This reminds me of a girl I used to know. She got knocked up at 18 or 19, husband bailed within a year. Moved back home with parents, slept around town, nobody wanted to "stick", obviously due to her having a kid. Fuck that noise.

So, she got married AGAIN to some fool in FL, and that ended within a year. Back at parents with 6 year old and fast approaching the wall. The best part is, I got to bang her between her first and second husband. Put out on the first night, too. Some patterns are undeniable IMHO.

And those fucked up children grow to be just as fucked up parents and their bring up their children to be as fucked up and so on. Cycle continues.

You need a license to drive an automobile, but having a child comes with no formal checks or balances.

Let that sink in for a second.

Doesn't sound like either parent is a real winner for what it's worth. She even admits that if the dad wasn't worse than her then he would have full custody. That's about the best outcome a worthy dad could hope for imo

I hope she doesn't fall down and crush her baby.

And even if she were a good parent the child would have significantly less resources and lack a male role model as he or she aged. This child is at a huge disadvantage going into college and the workforce because of a selfish mother and father. Incomes are not keeping up with inflation and if you don't have two steady paychecks it's tough to keep afloat with children in the mix.

He didn't ask to have this kid, he has no more obligations that those dictated by the law.

Pity this person. Don't be angry that she fucked her life and now hates herself. This person is already down, why kick her too?

You might be missing something, but I can tell a little bit by how aggressive and aggrieved this woman is in her post.

As a father, he has essentially zero rights in the family court system. If the mother refuses to allow the father to even have access to the child, law enforcement will do nothing and regard it as a civil matter even if he has an order allowing him parental time. If he pursues the matter in court, it will cost him money, take months, and she will at best get stern warning. it could take years and repeated trips for her to be held in any sort of contempt.

In the meanwhile, she can make any claim of physical, sexual, or mental abuse, and the court will take the claim seriously, or order him to prove his innocence. She can file Temporary Restraining Orders that include the child any time he has visitation, and the court issues them like toilet paper. Law Enforcement will enforce those orders.

All the while, she can play the "deadbeat dad" card. Complain that she is a poor, put upon, victim to anyone that cares to listen to her. Believe me, women game this shit out. They talk to each other. They know exactly what to do to generate sympathy and do as much damage as possible to the father at the same time.

I don't know her specific situation, but I have seen more than enough to know her general situation. She is an arrogant wretch of woman who thinks that her vagina, golden or otherwise, entitles her to things that is simply doesn't.

Yeah, there's nothing red pill about being a deadbeat dad. Try to control your revenge fantasy hardon.

WTF is the 'deadbeat' dad thing coming in? He's doing what he should.

I cant understand why some people believe they are the alpha males of the jungle if they leave their children alone, if they stop their professional career and become poor. Oh greek gods!

True, but after reading her rant, I'm guessing this guy left her for good reason..

She sounds horrible

A male friend of mine just had his baby born. He wanted start a family, but the tatooed chick he banged disappeared when she got pregnant, got back a few months later, and only when he let rumors around that he would abandon the baby. She became a total bitch, belittling him constantly, and telling him to "get used to it, because that's how it's gonna be from now on".

I'm telling him to do the right thing. Disappear. Pay his monthly check, and have nothing to do with the baby. Truth is, this child is already doomed. He cannot save it. His only chance is to protect himself - and maybe the child will seek him out when it's grown.

A lot of guys get so caught up in their happiness in the woman suffering that they forget that the one true victim is the child. It's some sort of vicarious revenge fantasy--a belief that if some woman somewhere is suffering, then that girl that did them wrong is suffering too.

Yeah, there's nothing red pill about being a deadbeat dad.

I agree with you on this, but we simply don't have enough information to really make a judgment. The woman who wrote that angry post is what we would call an "unreliable narrator" of her own story. She says "I did not and still do not want children." But we know this can't possibly be true. It's certainly not within the man's legal power to force her to get an abortion. She chose to keep it. She may have even intentionally not used any methods of birth control because she wanted to impregnate herself to lock down her Chad--who refused to be locked down. Now that she has been outsmarted she is raging.

She is just another woman who was riding the CC and got thrown off prematurely and is now saddled with the immense responsibility of raising a child alone. For all we know Mr. Chad was upfront and honest with her that he didn't want kids and was "just having fun." In this case I wouldn't call him a deadbeat, I'd call the woman a fool who tried to manipulate a man and failed.

From the kid's perspective the reasons don't matter and the kid is fucked regardless of the "why." This type of situation is a tragedy and illustrates why females are too irresponsible to be trusted with their own wombs. No doubt her parents are kicking themselves for how they raised her but they are compounding their error. Once upon a time a woman who disgraced herself would be disowned and forced to struggle on her own--which served as a stark warning to other females to keep their pants on until Mr. Right committed to them. Instead these modern parents bear some of the burden of their daughter's hedonistic lifestyle by continuing to support her and thus add another layer of "probable support" for watching and listening females. They can hop on the CC with confidence because if they get thrown off there will be two safety nets: their Parents and the State.

So a chick gives you the "oops, I'm knocked up" news and she is nothing more than a warm moist place to jack off, and because he doesn't marry her, but it's paying support, he is a deadbeat?

So quick to judge.

Ever stop to think why he left? Perhaps the bitch is crazy, bipolar, bpd, or some other shit. Doing the "right thing" and keeping her is your idea of a plan? Never been in that situation have you?

Been there, done that, got my kids, 68% of my gross, and almost everything I owned taken from me and given to her. Then she bitched just like this cunt does, said I didn't care about my kids, and did everything to take the blame for being a horrible waste of skin off her and make me look like an abusive villain. You have the common prejudice that dude just up and left her, not that she ended it for whatever reason and believe her now that she whines to the Internet about how much of a victim she is.

Yeah girls are always the victim, men are always guilty. A dad who isn't there is always a deadbeat, and she can't possibly be the entire reason he isn't there.

Holy shit thank fuck I'm not the only one. I see all these people circle jerking about how shitty she is and how much she deserves it, and boohoo for the child... then they absolve the father of all responsibility.

The amount of garbage that has to sifted through to get to decent glints of knowledge on this sub is sometimes immense. There's good shit here, but it's buried in refuse like this.