:
I could go on, but you get the point.
Back to YOUR point, women do not want equality. They want benefits without paying, rights without responsibilities, sex without real commitment, kids without male influence, and fun without consequences.
This has a bit further to go,but we are reaching the apex of the pendulum swing here. And things are about to get bad. REAL bad for a lot of people. And it is only the people who have learned to understand the harsh realities of life who will prevail, and maybe even prosper, in the end.
Well said my friend. Thanks for this.
moorekom Mod 3y ago
You don't have to go that far. You start treating women exactly as you would treat a man and you will suddenly see them become more feminine.
minitntman1 3y ago
Probably not that. We would want a reduction in these cases.
But otherwise yes.
DeeplyDisturbed1 3y ago
I didn't say increase, I said equality. And when I put it that way, people usually get the point. Women want more power, not more equality.
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"sexual harassment"= anything any man says or does that any woman anywhere doesn't like. A man she's not attracted to asking her out. A man she's not attracted to attempting to talk to her.
A man at work refusing to help a female coworker because he doesn't want to be accused of sexual harassment.
A man expressing concern about women experiencing sexual harassment.
A man instructing men how to avoid being accused of sexual harassment.
A man trying to avoid being accused of sexual harassment.
This is the clown world we live in now. A man saying "I want to avoid women at work because I don't want them to be uncomfortable" is sexual harassment. A man saying "I want to avoid women at work because I do not want to be accused of sexual harassment" is sexual harassment.
"Infidelity" = any sexual conduct by a married man that his wife or any other woman anywhere doesn't like. Going to a strip club. Getting a lapdance. Looking at porn. Masturbating to porn. Looking at another woman. Fantasizing about another woman. Noticing another woman. Talking to another woman. Talking to your secretary.
Misogyny: Men living their lives without begging for permission from women.
Abuse: Any male assertions of, or requests for, the ability to live his own life.
Left on 'read': the act of opening a text message, clearly indicating to the sender that you opened it, and not responding to it. This is A OK when a woman does this to a man. It is a crime against humanity when a man does this to a woman.
Rape: The absolute worst thing that can happen to a woman. Worse than murder.
Judgment and Rejection The third worst things that can happen to a woman.
DevilComeKnockin 3y ago
Age-ism. Get ready to hear alot of this from women in coming days. The classic definition refers to Elder Abuse and the general devaluation of senior citizens as culture and commerce focus of younger generations. This phenomenon accelerated greatly following the "Black Monday" event of the late 80's, when corporations noticed that products aimed at young people (soda, fast-food, music) fared much better following the stock market crash than items aimed at older people.
Since then the " Cult of Youth" and it's focus on trendiness and fads has infected all media and culture, particularly feminine markets. This is why you see middle-aged women dying their hair anime-green, desperate to stay relevant and "youthful".
Back to the point: Age-ism is being repurposed by post-wall Karens to refer to men's preference for youth and vitality in women. Pretty soon, you'll hear about "patriarchal age descrimination", and how dastardly men ignore "strong, independent wahman". They've already started accusing celebrity men like Leo Decaprio and Johnny Depp of pedophile-like behavior.
Expect it in your timeline.
HowDoIGetToHyrule 3y ago
"Age-appropriate" is gaining traction; a term I find most insidious because on the surface those two words sound quite reasonable.
Any relationship between two consenting adults is "age-appropriate". To say otherwise is to deny one/both party(s) agency, and that's rape.
loneliness-inc Mod 3y ago
Dictionary is an index and description of words.
Words are a construct of language.
Language is a social construct.
Language is a tool of the patriarchy!
Patriarchy is cisgender heteronormative.
Language is misogyny.
Misogyny is oppression.
jihocech 3y ago
1984 was a warning, not a guideline.
DeeplyDisturbed1 3y ago
You always did have a way with words!
loneliness-inc Mod 3y ago
Just like my way with hers.
Having your way with hers without ongoing, verbal, enthusiastic consent is........[censored]
[deleted] 3y ago
The Eleventh Commandment: Thou Shalt Love Thyself/Thou Shalt Not Have Low Self-Esteem
The Twelfth Commandment: Thou Shalt Be True To Thyself
Source: The Book of Oprah
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