ANALYSIS
This 4 chan post was a cause of discussion because of the mixed feelings it generated. Some argued what the OP of this post did was justifiable while others argued it was a form of manipulation and lack of morality. I won’t be discussing whether or not his choice was morally just as that conversation doesn’t belong here in this sub.
Instead, I went over this in a RP sense and try to dissect as much as I can in my analysis of the story. Though the legitimacy of this story is in question, this is my personal breakdown of the story.
Dating girlfriend for 7 months.
It’s just your turn for the past 7 months.
she wants to go this sleazy club with her friend.
Red Flag #1 She wants to go a sleazy club with that friend, not OP. The fact she brought this up means she was planning to go, but needed a reason to rationalize going. Added in the fact the club scene is a main part of hookup culture, hypergamy and possibly branch swinging are coming into play.
I told her I didn’t want her to go
MATE GUARDING Biggest turn off in the minds of females. Shows a scarcity mentality and lack of abundance while showing she has a higher SMV than OP. Shows you are lacking the IDGAF that would be evident with abundance. But you can also spin it as OP thinking about the general well-being of said GF in LTR (but we know the female hamster won’t interpret it like this).You can see the conversation goes downhill because of this statement.
Had an argument about it. She was like “You don’t own me and I can do what I want.” and that bullshit.
LOSS OF FRAME Engaged in argument. Never engage in arguments with women, they’re individuals that feed off emotionally charged conversations, THEIR LOGIC IS A BYPRODUCT OF THEIR FEELING IN THE MOMENT. “You don’t own me and I can do what I want”- she’s not yours, it’s just your turn in clear writing.
Told her if she went I’m breaking up with her
NUCLEAR OPTION
Wasn’t able to change S/O mind in argument and basically gave the ultimatum. Basically a do or die attempt to regain power in the relationship that was drastically being shifted towards the GF. If used correctly, can illustrate abundance mentality but in this case it was used a way to mate guard/scarcity mentality.
She said she wouldn’t go and dropped it.
Sudden change of resistance proves she didn’t drop it, just dropped OP and the conversation.
Saturday came.
Haven’t heard from her all day.
You already know why. Hypergamy in progress. Dread being applied by OP GF.
At 4AM on Sunday she calls me crying
Random or sudden change in emotions whether it be positive or negative are another red flag to be cautious of. In OPs case, after a day of no contact prior to argument is definitely a huge one.
She says she got raped and beat up
No one should be raped and/or beat up. In this case, this statement was used to invoke white knight feelings in OP.
She went to the club anyway. Apparently she left alone with some guy and his friend to go to a party. They took her somewhere and beat her up and raped her.
Poor decision making leads to the unfortunate
She went to the club with said friend after saying she wouldn’t. Found two males that fit her criteria of AF and proceeded to leave. The unfortunate happened and she ended up raped and traumatized. OP wanted to avoid this altogether by her not going to said club. This is sadly the result of poor judgement. Friend is also to be in question as well.
Had many feelings about this, none of them positive.
Nothing surprising here. OP GF lied to him, went behind his back and did the opposite of what she said. She left with two other males and ended up getting raped. All these being processed at once would leave most in disarray.
I told her if she went to the club I’d leave her and I told her we were over.
OP stayed true to his nuclear option of leaving her. He held frame in accordance to his statement.
She started freaking out and saying she needs me now and she was sorry.
OP ex had to go through this incident to realize what he was doing for her own safety. As tragic as it is, if she never went through this, there most likely would never be a conversation of her going to the club or ever apologizing. This only came out because she needs him at the moment.
Told her to never call me again.
Follow through of nuclear option. No contact applied.
Have been getting rabid hate from her friends and my friends think I was way too cold.
Female shame tactics being applied to OP even though he stated what would happen if she went to the club and white knight friends also taking the side of ex after everything.
She broke my trust, went somewhere I said not to, probably was going to end up cheating on me anyway and got raped and beaten over it and I’m suppose to feel sorry for her.
What OP said above are indeed good points. It’s pretty fucked up knowing OP doesn’t feel bad for her but at the same time he’s not obligated to. He gave his reasons why he doesn’t feel bad and his conclusion was that she willing to do the opposite of everything he advised not to do, she isn’t entitled to his empathy.
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The_Chiselnator 5y ago
There was no rape. This BS is so overdone that nobody believes it any more. She got fucked, got regretsy, decided that the best way to avoid getting found out was to turn herself into a huge victim.
"Fuck off" is the only thing for OP to say here.
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Guarantee if he'd reacted like a "good boyfriend" he'd show up to her having trashed her own room and applied runny makeup without any evidence of struggle on her body and an even larger hamster wheel.
Forcetobereckonedwit 5y ago
You forgot to mention Chad and Darrell's cum dripping out of her vag. OP blew the lead up completely but nailed the ending.
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doorfly 5y ago
Taking a stab here - "I don't want to go but you can go. Have fun"
Youngyoda89 5y ago
I don’t think op was invited in the first place so that one isn’t applicable.
MillionaireSexbomb 5y ago
You just say “alright” kick her out and make other plans in that instance. Her mind is made up, no point in resisting just move along.
anderson916 5y ago
That makes too much sense. I don't think the majority of people here have been in an actual relationship, let alone actually said any of these things to anyone.
Metalageddon 5y ago
enjoy yourself. Not my style. Smile then flash a moment of disgust.
Should be enough. It has been for my relations.
mywifeson 5y ago
Literally the teleports behind you “nothing personnel kid” of TRP advice LOL
I like this sub and the way it helped me but some of you make me cringe so hard with the front you put on for strangers over the internet LOL
Metalageddon 5y ago
Meh. Enjoy yourself. Not my style.
My point is, what more is there to be said? She can have fun. It doesn't work for me. No need to go further to deer it up. Just move on.
I find it odd that you haven't met people just like this. They're everywhere. At least in my experience.
Forcetobereckonedwit 5y ago
" You're going where? To do what exactly? That's rhetorical...listen love, you're becoming just another hoe. I don't date hoes. Do the math. I'll be around, if you make the right decision.
The problem is that if your gal shows interest in crap like that, it's already too late really. It's like if she asked "Hey BF, let's hit the club. I'll dress as slutty as I can, shake my fruit for all the other guys in front of you, get too drunk and probably start a fight with you to show my freedom in public and so I can maybe storm off and suck dick. Don't worry, I'll apologize in the morning and we can go ahead with our love." What can you do except cut it right there?
MavRP 5y ago
Agreed. You are past the point of no return for an LTR.
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Meisner1 5y ago
Keep copy and pasting that shit...
thepontiff_ 5y ago
The first part of this post ????????????????????????
Rian_Stone 5y ago
'My girl doesn't go to dive bars alone.'
That's it. Your have your frame, she is either in it or she's not.
The trick is to mean it and follow through. If she's not replaceable, then your boundaries are as impotent as you are.
halfback910 5y ago
Anyone who goes to a dive bar is either a skank or a raging alcoholic.
Rian_Stone 5y ago
My hunting ground in my pua days were looking for girls. In a Goth dive bar. Any girl. Not. Dressed In black is on a dick safari
2comment 5y ago
All the goth girls I knew would have all qualified as expert tour guides.
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Math_Baller 5y ago
Totally agree. The hamster is so strong; she realizes, 12 hours too late that sleeping with some random sketchy Chad wasn't a totally genius decision, so now she rationalizes it to save face.
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The_Chiselnator 5y ago
So you go through life assuming that bad people tell you the truth and are automatically believable? How is that working out for you?
The_Chiselnator 5y ago
I don't give a shit what happened to her. She was told not to go and she went. The consequences of her actions are hers to bear. However as far as OP knows or cares (and as far as I would if I was there), there was no rape and this is an attempt by a disloyal thot to turn herself into a humongous victim.
OP is not the police. Go fucking report to the cops and let them handle it. OP can't unrape her. The only thing he can do which is what she wants is to use him in her fake crisis and renegotiate herself into his life. Followed by "I am not ready for sex yet, let's just hold hands"
This is entry level TRP
PM_ME_UR_NAKED_TITS 5y ago
This, I was surprised OP left this out. She definitely jusr had sex with some random dudes then claimed it was rape.
johnnight 5y ago
If she had bruises from getting beaten up, then there was rape. This is a separate issue from her willingly going from the club to a shady party with unknown men = the relationship was dead and she was fishing for a new guy.
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RedPilledRoaster 5y ago
The comment I was looking for.
Pilliam66 5y ago
No one is entitled to anyone's sympathy. When you go against someone's advice and end up worse off for it, you are even less entitled to their sympathy. There's no reason that he should have to deal with the consequences of her bad decisions. He said he'd leave her if she went. She went. She left with two guys she doesn't know, presumably hoping for something sexual. Something sexual happened, just not the sexual thing she wanted. He left her. Perfectly fair.
donkey_democrat 5y ago
OP gave enough attention and care towards her when he advised her not to go, even engaging in blue pill methods to stop her. That's enough on his part.
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Pilliam66 5y ago
Wrong. You inferred it, but I never implied it. You're probably inventing hidden meanings behind my words to protect yourself from the truth they hold.
I said she was presumably hoping for something sexual, which if we are honest, she probably was. I only mentioned that fact because it seems likely that she intended to cheat, making the break up even more justifiable.
If it's prosecutable, prosecute me.
hombreliberado 5y ago
I was about to add even more points and reason to your argument in hopes of helping the offended commenter see the light... Then I saw her username ????♂️????
Pilliam66 5y ago
Bahaha there's no hope for her
tbonemcmotherfuck 5y ago
I'm gonna prosecute you for speculating!
SJWOPFOR 5y ago
The statement you made is prosecutable? Do explain
AngryWatchmaker 5y ago
Look at the user name
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Shadowthrice 5y ago
Absurd. She went off with them to have sex, but got raped instead.
No one is justifying that.
anderson916 5y ago
Based on what? The original post said she thought she was going to a party.
Shadowthrice 5y ago
Based on the story you just read. More realistically though, there was no rape, only regret.
anderson916 5y ago
I don't see anything indicating that except your incel assumptions.
Shadowthrice 5y ago
Kind of a lazy troll account there. I guess if you repeat the word incel enough you can get a bunch of downvotes.
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_tlex 5y ago
"I banged this guy cuz I was drunk.. now it's the next day and I don't wanna deal with the consequences so I'm gonna call it rape"
Shadowthrice 5y ago
You see no facts; you see only a story on the internet, the same as I do.
If she could prove that she had been raped, then of course her attackers would merit harsh punishment.
shaggyctes88 5y ago
The stament you just made is prosecutable sounds like a clasic shit test lol
anderson916 5y ago
I'm with you. Only TRP mentality would make someone automatically assume that being in the presence of the opposite sex makes you "hoping for something sexual".
empatheticapathetic 5y ago
Guess you have more reading to do.
anderson916 5y ago
Guess you have more growing up to do.
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anderson916 5y ago
Sexual strategy? Jesus Christ.
ShikajiCZ 5y ago
This is north america thing. Im from eastern europe, if my girl leaves club at 1 AM with two dudes and they are going to party (and after me not liking her going clubbing and she knows about all this and to top it all doesnt even tell me that she goes) > she is not deserving of my relationship, she is not stable girlfriend that you want to "go out with".
anderson916 5y ago
I'm not saying that this girl is the cream of the crop or dating material. I'm saying that being with someone of the opposite sex =/= looking for sex, which is what a lot of people seem to be taking away from this based on nothing.
ShikajiCZ 5y ago
Some people here are truly saying that she was looking for sex and they look like they are 100% convinced about that, which is kinda weird. But only kinda. She did leave club at like, what, 3 AM with 2 dudes that (i pressume) doesnt know? She goes clubbing with friend-girl and leaves club with 2 strangers - dudes? What the fuck is that even. Im not suprised people here are jumping even to the "she wasnt raped, she nailed them and then changed her mind" - since i see articles all about reddit like that as well (from girls that lied about being raped). Of course people are calling bullshit on everything after.
So its not really based on nothing.
anderson916 5y ago
Sure, it's possible, I'm not denying that. But there's really not enough from the original story to base that on except for the fact that is was posted here, where everyone will agree that "that feeeeemale is just a thot"
Edit: basically, I'm agreeing with your first 2 sentences. The rest is speculation, and no one knows what happened except her and the 2 guys. All this "she just regretted cheating" shit is just the circle-jerk mentality that this sub has become known for.
ShikajiCZ 5y ago
But she is a thot when she leaves club at that time with 2 dudes she doesnt know. Thottiest thot from my point of view, actually. And you said "its based on nothing", well its based on some stuff. For me you are as far from possible truth as those screaming "she wasnt raped". You are deffending her behavior to same degree they are ripping at it.
And "she just regretted cheating" is mentioned here often, but its based on many news articles that have been out recently.
anderson916 5y ago
Not defending anyone's actions, I'm saying it's fucked up that she was raped while every other incel here is screaming she deserved it.
ShikajiCZ 5y ago
They are not screaming that. Now you are going over the board, you replied to girl saying "So you’re implying that it was fine to rape her." He did not say that. He said that she was hoping for something sexual. You are twisting words here and now saying people are "incels" which if i understand correctly is in North America a insult. Its fucked up she got raped, of course.
Pilliam66 5y ago
No one is saying she deserved it
ILoveJuices 5y ago
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5beams5 5y ago
Your post history is highly entertaining. Thank you.
33_Minutes 5y ago
One can have sympathy for someone as to a horrible thing they experienced while also recognizing that person's own terrible decisions created the situation that made that horrible thing possible.
It's not mutually exclusive.
tbonemcmotherfuck 5y ago
That statement is not prosecutable. You have no idea what you're talking about
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hombreliberado 5y ago
Right on. He has ZERO responsibility for her consequences. Personally, I would have handled it like, “look, the human part of me feels really bad that happened to you, and I wish that would never happen to anyone. It just sucks. But the relationship side of me was betrayed. You broke trust, and now the consequences follow.✌️”
JLHumor 5y ago
I didn't get to read the story before he deleted it. Its possible she just lied about the stuff that happened since she knew he was upset with her going.
tolerantman 5y ago
It's true, the OP didn't owe her anything, including emotional support.
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The comments on the original post and twitter threads will lead some men to question why they think the way they do and others to dig their heels in further as an opportunity to be a good boy for women.
Women and boys accept responsibility, but only when it serves their interest. It's a genetic survival mechanism to preserve oneself through in-group support. You can see this on large in the political scene through the constant emotional masturbation and recreational outrage.
rpsheepdog 5y ago
The whole thing just reads as a lack of frame. Guy never had frame to begin with, relies on an verbalized ultimatum (which to me is a fake power move). The girl does what she wants, hangs out with ho friends.
If a legitimate rape happened, obviously that would be bad, but the guy is breaking up with her because she is doing shit behaviors.
There was a story posted about a similar story a month or two ago (tagged Blue pill example) where the girl who was "raped" ended up having the guys phone numbers and eventually she came out and said the whole thing was bullshit.
ryitfve 5y ago
So how would you address your gf saying she wants to go to the club?
rpsheepdog 5y ago
Essentially DGAF
https://therationalmale.com/2012/08/27/girls-night-out/comment-page-2/
Good read
phoenix335 5y ago
DGAF is not a viable option for longer and well-matched relationships where emotional investment is unavoidable. The only alternatives would be to never have any long relationships or not having a relationship with a good match or not ever have more emotions towards even the best matches.
Neither of those is an option for long-term survival of society of the species, because at some point in the game there must be a stable environment for about 2 or 3 kids for about 10 years at the very least or the whole thing makes no sense.
rpsheepdog 5y ago
Agreed, but I don't think the guy in the post was in a well matched or long relationship.
anderson916 5y ago
Let them because they are their own person? I know that's an unpopular opinion around these parts of the internet, though...
eaazzy_13 5y ago
That’s not a fake power move. He went through with it immediately.
Starcruiser28 5y ago
Did she go to the cops? Did she file a report?
I bet no on both counts, she is playing the victim card since she was regretting the experience and was worried he was going to find out she went to the club and he threatened to dump her if she went. Totally backfired in her face. She got what she deserved in either case (raped or not) since she lied to him and placed herself into a situation that possibly turned out bad. Well it actually did now didn't it?
OP Feeling bad about what happened (Or possibly happened) is one thing, this does not absolve her of her responsibility and actions. Always thinking they know better and can do what they want then come running back when it blows up in their faces. I have seen this too many times already.
Grimsterr 5y ago
Went after ultimatum delivered? Break up.
Left with two guys? Break up, ultimatum or no ultimatum.
Raped? Ouch, sorry to hear that, no one deserves that, hope the criminals are brought to justice, but still, see previous sentences, have a nice life.
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vicious_armbar 5y ago
This is the only valid response to a woman telling you "I was raped". A police report along with a official investigation and conviction. Otherwise I'm assuming that it was consensual. Even then I'd never date a woman who claimed that she was raped. Either she's lying and I could be the target of her next false accusation, or she's telling the truth in which case she has serious trauma that I'm not qualified to handle.
duntoon 5y ago
Yep. Women won't hesitate to go to the police to report their car getting stolen. But rape? Who has time for that!
If it's not serious enough to go to the police, it was never serious at all.
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Memeandmesomemore 5y ago
I hate women like that.
Sounds just like my ex-wife.
That's why she's now "ex".
DandBPrime 5y ago
"Wife" is where you made the mistake.
Youngyoda89 5y ago
We’re not all natural RP’s; have to find this place somehow.
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Memeandmesomemore 5y ago
I agree, but I was young and a bit blue behind the ears.
I did however wake up and throw her out.
I'm calling that the beginning of my red period, since it's a form of art.
simplisticallysimple 5y ago
I'm so happy to see this comment upvoted. There was a time on TRP where anything anti-marriage was heavily downvoted, as if right or wrong was a democracy.
DailyManliness 5y ago
This story is getting huge for two simple reasons, it reaffirms the ideas 1. Listen to your man when he gives advice or makes a request 2. Don’t be a hoe. Both of these things used to be understood and were not disregarded lightly. In the new feminist/“you go girl” era women seek to ignore those two points wholeheartedly. This is all a fight, as most things are now adays, about how things used to be vs how women want them to be. The story is a tale of warning to modern women who want to openly branch swing. In a minor way, the guy sticking to his decision, is a great example of holding frame. We can all spot numerous errors he made, but following through on what he said is noteworthy. I’d imagine all of those things are making women nervous since they want to promote open cucking and weak men.
AlexDD2 5y ago
They wouldn't understand the logic of it because of their feelings.
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CC_ee 5y ago
If they listened to the average man shit would still end badly. OP clearly not in the position to be telling them what to do he doesn't know shit like most.
DailyManliness 5y ago
Completely agreed. “Men” now adays might even promote women’s shitty behavior out of fear of not looking open minded. Obviously I meant my statements in terms of just the natural genetic order of things, where men have not lost their way. Ultimately though returning that balance to male/female interactions may also return men to who they are as well. You didn’t need to tell a caveman to be a caveman, the world just dictated it
Women are not the gender designed to say “this is happening, deal with it”
PerplexingPegasus_ 5y ago
All starts at home with parents. Parents set boundaries, they see it as oppressive. Backed by a feminist movement that basically categorizes male leadership as dictatorship and women know better or more than men.
The formula creates radical women.
druluna 5y ago
There was another post of this where he said she was beat to hell, black eye bruises etc. But he also said she wouldnt have those if shed listened. With what happened he figured that if they ever disagreed on things she would always go behind his back and disrespect him like that. He saw that and wisely decided to leave.
albino_red_head 5y ago
you have to wonder what really transpired. It seems very very unlikely that a girl leaves to go to a party with two guys she just met and they up and decided to beat her to hell and rape her. Unless this all went down in germany at a club with lots of violent immigrants etc. I just don't see it happening out of the blue. Perhaps they or one of them advanced and she simply declined? My mind, maybe wrong, goes in the direction that she'd already F-ed them both and she got spooked afterward and caused a scene or maybe got caught by one of their gf's or something. I mean, she called at damn 4am. You've long left the club at that point and have been doing something for a while.
druluna 5y ago
Yeah could be that they had gfs there and they beat her down lol. Either way not her ex bf fault she doubled down on stupid behaviour and got snake eyes and a black eye for it
empatheticapathetic 5y ago
Just because it’s not plausible to you means it probably didn’t happen? We’re commenting on a story that’s been presented. We have no way to confirm anything further; anything could have happened.
albino_red_head 5y ago
"you have to wonder what really transpired" (because it's not plausible). that's my main message. Also, lucky for us we don't have to guess, she had consensual rough sex with the two guys and decided she regretted it and made up the rape claim to explain her bruises and guild her BF into staying.
DarkTriadDetector 5y ago
Are we sure this is the same girl and guys?
hombreliberado 5y ago
That’s possible too. Rape is serious and you definitely can’t properly judge the situation in good conscience with the info we have here.
Meisner1 5y ago
Can you link the other post? Cause this one is deleted.
druluna 5y ago
I found it on a google search but it took awhile. I took a screenshot. Though looks like reddit doesnt like this topic if they keep removing it.
Invalidity 5y ago
Even if he wasn't mate guarding, the relationship was already done. As soon as she suggested going clubbing, it was over. Mate guarding is really only significant when you aren't in a relationship with someone, and this is especially why relationships tend to fall apart more easily than FWBs - you become more invested even when you try not to be.
If that story is even true, he did the right thing by leaving. It seems like a nuclear option, but you really can't go lightly in a relationship. If you relent even just a bit it's over. You might say abundance mentality and indifference helps, but then you'd be better off running these girls as plates. Why bother with relationships at that point?
There's the difference between plating and relationships - establishing boundaries and values. With plates, you shouldn't care what they do, although if they're too slutty for you, you should probably drop them.
redpillcad 5y ago
With plates, you shouldn't care what they do And its adorable the way they try so hard to make you care
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bipedalsentient 5y ago
It's very much possible, and tbh I don't think it's that rare as you say it is.
anderson916 5y ago
So I guess since my SO goes out with her friends sometimes, it's over? Or was it over when she simply suggested it? Jesus Christ...
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ShikajiCZ 5y ago
If you tell your SO that you dont like her to go clubbing and she goes on saturday night behind your back, after not writing you all day long, leaves the club at 3 am and goes to another party with 2 dudes she doesnt know then yes, it should be over.
anderson916 5y ago
"As soon as she suggested going clubbing, it was over" is what I was referring to. Not the entire string of events.
Meisner1 5y ago
The point is, always assume AWALT
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RedLegendx 5y ago
It is over because literally you go to a club to find someone to fuck or have something sexual of some sort, hypergamy bro, she was looking to branch swing. Next thing you know she’s cheating and dumps your beta ass for the Chad she met at the club.
Andrew54321 5y ago
No if and only if friends were vetted females. Which is pretty much automatic if SO was vetted properly.
juliusstreicher 5y ago
Actually, it was over BEFORE she suggested it.
simplisticallysimple 5y ago
Honestly, I'd have ghosted her if she even brought it up. It shows that I had failed in screening for the right type of girl for commitment. I'd be too disappointed in myself to do anything, let alone mate-guard like a beta male.
Plating is good but hookups are better. In huge, high-density cities like LA/NY/SF/Seattle, even plating is too much trouble. Just pump and dump as required or if you must plate no more than 1-2 months, and move on.
Invalidity 5y ago
That's practical advice, but sometimes you just like to keep a piece longer than a one night stand. If the effort to plate isn't significant, it might be worth the trouble.
But if takes more effort than what its worth, then yeah, best to forget about it.
simplisticallysimple 5y ago
The longer you keep them around, the more they want your commitment and in my experience start to ration sex or demand something "in return" for sleeping with you continuously. Too much trouble for me at least
Invalidity 5y ago
All relationships must come to an end some way or another. When you state definitively that there will be no commitment on your end though, she'll either stick around or leave. If she leaves, there's no loss there as you were just getting what you needed from the interactions and nothing more.
Now if you're having to work to keep a plate... that's a different story. Plates should be minimal effort at best.
Self-honest 5y ago
Been there bro. There was no rape. She might have fucked two guys at once and let it get a little rough. He made the right call. "You know I don't date girls that go clubbing." Would have been a better way to phrase it. Then dump her if she does anything other than back down immediately.
albino_red_head 5y ago
rape might have been the excuse she needed to return home with bruises.
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Marijuana_Kid 5y ago
Okay so maybe I'm an asshole or cold but how is it fucked up? You have a BF, very easy to not get into these situations and remain with friends. Leaving with guy you just met? LOL fuck her
finclover9 5y ago
100% with you redpill analysis, well done mate. She definitely displayed poor judgement and lack of respect for him. He lost frame and thus lost her. However, let's be careful about condemning her for what she went through. Rape is a terrible thing to happen regardless of context and it makes TRP look very bad. In any case, her assault in itself is not really relevant to us. He lost frame before that and did the right thing after she betrayed his trust. Whether she was raped or not has no impact on her betrayal.
Tarkakabhai 5y ago
She was going to cheat no matter frame.The relationship was over.
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TheDevilsAdvokaat 5y ago
There was a post in another thread saying she's since been exposed as a liar and it was indeed not rape.
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StinkyDiaper 5y ago
Did she contact police and file a rape report? If not, I call BS on her story.
simplisticallysimple 5y ago
Are you saying that any woman who file a rape report with the police is not to be called BS on?
H42 5y ago
What girlfriend?
As soon as she stepped into the club, she was single, and so was he. She made her choice after being warned, "Told her if she went I’m breaking up with her"
Since he no longer had a GF, what's the big deal? He owes her nothing.
If she wants an emotional tampon, she can cry to the girl that went to the club with her.
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PerplexingPegasus_ 5y ago
OP isn’t obligated to, especially after her going behind his back.
Mikay55 5y ago
Yea the above comment doesn't even make sense. Make sure she has help as a friend then cut all ties? The ties were cut the moment she went behind his back.
You can be a decent person to those who deserve it. Yes it sucked what happened to her, but the OP has zero responsibility or reason to be there for her, especially when he warned her to begin with.
anderson916 5y ago
Not obligated to, correct, but you could be, idk, a decent person in someone's time of need?
Bomberdude333 5y ago
GF could have been a decent person and told OP that they where breaking up before stepping into the club instead of trying to cheat on him to invoke those cheating feelings which feel stronger for a female since her hamster will tell her she is doing something wrong. Everyone could be better but if I have learned anything from this sub to be true is that AWALT is hitting a very true note in life.
anderson916 5y ago
Maybe I'm just not insecure as all these other people commenting, but based off the story that we all read, I don't see anything about her going to the club with the intention of cheating. Some people just like to drink and dance.
BsainUolt 5y ago
So we went behind his back to the club and left with two guys because she “just likes to drink and dance”?
anderson916 5y ago
That's generally why people go to bars and clubs, yes. However, another user linked an article about the chick pleading guilty to lying about the rape, so I stand corrected.
Pilliam66 5y ago
Sure that's why they go to clubs. But they don't leave with two strangers of the opposite sex at 1am because "they like to dance".
SwoleyMoleyFrijoley 5y ago
Uh she lied and took a hot shit on their relationship and is upset about the consequences of her own actions. She lost the ability to have any needs met by him.
anderson916 5y ago
You may have that mentality, but I don't think it's her fault for being raped. I'm not saying OP should have continued dating her, but I'm agreeing with u/TheArabianPizzaGuy that he could have at least made sure she got help...
SwoleyMoleyFrijoley 5y ago
She lied about the rape. She deserves no sympathy. It didn't happen.
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SwoleyMoleyFrijoley 5y ago
https://nypost.com/2018/06/05/former-college-student-who-claimed-rape-admits-it-was-all-lies/
anderson916 5y ago
Ah, so there is proof. Thanks, I stand corrected
RedLegendx 5y ago
Lmfaoooo be a decent person in someone’s time of need?
SHE went behind his back to a club and left with 2 strangers probably trying to suck them off in the parking lot and shit went wrong and she got beat the fuck up.
What if it went the other way? In her mind he’d be a cheating pig who went out clubbing and wanted to fuck these two broads.
I rage at the beta responses I keep reading on here, Jesus Christ.
AmazingAstronaut 5y ago
If you want me to be a decent person you gotta act like one first. Lying and ignoring an entire discussion and its result doesn't sound something decent persons do.
empatheticapathetic 5y ago
They’re not friends. And her predicament is a direct result of her disobedience. How will she ever learn this life lesson that actions have consequences? Thankfully she wasn’t killed so she has a chance to reflect and learn on her poor judgement.
zyqkvx 5y ago
You are establishing yourself as a resource if you do that.
You might not be wrong depending how you did it, but by simply stating that you have the tells of someone who completely doesn't get it and that's how you came off. You vibed like you didn't get it.
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Zepode1 5y ago
The decent thing is to not cheat. She passed that prior to the alleged attack. OP was way more tolerant than I would have been. The moment I saw “I went to the club...” I would have texted “ok” and nexted her.
She wants hypergamy? Welcome to hypergamy.
juliusstreicher 5y ago
Wrong , at least in this situation. A. She has other friends...the WKs, her cunt friend she went to club with and B. She went to club to either fuck or branch swing which means BF was no longer her BF.
RedPilledRoaster 5y ago
Don't apply a moral standard to an amoral discussion
zyqkvx 5y ago
I don't know. If you want to rationalize it that way why not. The big problem I see is if he stayed with her she'd be the same person, but now also constantly sucking the life out of the boyfriend with this new rape thing. I don't see my purpose as a man to change the diapers of a shit bitch.
MrInternetDetective 5y ago
Phrasing it like this.....what is he even supposed to do if he stayed to help? He would be in a trustless, sexless, endless relationship until he broke her heart and had the same friends harass and emotionally shaming him. And it would still be all her fault, with none of the blame.
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Afghan_Whig 5y ago
So when she wanted to go to the club with her friend what was the proper approach for him?
juliusstreicher 5y ago
Next her. Her planning to go already means she's looking for new dick.
re4d3 5y ago
The more one reads these topics, the clearer it is that the only proper way to go was to slip young unspoiled females from father's control under husband's control and to take an extended family and village to keep it. More, when burdened with kids and household duties, they used their time and energy to something useful, like raising kids and keeping the home together. Without imposing natural duties onto them, they all default to whoring. Like someone told: run the engine at 5000 rpm with no load and burn it; burden it with useful work and it will serve well.
BewareTheOldMan 5y ago
"... the only proper way to go was to slip young, unspoiled females from father's control to under husband's control and to take an extended family and village to keep it."
That used to be the basic and acceptable format YEARS AGO and long before the 1960s Sexual Revolution, feminism, recreational drugs, and "free love" was a thing. The 1940s domestic marriage was good for women, but as a collective they decided against it and are much worse off for their decision.
"...[women] used their time and energy to something useful, like raising kids and keeping the home together."
These days you have women who consider marriage, childrearing, domestic duties/homemaking as "slavery." A while back I was in "discussion" with a hardcore, staunch, and over-the-top feminist who used that analogy...being married to a Good Man is slavery. Imagine that.
That - and if these women are looking "to settle," they usually show up dragging another man's kid(s) and are angry and frustrated when Good Men say "No thanks."
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
The guy did well here - he calmly said "I don't want you to go" and told her the consequences if she did. You can be stoic and set boundaries, which happened in this case.
Exactly. "I fucked up, how can I make this look like it wasn't my fault and have him not dump me? I know, rape".
OP - please don't accept this as fact just because she said so. Or because an image on 4chan says so. Some of this story may be true, but there's big questions over this part of it. Especially given her strong motive for lying in this case.
There is also the fact that (even if true as presented), she put herself in a very risky position. The guy in the story shouldn't have to bear the consequences of that, any more than I could go to a girlfriend and say "yeah, turns out when you try to cheat with someone's wife the husband sometimes shoots you... now look after me for the next 6 months while I recover after trying to cheat on you, and by the way this is going to involve a lot of crying and not much sex because I was shot in the balls, but you'll look after me won't you?"
He likely does, but he did the right thing. She got hurt (if she did indeed get hurt) trying to cheat on him. This isn't the basis on which you support someone.
PerplexingPegasus_ 5y ago
I definitely agree. I’m just looking with accordance of the story. I wanted to leave my personal speculation and just look at everything as presented.
Hyper_Sonik 5y ago
The way you analyzed this was perfect.
theaskingdude1337 5y ago
How to react if your gf tells you she wants to go to a party or go out for a ladies evening?
xTETSUOx 5y ago
“Nah, not my thing anymore since I got you. But if you want to dress slutty and grind on the dance floor in a club full of single dudes then that tells me that you want to be single. So.....bye!!”
Seriously, no matter what women say they go to bars and clubs to attract male attention. If you’re in a LTR and they bring up that topic, that’s a huge red flag that they see you as a beta. Shut that shit down or gtfo of that relationship.
anderson916 5y ago
Your long-term relationships must not be very long term if you tell your SO they're not allowed to have fun and do their own thing because of your own insecurities.
xTETSUOx 5y ago
So did you accidentally stumble into this sub and into this discussion or something? The OP was literally about a girl that went out to have fun and picked up two dudes (who knows whether she was rape or not but she went off with two guys).
Yeah... so people are totally insecure for absolutely no reason.
Oh and there's a million fun things to do without dressing scantily and go to places full of singles who are down to fuck.
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mywifeson 5y ago
Your gf wants to dress like a whore in a place full of single men while drunk off her ass on alcohol?
LOL UR SO INSECURE GET OVER IT LET HER HAVE FUN
anderson916 5y ago
My gf can dress however she wants, and doesn't dress like a whore on her own accord. Drunk off her ass on alcohol? What else are you gonna get drunk off of? I don't give a shit, I go get drunk on my own, too. And the relationship statuses of other people are of no business of mine. If you've got a girlfriend you're worried about cheating on you, that sounds like a personal problem.
mywifeson 5y ago
Homie it’s not about being worried about being cheated on. It’s about knowingly putting yourself in a position to get cheated on.
Maybe you can handle your alcohol but for most girls it will be “omg I don’t remember anything I was so blacked out it was a mistake”
You naive as shit if you think she gonna go to the club with her hoe friends and are absolutely sure nothing is going to happen to disrespect your relationship. If nothing happened it just means you didn’t find out LOL
anderson916 5y ago
Sorry you got hurt like that so bad that you've resorted to making blanket statements of woman-hating subs, man. Wish you the best.
mywifeson 5y ago
t. Overweight, nearly obese numale with patchy beard, glasses, clothes from target, and a Bernie 2020 bumper sticker on his Toyota Yaris
Why is every lefty feminist Redditor like this? You all act smug as shit and above anyone who does not share your brainwashed mindset LOL
You literally come here for cherry picked content to post on your neckbeard-hating subs in exchange for karma. Sad life, wish u the best bro
anderson916 5y ago
Gotta say, what you described probably isn't nearly as sad as thinking letting my gf be unsupervised for more than 30 minutes is "putting myself in a position to be cheated on" lol who even thinks like that? It's not the 1800s anymore
mywifeson 5y ago
It is nothing to be worried about if your gf also fits this description with the signature neon dyed hair
dulkemaru51 5y ago
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Straw\_man
Oh, and you will come around when you've tasted enough of other men's semen on your tongue from eating out your gf while she thinks about the hawt guys who ravaged her in the back alley after the club.
Even if people went to the club to "just dance", sex drive doesn't care. She's in an environment, intoxicated, where hundreds of intoxicated men are sniffing out weakness. She doesn't respect you if she goes clubbing with her gurlfrands. She is not immune to being picked up by a guy much better looking and with more solid game than you because of a label that you carry in your conscious awareness. I said respect, yet what is infinitely more important than having people's respect, is the fact that a woman who is not eager to please you and demonstrate to you how conventionally good she is, who doesn't respect you, is not attracted to you. So even if she wasn't cheating on you, which she is, she is not attracted to you, making you a provider and not a sex-worthy lover.
simplisticallysimple 5y ago
It means you fucked up already. If you screened properly, you'd pick a girl who's a quiet homebody, not a slutty validation seeker. It doesn't matter how you react now; she'll eventually falter, because she's fundamentally a whorish girl. Like a junkie who relapses eventually despite her best efforts to stay clean.
Look for another girl or better yet go MGTOW (no relationships, just P&D)
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Scenario B: She got pounded out by two dudes from the club and things got a little rough.
"I have to explain these bruises. I really regret doing this. Like... super seriously regret it. If I'm regretting it now though, then why did I ever do it? I mean, why would I do something that makes me feel bad later? I wouldn't, right? And I was pretty drunk. Omg... did I ever want this at all? No, I don't think I did. I think this means they took advantage of me. I think I was raped. I was definitely raped. Obviously."
22Luika 5y ago
Holy fucking shit.
Best hamster example i've ever read.
simplisticallysimple 5y ago
We laugh, but this is exactly how a woman thinks.
Edit: and usually their friends will add fuel to the fire, which pushes them over the edge and validates their hamstering.
a_turtle_on_fire 5y ago
Turns out it wasn't rape, and was just her regretting being a slut. In the process of hamstering her way out of it, she got the two males who had consensual sex with her kicked out of school. This woman literally lied under oath in a court of law, to try and get away with hypergamy. That is why hypergamy is dangerous. In the mind of a female it reigns supreme as their directive. Nothing else is absolute.
https://nypost.com/2018/06/05/former-college-student-who-claimed-rape-admits-it-was-all-lies/
Edit: Thanks for the gold, just trying to do my part in exposing the very real dangers of the female psych.
ncstaterepted 5y ago
To the top! Do we know this was her?
thetompain 5y ago
This is not the same person. One was at a club, the other a frat party.
ncstaterepted 5y ago
Ok.. Well at least now we know. Thanks
idgaf- 5y ago
Damn, those boys still kicked out of school. Sucks.
bipedalsentient 5y ago
Yup still ruined people's lives, all with lies...
Dehryll 5y ago
Never saw that one coming
/s
PerplexingPegasus_ 5y ago
Well look at this. She lied. This is why rape allegations are the ultimate destroyers of lives. Life’s jeopardized without fair trialing plus a lifetime of reputation damage.
KaKa42 5y ago
How can you tell its the same girl?
bountyhunterdjango 5y ago
It's not. Ironically, this is just something that fits his narrative.
KaKa42 5y ago
Oh yeah, but its claiming it is.
bountyhunterdjango 5y ago
Oh yeah I'm with you, fucking awful and dishonest.
RedLegendx 5y ago
I’m bout to throw my phone, been reading all the beta comments and raging at those then I read this lmao AWALT.
robbiss 5y ago
Thanks for news clipping....to get the other side of the story.
AmazingAstronaut 5y ago
This isn't even the same person lmao
WarViper1337 5y ago
"raped" also known as I got drunk with a guy(s) I have been flirting with behind your back and went out to have sex with them without you knowing about it. Turns it got wild and there is now some undeniable evidence (bruises, pics, video) that it happened but I am also fairly certain I have placed you into beta status and have control over you so you will mount your white steed (Volkswagen Jetta) and come rescue me the next morning.
i_bent_my_wookiee 5y ago
Now add to this the possibility (however slim), that she is just not telling the truth and she is feeling guilty for cheating.
eaazzy_13 5y ago
I don’t think the possibility is all that slim
ThePlague 5y ago
Yeah, she left with two dudes to go to "a party". That is pretty much what clubbing is for, to leave with someone or multiple people to go to a private place.
2comment 5y ago
He did the right thing.
I think some strategic mate guarding is fine as long as backed up by consequences, like it was here.
Ultimately she proved herself right: her body, her choice, her problem. Hope she enjoys independence.
sweetpotatoes95 5y ago
How would you handle this situation from the beginning instead of letting it escalate?
ZidaneLoire 5y ago
To me it's an open and shut case. She does whatever she wants and when cheating evidence is found, the relationship is over. There's nothing you can do to prevent someone who wants to cheat.
In fact, a woman isn't entitled to your affection. You can end for whatever reasons please you. If the fact that she leads a certain lifestyle bothers you, this is in itself reason enough to break up.
If there's anything I have learned is that you don't try to change a woman. You don't go to the store to buy an almost good tshirt and then change it at home to make it the way you want. You look for the tshirt you wanted in the first place.
Now we have a rape (allegedly), which is unfortunate, but she did leave with the guy. She wasn't going home after a night out of her friends to sleep and got caught in a dark alley. She followed some random dude. But he didn't break up with her because she was raped. He broke up with her because he doesn't agree with the lifestyle she leads. He wants a different kind of woman.
Afaik, the issue is done for him and the rest is up to the police.
He made the right call.
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forallmyfans2 5y ago
he doesnt feel bad because he is a sociopath
ThePlague 5y ago
Why should he feel bad? He warned her, he set a boundary, and she chose to ignore it despite him telling her that if she went they would be through. That something supposedly bad happened to her is irrelevant.
forallmyfans2 5y ago
Because someone you allegedly cared about only 20s prior has been through an ultra traumatic, violent experience.
I feel bad when I hear about people I don't know going through such things, let alone people I know personally and am close to or know well.
SwoleyMoleyFrijoley 5y ago
https://nypost.com/2018/06/05/former-college-student-who-claimed-rape-admits-it-was-all-lies/
forallmyfans2 5y ago
http://www.rcnky.com/articles/2018/07/11/ft-mitchell-man-gets-45-year-prison-sentence-rape-child-pornography
ThePlague 5y ago
If you even assume that her account is true. Remember, she lied to him about going. So, it's very possible this rape is likewise a lie. However, regardless, he clearly told her the consequences, and he delivered. Her supposed misfortune doesn't really figure into it.
forallmyfans2 5y ago
yeah saying you're not going to a night club is the same as lying about rape. totes on the same level.
ThePlague 5y ago
Pretty much, a lie is a lie. She left from a sleazy night club with two dudes to go to a "private party". She had her party, but then was worried she'd be caught. Hence, sob story and an attempt to get him to white knight for her.
She knew the consequences of her actions, whether anything bad actually happened or not.
forallmyfans2 5y ago
i mean you'd have to be truly fucking retarded to think all lies are equal.
like, if you're lying to cops about rape, thats fucking criminal. if you're lying to someone about having spare change for the bus, thats not.
ThePlague 5y ago
Both show a willingness to lie. The severity is a rather arbitrary distinction. But sure, believe her story if you want. It doesn't change anything as far as her ex bf is concerned.
forallmyfans2 5y ago
justl ike punching someone in the face and killing 50 people if the same thing, both show a willingness to commit violence so thus they are the same thing
you are dangerously stupid
ThePlague 5y ago
Willingness to commit violence is willingness to commit violence. The severity may differ, but they share that common trait. Her bf has no reason to believe that she was rape but, as I pointed out, that's irrelevant either way. She lied to him, knowing full well the consequences. He'd be a fool and a cuck if he gave her the attention she now craves when it's obvious that his feelings didn't matter to her.
newName543456 5y ago
It doesn't mean he's obligated to stay with her.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
He probably does or at least will after the initial rage of finding out that she went to go whore at the club settles. Doesn't mean that he has any obligation to be her shoulder to cry on for the coming time.
If she was raped, she should bring the matter to the police or alternatively some career-criminal relatives of hers, get a medical check-up, therapy and the full emotional support of her family and friends.
She knew that going to the club would hurt him. She did it anyway. Without the fucking god damned *intention of ever telling him. She was raped (i.e. railed by a couple of hawt guys and regretted it) and now demands her EX bf's emotional support after lying to him, breaking up with him (he set the ultimatum, she made the choice) and most likely cheating on him.
Imagine you cheat on your gf, get stabbed by her cuck husband, go back to your wife, tell her that you went to that ex gf's house you promised you wouldn't go to, got stabbed and now demand her emotional support or else she's a bad person and a cunt...
MuhRedPillAccount 5y ago
Not sure what else OP can do. Set a boundary, set a consequence, and then followed through. Relationship was already cooked. Her deciding to go clubbing without him looking for strange just confirmed it. Everything else is just noise.
halfback910 5y ago
I doubt she was raped. I would not, however, have given her picture to 4chan. That is a fate worse than rape.
The way this has blown up I guarantee they have already found her and are in the process of ruining her life.
AllahHatesFags 5y ago
OP did nothing wrong. He set very clear boundaries in the relationship, she crossed them, he broke up with her. Now his bitch-ex has to resort to making a false-rape accusation against the Chad from the club that she fucked in a desperate attempt to get back together with OP. He didn't fall for it so she flipped out and sicked all her white knights and bitch Facebook friends on him. I feel bad for OP, I feel bad for Chad because he might go to jail over a false accusation, I have no sympathy for this bitch.
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Clubs are degenerate places only designed for slutty women to have one night stands with a Chad. No women in a LTR or who is married should be in a club or club type environment.
There is nothing fun about clubbing except for the chance of getting laid. The music sucks, place is crowed and smells like too much perfume, no where to sit and have a decent conversation, drinks are fucking expensive. No one (man or women) just goes to a club to have fun...
idgaf- 5y ago
Yoo girl is already gone. Break up with her on the spot. Modern boys accepting so much disrespect and shit behavior.
Don't put the ball in her court. Instead, just break up. Abundance mentality. Girls still in the sleazy-clubbing-phase are not LTR worthy. Just take your turn.
RPLawyer 5y ago
"Don't put your hand in the fire"
"Ima strung imdepandant waman noo man telll meeee waaa to dooooo"
*puts hand in fire
"Omg dis is hurt so baaddd feel sorry 4 meeeeee"
"Told you bitch now get out"
" lik Oh mah gawd ur such a assholl ima tell all mah frienzzzzz"
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hatefulreason 5y ago
let her go to the club so you can demonstrate abundance and she comes home plowed and slowly drifting apart from you or don't let her go to the club and look like a bitch...hmmm...tough choice
what would an old school man do? definitely not let her go to the club, if she complains tell her to stfu and get back in the kitchen, any following argument being met with dread or nuclear option
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
The British have a distinction between "accident" wherein something bad happens beyond the control of the victim, and "misadventure" wherein the person willfully undertook a patently risky action and something bad happens.
This story makes my justice boner throb.
otakuzod 5y ago
Promise made, promise kept. A man is nothing if he cannot keep his word.
officerkondo 5y ago
If someone does something against my advice, I will not rescue them.
I had this happen with my last girlfriend. We had been seeing each other for about a month and we at some outdoor event. One of the bar tents was advertising their "signature drink" and she mentioned getting it. I read the ingredients and told her that it would taste like shit. She gets the drink anyway and guess what? It tasted like shit.
Then she asked me to go back to the bartender and exchange for a new drink. Fuck that noise. I made her get it herself. We dated for another 2.5 years and she'd mention it from time to time as an instance of me being a jerk. Ok.
Mofis 5y ago
Completely agree with the guy. Fuck women these days holy shit
HumanSockPuppet 5y ago
Whether or not someone deserves to be raped is a moral judgment, and we don't prescribe moral judgments at the Red Pill. Morality is the purvue of each individual man.
However, whether or not someone is likely to be raped is a matter of circumstances. If you dress a certain way, go to a certain location, socialize with certain people, behave in a certain manner, intimate certain implications, and isolate yourself, you cannot be surprised if certain events occur.
They call it "victim blaming". We call it "common sense" and "accountability".
PerplexingPegasus_ 5y ago
Risk averse and risk retention. She chose to go to the club and kept risk retention. Being risk averse , she would of understood why OP didn’t want her to go.
HumanSockPuppet 5y ago
Women are ill-suited for planning, because they are not evolved to extract their survival from a cold, indifferent environment that is based on rigid, unchanging rules.
Women are more prone to improvisation and misdirection because they evolved to extract their survival from men, and men can be persuaded, manipulated, and misled.
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SKRedPill 5y ago
Just to minimize the hate fallout, perhaps he should have given her a dose of comfort and then left.
Yourgonnagofarkid 5y ago
What could he have done differently?
PerplexingPegasus_ 5y ago
Others referred what could of been done in the thread.
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firegreen_leafred 5y ago
If he were to take her back, she would never respect him again
dahdoc 5y ago
Wait, is this thread satire, I still don't know
JuliusTestvola 5y ago
This is reddit - there is no irony here.
anderson916 5y ago
Man, this sub really does hate women, eh?
Theophagist 5y ago
Yes we hate women now go play honey.
anderson916 5y ago
I mean, at least you're honest about it
haveawingeboyz 5y ago
the way these losers carry on I wonder why they even bother with women ,turn gay u fag cunts
hombreliberado 5y ago
Love the analysis my dude. Pretty spot on. The only thing that threw me a little was the “mate guarding” right off the bat. I agree he got into it later, but initially he may have just not wanted to go.
I have never really mate guarded, in fact I think not mate guarding contributed to my divorce (thank God), but I think this begs the question, where do we draw the line between mate guarding, and “control your hoe?” We all know women like men with boundaries, and men hate being cucked, so where do we draw the distinction?
unplug9000 5y ago
When things were good she told him to fuck off and when things were bad she wanted his support. Where's the fucking dilemma here? What's there to be mixed about? I swear, people are so fucking gullible.
Voctr 5y ago
You guys know that this is an old copypasta right?
https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111210100259AALbKQF&guccounter=1
https://forum.grasscity.com/threads/gf-got-raped-now-ex-gf.1053043/
rshunter313 5y ago
I don't understand, if OPs GF is in a relationship, what are her justifications to get something from another e.g go to a speedy club and pick up another dude? Monkey branching seems far fetched but I don't understand how this contributes social/sexual validation.
brooks321 5y ago
Lmao yall bout weird as hell
mywifeson 5y ago
OP is based. Hope he grows from this incident.
It is sad I have come to believe whenever a girl has claimed to be raped, it really means she just had sex with someone and kind of regretted it after. “Rape” should be added to the list of red flags
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Hitlers_Gas_Bill 5y ago
Truer words have never been said.
TheaMoshofsky 5y ago
Full recommendation I would like to recommend to anyone suffering from breakup. dr_mack@ yahoo. com is a spell caster which you can rely on at any time. My boyfriend get back within 6 days. Great touch, great patience, and most importantly - it really works
VanityKings 5y ago
Let's see... Girl tells boyfriend she is going clubbing in a shady part of town, boyfriend is against it and warns her relationship was over if she went.
Girl says she won't go, lies and goes anyway, and then leaves the club with two men (of her own accord) and then calls (now ex) boyfriend at 4 am to say she "got beaten up and raped" by the two men SHE chose to leave the club at 4 AM with. Boyfriend immediately breaks up with her for her going to the club.
If you think she is the victim in this story, you are legitimately brain damaged.
The slut clearly wanted to cheat on her boyfriend and decided to cry rape when the two dudes wanted nothing else to do with her after they used her holes.
What a sad fucking society we live in that women are always allowed to play the victim card despite making such stupid choices of their own free will.
CrazyHorseInvincible 5y ago
This is a good article, but its use of the word "deserve" in two places crosses the line into discussing morality, which we don't do here.
I have to remove it, but I would like to see it this reworked so I can approve it.
/u/PerplexingPegasus_ ?
PerplexingPegasus_ 5y ago
Edits made.
TheRedPike 5y ago
Please be patient. CHI is busy but he should get around for a review eventually.
CrazyHorseInvincible 5y ago
Reapproved.
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Nov51605 5y ago
anytime one incurs consequences of something self inflicted, i usually say, "they didn't deserve it, but they def brought it on them self"
Meisner1 5y ago
Why deleted? I want to read it. Can someone PM it to me?
Demiurge_Decline 5y ago
Dont tickle alligators. He was 100%. Even if she was raped, she will need to be choked from here on out during sex. Op shouldve ghosted and never explained why to minimize the hamsters and white knights.
BIGPAR 5y ago
I've always tried to read this from TRP veiw point. Great post man
[deleted] 5y ago
I highly doubt she got beaten up. This girl is just insane. I wouldnt believe a word coming out of her cum filled mouth, and id still next the bitch.
Igottaknowthisplease 5y ago
"Sorry, you must have the wrong number. You're not my girlfriend."
"What, no, it's me!"
"Couldn't be. I had a discussion with MY girlfriend, and she promised she wasn't gonna go to that club. My girlfriend is at home where she said she was gonna be."
Click
Prophets_Prey 5y ago
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
deeselecter 5y ago
Me i would tell her to go to the cops faint some affection tell her she gonna be alright then do like I have said before . from my understanding there is nothing more dubious than a woman in tears.
MoorishGod 5y ago
That bitch didn't get beat up by those dudes unless she wanted them to do it. She wanted to get ran the fuck up in roughly by two dudes and felt remorse afterwards. I fucked a chick like this back in the day and left a carpet burn on her forehead! Hell, her boyfriend walked in on her riding my dick once. Without missing a beat she looks over her shoulder and tells him she'll call him later. She was some of the best pussy I've ever had the pleasure of fucking.
holyshocker 5y ago
She cheated with 2 Chad's at once and felt guilty. "Rape" sounds like a good cover up.
Edit. I posted this before reading comments about how she lied about rape. Idgaf about calling bs on rape.
BurnoutRS 5y ago
So long as youre aware enough of the potential consequences of an action to be able to make an informed decision on whether to perform that action, you should be allowed to do whatever you want.
The guy made it clear. "I dont want you going to this club" Id even add the "you can go if you want to but if you do then we're done". Make it abundantly clear. If she goes out anyways then its probably good riddance. If she isnt dreading you leaving her then it means she's reaching that point of "eh I can prolly find a better guy out there" which means trouble ahead unless you step your game up. If not now when she goes to the club, later when that coworker offers her a ride home, or the next day when the guy at the coffeeshop sits next to her
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Andgelyo 5y ago
Feel really bad for OPs ex, but OP sounds like he’ll be fine. He knows what to do.
Masoun 5y ago
What would the smart answer be if she mentions going clubbing?
tolerantman 5y ago
"Mate guarding" is a turn off huh?
Yeah, being a cuckold is the real turn on.
"Just go to night clubs with your friends, honey, have fun!"
S-Blaze 5y ago
"You will miss me" would have been my last words
Mind_ripper 5y ago
Would had done the same. Dumped a girl for throwing a remote at me once. Poor decision making leads to the unfortunate
simplisticallysimple 5y ago
OP is way too kind. I'd have laughed for a good ten seconds before hanging up on her.
juliusstreicher 5y ago
Alternative interpretation: She happily fucked the two dudes. Got into a fierce fight with other chick. Got her ass kicked, the two dudes were amused and laughed at her. OPs girl decided to go back to OP. No mention of police report.
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The only reason women go to clubs is to get male attention. Means she feels real secure you’re BB and she can explore other branches.
Time to NEXT her for even bringing it up.
“Sure, tell your next boyfriend I sent you. You’ll get a group discount.. bye”
stuub7 5y ago
who are we to say how this man should be feeling, if u cant trusta hoe and she does things that play with your insecurity its time to move on...
Sexquestionhelp22 5y ago
This is eerily similar to an experience I had. I was involved with a girl for about 3 months, although we weren't officially dating. She decides to go off to some club with her friends, I'm not really cool with it knowing her group of friends and the reputation of the club but I don't say anything. She ends up leaving with the DJ and he rapes her. She showed up to my apartment later that night apparently, left me several voicemails, but I wasn't there. I feel really bad for her and there is no excuse for rape, but she left the club one on one with some guy who was expecting sex. She put up some resistance and he wasn't having it. Terrible situation, but society needs to learn that rape is not a male problem, it is a cultural problem. We live in a hookup culture and if you're going back with some guy at 4am after giving all the signs that you're going to have sex, it's natural that he thinks that the encounter is going to conclude with sex. Some men fall into their baser instincts and make the mistake of a rape, but if you want to understand the rape problem you have to look at this situation as a whole. Before hookup culture, rape meant that a man cornered you off and had his way with you, generally forcefully. Now it is more common than ever because of the blurred lines.